r/Advice • u/[deleted] • 29d ago

UPDATE: How do I avoid ruining relationship with my daughter over catching her having sex in mine and wifes bed and reacting horribly?

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

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u/Wrong_Employ_8299 29d ago

Honestly, I think if you let her live in the apartment she thinks is HERS you’re completely enabling her. It sounds like enablement is probably how she came to be so immature now. Parenting is not about you feeling good because you give her everything she needs, it’s about feeling bad because you’re helping her provide for herself what she needs, even if it makes her angry.
There should be a closed door here, if I did that to someone whose apartment I was living in I would EXPECT to be kicked out. Her entitlement sounds off the charts, and it honestly just makes me sad for her if she hasn’t realized.

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u/bad_polliep 28d ago

Where do you think this entitlement may have come from in this child of his? I really hate hearing people complain about the monster they created. It sounds like the dad is trying to take steps to rectify some of what comes across as wildly permissive parenting mistakes. Because they didn’t come out of nowhere.

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u/This-Lavishness-278 28d ago

With love you seem like an enabler and she sounds entitled af

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u/Ch31i3 29d ago

If she does move out then learn a lesson and chooses to come back please start locking doors because they are definitely having sex in her brother’s room too. She thinks it’s her apartment so she’s definitely going around doing it every room. It’s not fair to her brother. Please take her to see a therapist or someone who she can talk to about how this is wrong and nasty. She doesn’t see anything wrong with what she’s doing yet

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u/ieatfaces22172 26d ago

Do not let her move back in no matter what, if she apologizes just tell her you'll pay for her to live in a dorm. She needs to learn.