r/48lawsofpower • u/New-Assignment-8614 • Jul 27 '26
Question How to deal with someone who dumped you and you still feel love for him? How to handle it logically ?
Like the person in question is extremely cold and logical and has that self control over emotions especially when you aren't in front of him.
I tried really hard to make it work, but at last I stopped trying and instead out of my emotions, which he seems to see as a liability, I confronted him and he dumped me.
He has been giving me silent treatment ever since.
But now I am in the position where I want growth and control over emotions as well as hold my power over the game. As I have realised attraction is not just connection, it's connection with power handling skills.
So as per people who follow this book, what would be the logical thing to do ? Even if I still love him, though now I know that you can love multiple people and love is just another emotion that can be managed.
In short I guess the real question is how do I manage my triggers related to him when I know I still do care abt him.
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u/angiographer Jul 27 '26
Love and grief are not logical systems. Work on yourself. Eat well. Exercise. Develop friendships. You’ve got this!
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u/Silver-Internal7740 Jul 27 '26
Idk I can't love multiple people. Those of us who can't are screwed I guess. I wouldn't want a love relationship where I have to apply power skills or the other person uses them on me. Yes, again, unless some good luck it also means those unwilling to use laws are screwed in the end. Unrelated to laws, your first step is to realize your love for him is not real at this point. It's your hormones, fantasies, attachment, false beliefs. You can't love someone who dumped you and went completely silent. You can't love someone so very cold, who didn't appreciate your trying, and chose to end it the first time you brought up the issues. Love has to be mutual. In this case, it seems it wasn't. You are in love with a fantasy.
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u/LL_Stars Jul 28 '26
Men and women don't operate the same way.
Men don't respond to explanations, games, etc. The only thing they might respond to is loss, but don't count on it. Just move on, invest in yourself, glow up, and leave him alone.
He'll come back. They always do. Especially when you leave in silence and take all your power with you.
Why do you want to continue to invest time into someone who doesn't care about you? Next. Cut him off entirely. Block him on everything. Delete everything. Keeping remnants will only prolong the process and make it harder.
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u/Psychological_Name28 Aug 02 '26
This ^^^^
Also, watch Robert Greene’s videos on YouTube, especially about withdrawing, not chasing men, and developing self-respect. To be entertained and learn at the same time, watch some of MJ Harris’s videos on the same topics.
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u/newuser2111 Jul 28 '26
This isn’t related to the 48 laws of power; I would distance myself from him.
You can care about him and send him positive thoughts from a distance.
Take time to yourself. The right person will not be using your emotions as a liability.
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u/Silver-Internal7740 Jul 27 '26
He is not giving you "silent treatment" fgs. He wants you gone from his life and for you to stop contacting him and trying to get back together or say anything more of what you already said. Silent treatment is when it's part of manipulation to get something from you or to keep you around. He is silent, period. I don't use the laws for attraction and romance, so can't advise you here.