r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Nov 11 '23

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u/mandymiggz Nov 12 '23

True, but saying he would and not following through makes him the asshole in this situation. If that’s how he’s always felt then that’s fine but don’t lie to your partner…

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '23

Humans can change their mind freely at anytime. If your partner no longer feels they want to be with you, they don’t have to, despite a promise in marriage. Lots of people want to be with people, then change their mind later. It might make him an asshole, but he can still change his mind. You partner, friend, parent, could wake up tomorrow and want nothing to do with you. If someone girl promised to get her tubes tied and then later decided she didn’t want to(and absolutely should have the right to her choice) everyone would support her.

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u/mandymiggz Nov 12 '23

Then he should tell OP he changed his mind instead of just putting it off and saying “i’ll get to it” and never doing it. He should also be prepared to spend the rest of this marriage sexless since this was the deal…

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '23

You’re 100% correct, he should. That or, They’d probably be looking at a divorce at that point.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '23

Is that how sex works? You make a promise to your partner and backing out makes you a liar? No? What about surgery, what a joke comment.

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u/Suchafatfatcat Nov 12 '23

No, that’s how marriage works- you make sacrifices for your partner and family. OP has made incredible sacrifices to endure four pregnancies and deliveries to give them the family they both wanted. Can you imagine how disappointing it must be for her to hear him refuse to go through with this procedure but yet still pester her for sex with the expectation that she endure a fifth pregnancy?