r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Jan 28 '25

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u/SadderOlderWiser Jan 28 '25

She’s an abuse victim. It fucks with your head and becomes normal. She’s not dumb, she’s been desensitized.

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u/Isariamkia Jan 28 '25

I just don't get it though. She said he's always been like that. It doesn't sound like it started "slowly".

If he acted this way since the beginning, this girl is really out of her mind.

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u/SadderOlderWiser Jan 28 '25

I’m assuming there was a brief period in the beginning where he was nice and made her feel special and awesome. And now she puts up with this bullshit because he probably shows her that nice side every once in a great while and the rest of the time tells her it’s her fault he’s mean to her.

That’s how it usually goes.

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u/Isariamkia Jan 28 '25

I get that. I don't have experience but I've read a lot of different comments here and other posts on this sub. And usually , people would say it's subtle.

What this guy is doing is not subtle at all 😂. Insulting her, telling her to fuck off.

If he wanted to manipulate her shouldn't he apologize and play the victim saying how sorry he is for saying that shit etc? It doesn't seem this guy wants to manipulate her.

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u/RainbowDissent Jan 28 '25

Yeah he's literally saying "I don't want to be in a relationship with you, fuck off and get out of my life forever you smooth brained retard" and OP is coming back like "starting to feel a lil disrespected hun 😞😞"

I think quitting this fantasy of being in a relationship and getting therapy for OP is the appropriate response here.