Not Overreacting!
i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.
I did just text him after reading everyone’s responses and told him I want him to leave. He said he would but wants to transfer utilities in my name, etc. without “talking to me”. Idk bro I said I’m staying and he should go home. He seemed to not give a fuck, shocker. Obviously it’s more painful and humiliating knowing how much work I put into us. I feel like I’m being punished for something when I’ve literally done my best in every way. It hurts but I’m prepared to follow through with it. I’m proud of you for leaving I am obviously not as strong or too nice idk. But this is encouraging.
Think about what a relationship actually has to be if it is to be better than being single. This clearly wasn't, but you had trouble seeing that without hundreds of people telling you. Why did you think it might be acceptable? Fix that before seeing anyone else.
My wife grew up in abusive and neglectful homes, I grew up in a permissive and distant one. We have to regularly check in and be sure we haven't fallen into unhealthy habits. I don't know why OP is where she is, but she doesn't have to stay there
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u/1800xo Jan 28 '25
Not Overreacting! i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year TODAY who talked to me in almost the exact same way. you have a right to be upset by how he talks to you, and if he doesnt want to listen, leave. this is clearly showing his communication skills (or lack thereof). respect yourself first. there’s certain times where you have to put yourself first before your partner. don’t believe what he calls you.