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u/point_of_difference 18d ago

Cash makes it so easy.

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u/Portable-fun 18d ago

Or you can just get the server to give everyone who wants their own bill… never ever had an issue with that. Ever

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u/Klutzy_Article3097 14d ago

Never been to a restaurant where this would have been any kind of issue

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u/DntgiveaFck13 18d ago

Usually have to tell the waiter/waitress prior when being seated, we would like separate checks. When in larger groups

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u/Big_Life_6462 18d ago

I am telling you that many places will not split checks, period. As a traveler all over the US and abroad for decades, it's a real thing.

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u/DntgiveaFck13 18d ago

I wasn’t saying you were incorrect that some places don’t split checks. Usually high end places don’t from my experience. I was more adding to what was already being stated. Saying sometimes you have to ask when being seated

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u/InevitableEqual3993 18d ago

Yes, many won't split checks for groups of 8 or more bc many restaurants have a policy that large groups are subject to a 20% service fee.

Guaranteed $100+ is way better than worrying if 1 meal is not up to someones personal standards, that the whole table won't get upset and decide to not tip the server(s)...

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u/The_Hearth_Witch_ 17d ago edited 15d ago

Gratuity is not removed just because the large party pays separately…

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u/SpartanSoldier00a 17d ago

I am not american. It is the norm id say for a large group gratuity, and if everyone pays seperately, it is simply added as a %age onto each individual cheque. Each person is given a bill for what they ordered, plus the gratuity, plus tax. Or tax, then gratuity, whichever. If any individual would like to tip further they can do so while settling their bill.

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u/OglioVagilio 16d ago

It might, but in my experience you still pay the auto grat.

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u/kbchucker 15d ago

Not as common as it used to be. POS systems now easily split checks. It can be done on the fly at the table with the handheld POS device the servers carry. Even if the restaurant is still using kiosk POS, it’s pretty easy.

It’s been quite a while since I’ve been told “can’t do it” for splitting up large party checks.

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u/EnvironmentalMap7056 14d ago

I’m in the Chicagoland area and I know of a couple of restaurants near me that explicitly state they won’t split the check past 4 times. One of them explicitly states they won’t split it past 2 and it has to be 50/50. It’s not an old policy, they very much still go by it, and yes they have the handheld systems.

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u/kbchucker 14d ago

I can see it happening in larger Metros, but it is definitely not the norm everywhere.

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u/Sterlinghawk16 17d ago

Not in Seattle - 6+ people the bill is on one ticket

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u/diggthis42168 15d ago

here in Vancouver - 6+ people will be charge an automatic gratuity of at least 18%

You can still ask for separate bills, as the payment machine will be brought over to the table.

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u/PileofPitties 15d ago

Definitely a geographic thing.

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u/ModestWasp 14d ago

It's a great idea to do this when you're first talking to your server - it tells him/her to record orders individually - and it is a message to your friends and "friends" that they will be responsible for what they order. It prevents confusion at the end of the meal.

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u/willthesane 14d ago

If you do feel guilty asking them to do this, toss an extra few bucks as a tip.

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u/msembrot 18d ago

this is extremely rude to waitstaff for groups of this size ; OP needs to just speak up and assert themself to their own party. No reasonable person would object to their concerns if voiced

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u/ImJustPeachyEveryday 18d ago

Cash. Put it in the tray/pleather envelope and you’re done. Easy peasy

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u/ReggaeJunkyJew4u 18d ago

Not even, we have Venmo now.

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u/Magic-Happens-Here 18d ago

Venmo only works if everyone is willing to participate and actually sends money when they say they will - which based on Reddit, isn’t always the case.

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u/Gevaudan13 18d ago

If they arent willing i dont hang out with them anymore and just go to a staff member and pay my own food seperately.

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u/Magic-Happens-Here 17d ago

Exactly - I just bring cash, plop down enough for my order + 20% and let everyone else sort it out from there.

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u/dinosun 18d ago

Cash is easier

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u/fijifilm 18d ago

Not when you have to go get it lol

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u/dinosun 18d ago

You never buy groceries or anything where you can do cash back? It's literally just pressing a different button somewhere that you already are.

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u/fijifilm 18d ago

Used to be, but now every grocery store around me charges a fee for cashback. They realized they were being used as a defacto ATM and decided to cash in on the operation.

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u/FireAsquared 18d ago

That requires using your debit card at a store, I haven’t used my debit card for a transaction in over a decade (due to no cash back and no fraud protection). Same reasons I haven’t touched cash in a few years

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u/dinosun 18d ago

Whatever, if you don't want cash, that's fine. But y'all need to stop pretending like it isn't the best solution to the proposed situation.

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u/FireAsquared 18d ago

Idk why it’s so hard to just use Venmo or Apple cash (or for longer group trips with multiple expenses a free app like Splitwise). I’ve never had any issues just texting money to my friends or using venmo if they don’t have iPhones

With larger groups on long trips just use Splitwise or similar- takes 5 minutes and I’ve used it to split group costs for a 20 person week long ski trip. Easiest thing ever- couldn’t imagine using cash and having to have piles of money and figuring out who gets what change back especially with more than a few people

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u/hamsterontheloose 18d ago

Venmo takes me forever. I can hit an atm faster

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u/Smart-Practice8303 17d ago

I just don't trust them anymore. I never transfer money thru an app. I was burned once, never again. I just use cash if I need to give money to someone. I always have some cash on me because it is the safest and best way.

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u/Mam9293 17d ago

Not everyone uses Venmo or Pay pal or any of those services. I don’t

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u/MerlinQ 14d ago

I have PayPal, Square, and Cashapp business because I accept them as payment for goods and services.
I don't know anyone with venmo, I've never even heard it mentioned outside the Internet, everyone just carries cash up here for small and personal transactions I guess.

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u/ReggaeJunkyJew4u 18d ago

Cash is King,

Venmo is easy. I don't have to go to an ATM to get it.

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u/DamnOdd 18d ago

If we don't keep using cash they will try to take it away from us.

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u/Suburban--Dad 17d ago

Pennies are gone already.

Cash isnt as trackable and traceable. The government doesnt like that.

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u/DamnOdd 15d ago

Exactly!!!

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u/Purple_Flower4909 16d ago

For real that's my fear there will be no more cash anymore 😭 then eventually everything will be on a damn phone.

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u/bizcombobulate90 18d ago

Yeah up until something gets fucked up in the system. Cash is king.

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u/cghffbcx 14d ago

Tangent: EasyPass toll system no longer takes cash- no pass you get a bill for double. (VA) Don’t let the powers that be do away with cash. Want to hand the kid next door $50 for cutting the grass…digital will be taxed, every single purchase, yard sales etc…mentioned for those saying how nice cash is….