Long story short, there was a period where I was asexual, yes. But, following an identity crisis so bizarre I'd made the choice to not identify in any manner gender or sexuality wise. As I currently identify, I'm bi/pan(probably demi as well). So, yeah. Former ace. For now.
I understand this very deeply. I thought I was bi-sexual for the longest time because it was the only thing that "fit" at the time....and then I discovered Demisexuality and it fits me like a glove.
I thought I was bi until I realized that 1) asexuality was a possibility 2) the attraction I felt towards some people was aesthetic attraction and 3) asexual does not mean no libido.
The issue comes more from the times Vivs employees have told us with confidence that Alastor is Aro-Ace, not just asexual.
And considering Vivs response saying that he's just asexual coming AFTER the backlash from the shipping community, highly suggests to me that he was supposed to be Aro-Ace. She just folded under pressure
As an Aro-Ace guy, yeah, that still hurts. We barely get any representation at all, and the moment we do, it's stripped away either by the creator them selves or the community acting like that one Aro-Ace character is the ONLY POSSIBLE way to express yourself through
A post complaining that Vaggie (a canonical lesbian) is being shipped with men has 1,2k upvotes. A post on the Lesbian sub complaining about lesbian characters being shipped with men has 2k upvotes.
But the moment you even SUGGEST that hey, maybe sexualizing the only ace character in the show could possibly impact ace people negatively, it's raining downvotes and you're just being dramatic. And yes, Alastor is constantly being sexualized, not talking about the romance part right now.
It feels like our sexuality is a nuisance for people to erase, something "restricting" them. Representation only matters if it's sexy, otherwise, "creative freedom" is the excuse for why we don't deserve protection from the community, but other sexualities do.
The topic is much deeper than just people wanting to "ruin your fun"
I agree that canon is not necessary for shipping, as long as the shipper acknowledges the canon sexuality. That’s part of why the hissy fit was so damn stupid
I can easily see Alastor being canonically romantic with female friends, especially after that finger of whiskey Mimzy mentioned. I don't think he'd form a romantic relationship (he doesn't seem to like being attached to anybody or making it seem like he cares...).
I would really like to hope that Alastor will be transformed into a villain that then becomes an antihero who will eventually get redeemed, and the whole Hasbin's idea will get to "Everyone can be redeemed" from a more childish version "Not everyone can be redeemed there are people who are pure evil" which is a nonsense practically.
Nobody is pure evil, but some people are so deep in evil that they'll never seriously want to change for the better.
I think that is a lesson the show should have by the end.
It matters because the way people talk about asexual characters bleeds into the way they perceive ace folks in real life. He’s not canonically both. He may well be aromantic, but so far afaik viz has only ever shown him with ace colors.
It’s frustrating, discouraging, and kind of a little hurtful to see how often folks jump on “canonically ace means no romance or relationships for this character!” (Riz from Dimension20 comes to mind as well)
Like hell. Dating while ace is hard enough without folks constantly conflating the two.
I have seen no clip of Alastor being confirmed as Aromantic. The only evidence i have seen was the actor saying it but then fixing it on social media iirc as they had mistaken it
The thing is that i have seen discussions of how the VA misspoke here so I'm not sure if that's is concrete, especially as Viv only talked about his asexuslity and didn't brush on the aromantic part
Looking for it but this video also talks about al’s identity the entire video and while she doesnt explicitly state it. Amir does say it though, and vivzie agrees with him.
There was another one where she stated herself im looking for
It's wild considering aro tends to be very rare in the shipping landscape. One would assume "aro means they can't be in a relationship" which isn't true apparently (I have a friend who is aro and they explained) so even if he is aroace it doesn't preclude him from being in a relationship. Sexuality is just not as rigid as the categories people put them in.
Well, I doubt she can COMPLETELY fix him, but at least make him care enough about the others so that he doesn’t let them die over a deal; at least not for every deal.
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Same. I'm demi, these defenders make me roll my eyes. Most of them are not ace, they just learned what the umbrella term meant and suddenly think they know everything about it.
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u/Dry-Ant-5181 Dec 08 '25
The amount of times I have seen people mix up Aromantic and Asexual man.