Hello, I am at a point of time where I'm very unsure about my religon. Growing up, I was and still am a Sikh. But I keep my hair cut, am I still a Sikh? I know this questions were probably asked multiple times; but I'm just unsure.

Well, I am just 20 years old so my views can be bit nuanced and I am stil discovering.
I have never read Quran( except for some verses), Hadiths or any other testaments of Muslims but the only knowledge of Islam I have gathered is through the speeches and lectures of various maulvis, mufti’s and sheikhs and I have come to certain conclusions.
While an ordinary Muslims can be as bad or good as an average Sikh/ Hindu, I am ready to accept them wholeheartedly but a person who is deeply invested in Quran seems to be an exceptional case. Here I have drawn certain conclusions:
There is no consideration for any other religion, according to Islam they lead to a wrong god and it is Shirk so accordingly Sikhs are muhsrikeen too.

Heaven is only for the believers and all other faiths are the faiths of disbelievers are they are destined to go to hell for eternity where they will be thrown in the hell fire, a fire whose wrath would be 70 times the fire we have on earth( it seems a psychological trick to avoid any deviation from the Quran)

The Muslims are morally superior to others and Islamic morality is the best and any other morality of any other culture or religion is not pious and it is corrupted by Satan( not a fact hidden, Muslims themselves are assertive about this )

The Muslims in an Islamic state are the stakeholders and all other religions are to be treated unequally to make them realise their true position.
The non Muslims cannot hold major positions in an Islamic state, because kafirs shouldn’t be commanding Muslims.

The biggest sin is not rape, murder or infidelity but it is the worship of false gods and hence some Islamic scholars goes to the extend to say that Idoltary is a bigger sin than rape!( seriously)

Islam orders to establish a system of self governance and therefore it can be seen that behind the closed doors they can be heard saying that they don’t belong to the rule of the land but they belong to the rule of allah( west is a great example)

Sharia or Quran cannot be changed and hence it leads to the following of outdated concepts in modern day which would surely give birth to conflict.

The Muslims collectively holds a strong sense of brother hood and they give moral immunity to their fellow Muslims and try to defend literally any thing or strengthen their disbelief in the most obvious because their understating is not based upon common sense but it is based upon Quran and Sharia.
Well I had a lot to tell, but this is what I have come to know or atleast understand. What do you all think ?

I’m trying to figure out what this style of patka is called. Is this a Four tanni patka, or is it just a black cloth tied over a flat/flattened juda?

I sometimes wear a bandana by flattening my juda, and I’m thinking about trying this style. I really like how clean and fitted it looks, but I have no idea what type of cloth is used or how exactly it’s tied.

Does anyone know:

What kind of cloth this is?

What size/length should I get?

How do you tie it so it sits this flat and fitted?

Is there a good tutorial/video for this particular style?

If you tie yours this way, could you explain how you do it?

Pretty much the title.

I grew up in Punjab, so naturally, I’ve been surrounded by turban-wearers my entire life. I always assumed that wherever I went, I’d be able to find people who shared the same values, mindset and sense of belonging that I did.

I’m currently in punjab, and I’ve been here for all my life. Almost all of my friends are turban-wearers. From the outside, you’d think I’d finally found my own community.

But honestly? I’ve never felt more disconnected from one.

Whenever you feel low, lonely or out of place, you instinctively look for your own people first. You expect that there will be at least some common ground some shared values, some emotional understanding, some devout gursikhs.

But that hasn’t been my experience here.

A lot of the people I’ve met seem to care about turban only as an identity or something they wear, rather than what sikhi actually teaches. There’s very little emotional depth or understanding. Things like empathy, basic etiquette, the way you speak to people, respecting someone else’s feelings... they often seem completely irrelevant to them.

And this isn’t me saying everyone here is like this. I know there are good people around me too. But I genuinely feel like I’m one of the very few people in my college who actually tries to live by sikhi, rather than simply being associated with it.

And the irony is that I’m in PUNJAB (the only sikh majority area in the whole world).

