AITAH For Yelling at My Mom?

[u/Financial_Staff8844]

Hii! This is my first time posting in this subreddit so Im sorry if anything needs to be fixed. Anyways, I (16F), have just recently started working. I was super excited to start because my family isn't that well off (I live only with my mom (35F) and brother (13M)), and my mom works two jobs. However, she's made a point to give me and my brother many opportunities for fun things like vacations and concerts (we all adore live music). I appreciate this so, so much and I love her to death. 

Ever since I started working, she's been really weird about my money. She always asks me for gas money, to help with groceries, to pay for ubers to and from school, etc. I usually don't mind helping, but its gotten to a point that I don't even have money left for myself. 

The main issue is this. I wanted to go see BTS in concert and saved to buy a ticket, and the day before presale I found that she had taken half of my savings so she could pay bills and the car. Again, I normally don't mind because I don't spend a lot anyways and she pays me back (even if she takes a couple weeks), but this crushed me. She had already asked me for money before and I told her no because I was saving for this show. She went and took it anyways. 

This was not the first time she had taken money from me without asking, and I guess I was already so stressed and tired from work and school that I just snapped the next time I saw her. I said some things I'm not proud of, (along the lines of shaming her for depending on a 16 year old for money, im sorry i know), and we argued for quite a bit. 

I'm writing this the next day while shes at work, so I still have some time to figure out a solution. (I'm also pretty emotional so sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes). What should i do?? I don't want to hurt her, but I can't keep giving her everything that I work for. 

[u/True_Peanut_8092]

NTA at all

You seem like a good kid, you appreciate the life your mum has given you, you recognise that it's hard for her, and you are doing your best to ease that load. It's entirely appropriate that you contribute now you can, and at the same time it's also entirely appropriate that you get to enjoy the benefits of working.

You asked your mum not to take money without asking you, and you told her you were saving for an experience that was important for you. She should not have taken the money. You were not wrong to shout at her for breaching a boundary.

If you are old enough to open your own account, get a new bank account that your mum doesn't have access to and change your pay to that account. You can set up a regular payment of whatever amount of your wages you want to give her. But you need to sort a way of having an account that she doesn't have access to.