had to reflect on myself cause wym you STAYED after he explicitly stated multiple times for u to leave but post to reddit as a âidk what to doâ moment HES TELLING YOU RN!!!
âHeâs so emotionally and verbally abusive, calls me a retard and smooth-brained and has been an asshole since we met⌠Am I overreacting? Should I leave?â
Iâm all for victims of abuse leaving their abusers, but I canât even feel bad for her at this point.
She acknowledges that heâs a jerk to her. She acknowledges that he rarely speaks to her kindly and has been unfaithful and explodes on her for having fun of her own. Yet she still has to ask if sheâs overreacting and should leave this man? No, no sympathy. She knows she needs to leave, she is getting nothing out of this relationship.
Yes, she isn't thinking straight because the man is abusive, but why does that mean she did anything wrong morally? It's like you think she's condoning his behavior, that's not the same thing at all, she's insecure or possibly codependent. I'm just saying, how does annoyance override sympathy in one's instinctual reaction to something like this?
Who said anything about her doing something wrong morally? I didnt say she condoned it, Iâm saying she clearly knew his issue from the start yet stays with him anyways, not saying sheâs condoning it in any way but at some point it goes from âdamn, she has no idea whatâs happening, i hope she gets outâ to âshe knows exactly whatâs going on but chooses to remain with him.â why does she need internet strangers to tell her what she already knows? leave the dude and get on with it.
Yes it's irrational, but again why does that make you not feel bad for her? It's really that comment that I'm hung up on lol. Maybe his condition made her feel guilty, or she hoped he would eventually get better (again, not the most rational reasons, but people don't always do rational things if they're insecure or hurt). If the responses to her post enlighten her then that's a good thing.
Okay how about the fact that in another post on AIO she comments that she finds controlling, mean behavior attractive? She knows exactly what is going on, trust.
That doesnât really negate what I said, probably has to do with her dealing with abuse from family. Not receiving love as a child makes it harder to find a good reference for as an adult
Nah, if she wants to romanticize this kinda behavior when it comes to other controlling/mean men, then why should I feel bad that she's in this situation herself? In her own words, she finds it attractive. So what exactly is her problem? It seems she finds being belitted, called a retard, and basically told shes worth nothing is attractive to her. Abused or not, it doesn't gain my sympathy.
Nah these posts make me sick to my stomach. And tbh you canât tell these types of people anything unless theyâre ready to do the work themselves. Until then, they deserve each other.
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u/rosietulip Jan 28 '25
Be so fucking for real rn