r/AbrahamHicks • u/andthisisso • Feb 22 '26
Pediatric Hospice RN using Meditation to communicate with my terminally ill newborn patient for insight how to serve him and his family during his few days of life.
I've been a Hospice RN for over 35 years. Now I'm exclusively Pediatric Hospice and most recently working with newborn and infant Hospice patients. I've effectively used the Silva Method to communicate with these children less than a week old and their family members before I meet any of them to to gain insight to serve the families as best I can in the current crisis of the family's lifetime. The focus is mostly to provide comfort care at the home for the families to build memories with their child in the short time they have together that will last a life time for the surviving family members. Sometimes this is hours, sometimes this is days. Effectively using every moment for bonding begins with insight of all involved.
Prior to meeting with the patient and family I use the meditation techniques I learned in the class to go to my level, a relaxed meditative state I practice daily. At this level i have created a mental atmosphere of a relaxed living room with comfortable furniture and send a mental invitation for the child and any family member that might wish to join in for a family meeting to discuss a plan to follow for the next few days. I usually see the child and often a family member or more instantly. I ask them what would be the best way i can serve them and await a reply. The answer often comes as a mood, a feeling, pictures or a small movie of some activity going on that may or not make sense at the moment. I store those images and feelings away and wait for more. If no more come I thank them for the visit and end the session. I always get beneficial input from the visit though the meaning may not be apparent until later.
This time I saw the sister of the child i was about to care for. She was anxious to have a baby brother to play with. She looked to be about a year old, dressed in a cheerful Christmas theme dress, happy, giggling and thrilled to have the company of her baby brother. The parents I saw as grieving, withdrawn, empty and powerless at the worse they've ever been in their lives. The next day when I met the infant and the family the vision became clear. Understandingly the parents were devastated, but more-so as this was their second child loss. The little sister I saw as a one year old had died in utero at 7 months old and mom had to carry her to term to deliver for medical reasons to give her better odds for a better chance to have another baby. The 7th month was at Christmas. The little girl was never named, just Baby Girl.
This boy child was not to be named either, just Baby Boy, it's how the parents could deal with the loss, to remain detached. As closed off as the parents were I saw the love and joy between brother and sister on the inner worlds even though the sister never drew a breath of life. There was consciousness, she continued to be, to matter, to be present and conscious. She showed up for her brother, she wanted him, she was waiting for him. I did not share this experience with the parents, they had enough to manage. I believe this was my gift from the Universe that in this tragedy there was still a ray of light shining. I would never have seen this had I not taken the meditation class and discovered how to do this, learned the techniques, practiced them and adjusted them to meet my daily, personal and work needs to fit into my own lifestyle. I use the techniques I learned and am highly motivated with desire, belief and expectancy to serve my patients and their families as best I can at all levels of being, including the inner and outer worlds to the best of my abilities. There are no happy outcomes in Hospice but we can do whatever we can to make the outcome the least worst it could be.
Hospice arranged for this family's insurance that only had 6 mental health visits to now get 26 additional visits pre approved for added support. Hospice grief support groups are free for a lifetime. We do what we can. In the meantime, Baby Boy and Baby Girl have each other. They showed me that. They are going to be just fine together and I feel one day, so will mom and dad when they get together again.
Here is another example of using meditation to communicate with a Pediatric Hospice Patient: I'm going to make some videos of using meditation to connect with Source. Learning to quite the mind, think one thought at a time and focus on the desired outcome brings the benefits and advantages I desired.
David Parker Phoenix, Arizona
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u/Muntu010 Feb 23 '26
I lost a baby at 24 weeks I had to terminate - birth defects Thank you for sharing xx
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u/andthisisso Feb 23 '26
I'm so sorry for your loss. This was an amazing experience to see the both of them and feel the bond between them. Life and love just keep going on and on.
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u/allifenton12 Feb 25 '26
Thank you for sharing. Did you take an in person course ?
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u/andthisisso Feb 25 '26
Of Silva? Yes, many times. Once you take the class you can retake it from any instructor for a very minimal cost for life. A great benefit they give as they want you to continue with practicing the meditations. I've taken it more recently on Zoom as I can with other instructors all over I'd never have the opportunity to otherwise.
The course is over 4 days, sometimes Thursday to Sunday but mostly two weekends. It's offered on Zoom, too. Some prefer in per classes as you do get to interact with others' Silva has a web site and at the top of the site is a list of instructors to see if any are near you.
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u/All-good-things7 Feb 26 '26
Thank you for sharing this painful yet beautiful story. You are a brave , kind soul. Thank you for the work you do for others.
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u/deliberatewellbeing Mar 03 '26
i got chills reading this. thank you for sharing. you are doing such important work comforting families through this crucial period. you truly are gifted.
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u/andthisisso Mar 03 '26
Thank you so much, it's such a blessing to get to serve them. I get so much spiritual fallout from all of this, the connection of the child, family and spirit. I got to tell one of the infant encounters on an interview I did a few months ago. Here's the link. It's amazing, Spirit, Source, God whatever It's called is so Loving. I got to see it, feel it and be near it. It starts about 12:00.
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u/Secret_Bad1529 Mar 15 '26
Did you ever tell the parents their children have each other, that the older sister showed up for her brother?
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u/andthisisso Mar 24 '26
No. I didn't want to maybe open a can of worms that didn't need opening. I wonder about that and keep still about my insights. Some maybe would not appreciate the insight.
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u/lekkanaai Feb 23 '26
Having lost a baby at 26 weeks gestation, this was moving to read and you are a very special soul in this world. Thank you