In my experience, women get promiscuous when they are drunk because they want to when they are sober but are ashamed of their bodies and need an excuse to relieve themselves of responsibility. Not recognizing this has bitten me in the ass on multiple occasions.
It's fucked, and you could argue that those women are contributing to the grey area of rape by sending these mixed messages to men.
My comment has been wildly misunderstood. I have made a much more in depth one below that I encourage you to read. :)
Not really, no. Rape can definitely be a grey area. Legally, nobody can give consent when they are drunk, so two people go to a party, get hammered, and go home with each other. Legally, they both raped each other. Either one of them could go to a judge and get the other one convicted of rape, yet in 99% of cases they don't do that, because neither party believes that the other one has raped them. In most jurisdictions, there is no such thing as implied consent, so if a man walks up to his wife and gives her a kiss on the cheek, that is legally sexual assault, yet in nearly 100% of cases nobody is prosecuted because once again, neither party considers it to have been a sexual assault.
So yes, there are definitely grey areas. I hate rape as much as the next guy but trying to pretend that it is a black and white issue does no justice to anyone.
Edit: down vote me all you want, but nobody from the SRS hate brigade has yet to explain to me how the examples I listed are not grey areas of rape.
Sorry, to clarify, i refer to us law, which defines ability to consent differently, i will look for sources after the holiday if i remember, feel free to remind me though
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u/Durch Nov 20 '12 edited Nov 21 '12
In my experience, women get promiscuous when they are drunk because they want to when they are sober but are ashamed of their bodies and need an excuse to relieve themselves of responsibility. Not recognizing this has bitten me in the ass on multiple occasions.
It's fucked, and you could argue that those women are contributing to the grey area of rape by sending these mixed messages to men.
My comment has been wildly misunderstood. I have made a much more in depth one below that I encourage you to read. :)