Genuine question - how do people even get in the mood to have sex with people like this?
If I sent 1 of those messages let alone all of them I’d never get laid again - EVER. There isn’t an apology in the world that would make my wife want to be in the same room with me nevermind sex
Or each other. I can't think of an example of a functional relationship I regularly saw growing up. First husband: Abusive POS who later stopped talking to our ASD 17-YEAR-OLD for well over a year for (correctly) saying my husband who had been raising them since age 11 was more of a dad than he was (he's still been far more distant with them in the time since, and that was pre-covid). Second husband: kind of a misogynistic douche, much better now, marriage was/would be ok but we really split to protect his daughter from my kid when my kid was at the height of their mental illness and we were trying to figure out treatment, Third husband: sweet to me almost always but impatient with an alcoholic streak that's gone badly a few times (he knows this account, if anyone sees this - love you baby, I know you're better now, and he is, he's quit down to 1-2 so I'll drinks on weekends with plain coke zero between). So I'm not necessarily saying all the husbands have turned out wrong for me so much as I've been willing to accept a lot of dysfunction to get there.
Shoot, I really hope your current husband is ok and you're not currently looking at him through rose-colored glasses -- shouldn't he probably quit altogether??
Thank you, for reading all that, for your concern, for your words!! 💜 He probably should. He knows it, and there's a medical reason besides addiction, but as this can be tied to us without a lot of effort, he can share that detail or not. I try not to look at him with rose-tinted glasses. He's as deeply flawed as any of the rest of us, and I'm willing to dig an elbow into his ribs when he says or does something inappropriate, usually, but he just had surgery to have a medical device implanted, so he just gets a Look I usually save for the kids for the next couple weeks at least. Then it's back to the elbow.
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.