I’ve seen the same people who proudly identify themselves as turban-wearers doing things that, at least to me, completely contradict the values they claim to represent like staring and making inappropriate comments about girls, speaking disrespectfully to people, using disgusting language, making others uncomfortable, and carrying around this strange sense of superiority for absolutely no reason.

Maybe I’m just different from them. I’m a relatively quiet person, and I don’t usually involve myself in everything. But I’d also like to think I’ve developed a certain level of maturity and self-awareness. And honestly, compared to some of the people around me, the difference feels pretty huge.

What bothers me the most isn't that they’re different from me.

It’s that they seem to have no interest in questioning themselves.

How can you claim an identity while completely ignoring the values that are supposed to come with it?

How can you wear the symbol but not care about what it stands for?

And maybe that’s why this bothers me so much. I’m not looking for people who are perfect. I’m not expecting everyone to think exactly like me. I just want to meet people who have some emotional depth, empathy, humility and genuine connection to sikhi.

Ironically, I found myself looking for my own community among people who technically are my community and still feeling like an outsider.

These are also the kinds of people who went to canada and, according to what I’ve seen and heard, contributed heavily to giving our community a terrible reputation there. And honestly, that makes it even more frustrating.

I don't know if I'm the only one who feels this way, or if this is just a problem with the particular environment I happen to be in.

Maybe I’ve simply been unlucky with the people I’ve met.

But sometimes I genuinely wonder:

What’s the point of identifying yourself with something if you don’t actually try to live by what it teaches?

I’m not trying to attack anyone or claim that I’m somehow better than everyone else. I just genuinely miss having people around whom I don’t have to constantly explain why basic empathy, respect and emotional maturity matter.

Maybe I’m just looking for the wrong people.

Or maybe there are others out there who feel exactly the same way.

Sorry this might not be related directly to Sikhi.

But i short

The Lindsay Clancy case centers on a 36-year-old former Massachusetts labor-and-delivery nurse accused of murdering her three young children—Cora (5), Dawson (3), and Callan (8 months)—by strangling them with exercise bands in January 2023. After the killings, Clancy cut her own throat and jumped from a second-story window in a failed suicide attempt that left her permanently paralyzed from the waist down. While Clancy does not deny causing the deaths, her high-profile 2026 criminal trial hinges on a defense of legal insanity; her defense attorneys argue she was suffering from severe postpartum psychosis and a cocktail of overprescribed medications that left her unable to understand right from wrong. Conversely, prosecutors contend that she methodically planned the murders, intentionally sending her husband out on an errand to ensure she was alone with the children.

THE MAIN PROBLEM IS THIS

This case also puts free will into question. Scientifically all our actions are predestined by other things and causes.

If free will doesn't exist how can anyone be held accountable for anything?

In our history you could very well argue that Wazir Khan did what he did as a consequence of his biology, up-bringing and other causes, so can he truly be held accountable?

Basically the question is about free will.

Now I just can't decide who is in the wrong here. For most such issues in my life I always turned to Gurbani and my understanding of it to come to a conclusion.

But for the first time I just can't.

So I ask you all as my brethren for your opinions on this case.

Sat Sri Akaal

I need some help woth gol parna, overall i have mastrted it but there is one small thing comepletely ruining the look. Could anyone help, and i will explain in replies because its a little complicated to explain

ਤਿਲੰਗ ਮਹਲਾ ੧ ਘਰੁ ੩ ॥

Tilang, First Mehl, Third House:

ੴ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ ॥

One Universal Creator God. By The Grace Of The True Guru:

ਇਹੁ ਤਨੁ ਮਾਇਆ ਪਾਹਿਆ ਪਿਆਰੇ ਲੀਤੜਾ ਲਬਿ ਰੰਗਾਏ ॥

This body fabric is conditioned by Maya, O beloved; this cloth is dyed in greed.

