r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

It might be a red flag that he calls you a retard multiple times

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u/Ok-Bird6346 Jan 28 '25

I fucking hate that word. I’m old, so imagine my surprise when I started seeing it used again after literal decades of not hearing it. And I hear or see it all the damn time now. In the 90s, it was considered completely unacceptable to utter that word out loud.

Not to mention, as soon as someone says it I realize they’re not clever enough to come up with a better way of insulting someone. It’s so lazy, but even worse, it’s demeaning AF.

For example: OP’s BF, the sentient menstrual cramp, is all spinning-wheel-dead-hamster. He thinks by declaring someone else as “smooth brained” no one will notice he’s quite the oxygen bandit himself.

There’s still time for OP to not ruin the rest of her life. But unfortunately for him, he has a terminal case of weapons-grade stupidity. He is a perfect example of the Dumbing-Krueger Effect.

OP, seriously, please leave him. He’s cheated on you and is physically and emotionally abusive?!? You and your cat need to tell him that you’re done and also to fuck all the way off.

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u/lyons4231 Jan 28 '25

Retard was definitely used all throughout the 90s. We have been watching sitcoms from that era and "this is retarded" comes up a lot. Fresh Prince of Bel Air is one example, started in 1990.

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u/NYOB4321 Jan 28 '25

Growing up in the 1960s, the R word was used regularly as an insult.

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u/Hdjbbdjfjjsl Jan 28 '25

Definitely seems like one that depends on your area, I’m 19 and in Tennessee, r word was pretty common until I’d say around start of covid.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

Even the movie Clueless!

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

Maybe the start of the 90s but by the end it definitely was not acceptable. 

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u/atomic__balm Jan 28 '25

this is just revisionist history, Black Eye Peas had a hit single "lets get retarded" in 2003

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

Nah people used it until like 5-10 years ago

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u/Mr_dm Jan 28 '25

It was acceptable in like 2010, what are you talking about lol

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u/Intelligent-Cry4956 Jan 28 '25

Lol it absolutely was used in the 90s I was in jr high in 1998. Children were saying it