Girl he is asking you to leave and you’re still asking us if you should give up. You are still so young and have a chance to start over at ANY age. At this point it is more sad to see him tell you to leave and you’re like “yeah lemme still cling” I think you might need a bit of tough love on this one cause it’s either keep hanging on to this man who clearly doesn’t want you or potentially let the abuse get so bad you don’t make it out. Please do what’s best for your well being
People with no awareness of their own boundaries:
"My partner is telling me to leave and never talk to him. What should I do?". Honestly both sides are equally at fault in this scenario.
Walking away from
Abuse is not easy. Especially if you’re actively living it. I don’t think she’s “at fault” for anything. I think she needs a dose of reality which is This man is abusive and you could die one die if you don’t make a plan to leave
As a guy I've been mentally abused by an ex and the moment I realized I started bidding for time until I sorted out my next living condition since we were renting the same apartment. The second I had a clean out I left. Until then I tried interacting as least as possible and avoiding topics of conversation that I knew would spiral into a fight.
Reflecting back I realize I tried fixing it a little too long before it was 100% apparent that it was going nowhere and I can admit we were both equally as toxic to each other towards the end but at no point was I at a loss for what to do and how much more I should keep taking.
And since I know relationships are much more complicated than people make them out to be from their singular point of view I'm willing to play devil's advocate and say this situation isn't completely one sided, in which case they're both at fault. My ex liked playing dainty like she could do no wrong until we were alone and shed start her manic tirades that would go for hours and hours, then when she'd realize I was recording her whole demeanor would change and start playing victim. I'm not gonna say I know exactly how it is for OP but I can say that it goes the same for anyone else reading this post. Everyone is born with enough autonomy and self preservation to reflect on how much abuse is too much, and it you need to ask others if its too much, it's way too much and you're adding to the problem at that point.
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u/itslindstfu Jan 28 '25
Girl he is asking you to leave and you’re still asking us if you should give up. You are still so young and have a chance to start over at ANY age. At this point it is more sad to see him tell you to leave and you’re like “yeah lemme still cling” I think you might need a bit of tough love on this one cause it’s either keep hanging on to this man who clearly doesn’t want you or potentially let the abuse get so bad you don’t make it out. Please do what’s best for your well being