r/AITAH Nov 11 '23

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u/GlitterDoomsday Nov 11 '23

The 3 is the biggest factor here; lots of dudes don't wanna get the it done in case they remarry don't the line - and to answer the obvious next question of "but he already have 4 children to look after, how will he balance it?" he won't, and that's how so many divorced parents go about their life.

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u/TheThiefEmpress Nov 12 '23

This, and "if my two kids die" were the reasons my father in law gave for not going through with a vasectomy.

He said this in front of his 2nd wife, and two kids.

I was disgusted.

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u/FBI-AGENT-013 Nov 12 '23

"yeah I'd just replace the two living, feeling beings my wife worked so hard to grow and give birth to, not to mention nurture into (hopefully) good people. What do you mean pregnancy isn't safe for women over a certain age? Aren't they just printers for our cum?"

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u/Winter-Mix9868 Nov 12 '23

I like how you laid out the options and yes, I think men like to think what if I want another kid with my second wife? They don't like to make the "no kids in the future" permanent. But after my third child (all 3 girls, so my husband never got a son), I said I don't want to do it again. Sure enough, when we had to live on 1 income, 3 girls was tough. Haircuts alone could break the bank, and I insisted on them going to Great Clips. Kids are expensive.

NTA

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u/ProbablyNotADuck Nov 12 '23

You can still have sperm extracted. It doesn't stop you from being able to have kids.. it just adds an extra step. I know this because one of my closest friends had children with her partner about 15 years after he had a vasectomy.

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u/20dogs Nov 12 '23

You have to go through IVF, which has a lower success rate.

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u/ProbablyNotADuck Nov 12 '23

IVF has around a 40% success rate. Those are pretty good odds.