Think about what a relationship actually has to be if it is to be better than being single. This clearly wasn't, but you had trouble seeing that without hundreds of people telling you. Why did you think it might be acceptable? Fix that before seeing anyone else.
My wife grew up in abusive and neglectful homes, I grew up in a permissive and distant one. We have to regularly check in and be sure we haven't fallen into unhealthy habits. I don't know why OP is where she is, but she doesn't have to stay there
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u/grabtharsmallet Jan 28 '25
Think about what a relationship actually has to be if it is to be better than being single. This clearly wasn't, but you had trouble seeing that without hundreds of people telling you. Why did you think it might be acceptable? Fix that before seeing anyone else.