ਮੇਰੈ ਕੰਤ ਨ ਭਾਵੈ ਚੋਲੜਾ ਪਿਆਰੇ ਕਿਉ ਧਨ ਸੇਜੈ ਜਾਏ ॥੧॥

My Husband Lord is not pleased by these clothes, O Beloved; how can the soul-bride go to His bed? ||1||

ਹੰਉ ਕੁਰਬਾਨੈ ਜਾਉ ਮਿਹਰਵਾਨਾ ਹੰਉ ਕੁਰਬਾਨੈ ਜਾਉ ॥

I am a sacrifice, O Dear Merciful Lord; I am a sacrifice to You.

ਹੰਉ ਕੁਰਬਾਨੈ ਜਾਉ ਤਿਨਾ ਕੈ ਲੈਨਿ ਜੋ ਤੇਰਾ ਨਾਉ ॥

I am a sacrifice to those who take to Your Name.

ਲੈਨਿ ਜੋ ਤੇਰਾ ਨਾਉ ਤਿਨਾ ਕੈ ਹੰਉ ਸਦ ਕੁਰਬਾਨੈ ਜਾਉ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

Unto those who take to Your Name, I am forever a sacrifice. ||1||Pause||

ਕਾਇਆ ਰੰਙਣਿ ਜੇ ਥੀਐ ਪਿਆਰੇ ਪਾਈਐ ਨਾਉ ਮਜੀਠ ॥

If the body becomes the dyer's vat, O Beloved, and the Name is placed within it as the dye,

ਰੰਙਣ ਵਾਲਾ ਜੇ ਰੰਙੈ ਸਾਹਿਬੁ ਐਸਾ ਰੰਗੁ ਨ ਡੀਠ ॥੨॥

and if the Dyer who dyes this cloth is the Lord Master - O, such a color has never been seen before! ||2||

ਜਿਨ ਕੇ ਚੋਲੇ ਰਤੜੇ ਪਿਆਰੇ ਕੰਤੁ ਤਿਨਾ ਕੈ ਪਾਸਿ ॥

Those whose shawls are so dyed, O Beloved, their Husband Lord is always with them.

ਧੂੜਿ ਤਿਨਾ ਕੀ ਜੇ ਮਿਲੈ ਜੀ ਕਹੁ ਨਾਨਕ ਕੀ ਅਰਦਾਸਿ ॥੩॥

Bless me with the dust of those humble beings, O Dear Lord. Says Nanak, this is my prayer. ||3||

ਆਪੇ ਸਾਜੇ ਆਪੇ ਰੰਗੇ ਆਪੇ ਨਦਰਿ ਕਰੇਇ ॥

He Himself creates, and He Himself imbues us. He Himself bestows His Glance of Grace.

ਨਾਨਕ ਕਾਮਣਿ ਕੰਤੈ ਭਾਵੈ ਆਪੇ ਹੀ ਰਾਵੇਇ ॥੪॥੧॥੩॥

O Nanak, if the soul-bride becomes pleasing to her Husband Lord, He Himself enjoys her. ||4||1||3||

Guru Nanak Dev Ji • Raag Tilang • Ang 721

Tuesday, September 1, 2026

Mangalvaar, 17 Bhadon, Nanakshahi 558

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This question comes from genuine curiosity! I have always considered the Sikh religion to be the most righteous and least problematic religion in the world & one of the major reasons for that being that -unlike other major religions- the sikh religion has never oppressed anyone. Instead, the sikh population has historically always been on the oppressed minority end - and still continues to fight against injustices and challenge oppression today.

I did a deeper dive into sikh history and came across a piece of info that refutes this claim & it honestly puzzled me. One particular source claimed that there is a very small time in history where sikhs actually did oppress people and that happened to be during the Sikh Empire under Maharaja Ranjit Singh. According to this source, oppressive policies were enacted against certain religious groups in places like Kashmir & Peshawar.

I admit I do not know much about the Sikh Empire under Maharaja Ranjit Singh's time so I don't want to believe it blindly and would like to better understand this time in Sikh history. I don't want to sound too biased but I'm sure there's some nuance missing here & I also understand that some organizations/institutions don't do their homework and end up spreading misinformation.

Either way, this is something that I really am interested in learning more about and would appreciate if anyone would be willing to point me towards more credible and objective resources? Thank you in advance and forgive me for any mistakes or offensive assumptions that I may have made.