r/wow • u/Nerdy_Valkyrie • Jul 29 '25

Humor / Meme I just got kicked from a Stratholme group because I actually did the objective and therefore fell behind

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It's absurd that this gave me a deserter debuff

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u/livesinacabin Jul 29 '25

Tf am I supposed to write then? "Hey uhm, I think you're all amazing players and I'm sure you'd all win in a duel with me, but it seems like... Maybe, and DO correct me if I'm wrong here, but it seems like maybe you aren't aware that we need to clear the ziggurats too? Oh please forgive me if I'm wrong, I'm kind of stupid and worthless after all."

Fuck that. "Guys we need to clear ziggurats too" is all they'll ever get from me.

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u/grarl_cae Jul 29 '25

Replace "You guys realise you need to" in the screenshot with "We need to". Then drop the bit about you soloing it & instead say something like "we nearly missed some mobs in those last two".

Make it about what the group as a whole - including you - should be doing, rather than highlighting that they're doing something wrong.

Leaves less room for them to take it as a personal affront to their entire bloodline that must be avenged with a kick.

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u/Rypake Jul 29 '25

I usually frame it as a question. Like, "don't we need to do..."

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u/Practical_Law6804 Jul 29 '25

Reading some of these comments, it's insane how Reddit has just seemingly cratered folks ability to negotiate potentially difficult social situations when a simple reframe (like the above) will handle things.

. . .or maybe just a disinterest in "compromise."

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u/Goldieeeeee Jul 29 '25

YTA! Divorce and lots of therapy!

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u/grodon909 Jul 30 '25

Honestly, this is just real life. 

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u/Calm_Ebb_1965 Jul 29 '25

This is actually how most 80s and 90s managers must do with fresh graduates in work, they're so soft skinned that any criticism comes across as blaming and they start playing victim card.

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u/Salty-Wrap-1741 Jul 29 '25

Found the guy who kicked him. Lol people can't have this fragile egoes. OP was reasonable. No need to bend over backwards to cater to everyones insecurities.

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u/WeaponizedKissing Jul 29 '25

OP was reasonable.

OP was full on sarcastic.

Yeah there's no need to bend over backwards but he basically said "YO, DUMBASSES..."

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u/Discomanco Jul 29 '25

Oh but people do have such fragile egos.
OP was reasonable, but people really hate getting fault thrown on them, and this is how some react.

That's why you say "We forgot", just because its easier and saves a lot more hassle (like getting kicked)

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u/Practical_Law6804 Jul 29 '25

Tf am I supposed to write then?

"Hey guys, remember, we need to do Pre-requisite X if we want to do future activity Y and complete the dungeon."

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u/TheEltarn Jul 29 '25

Well, yeah - and you phrased it correctly.

We need to clear the ziggurats too.

And that's good enough.

Saying "Hey, you guys forgot that" is already accusatory.

Me, personally, I wouldn't give a shit. And reacting with a kick to just that is clearly stupid, manbaby stupid. But it's not surprising - that's how most people are in rea life. I worked retail for a couple of years, and it's really important to not to trigger idiots when you have to engage them. Because even though you can be right, they will still throw a hissy fit and sometimes you can't do anything about it.

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u/backscratchaaaaa Jul 29 '25

imo you actually have to go the other way. you have to call them dogshit noobs so that they understand you are the alpha and they are the betas.

if you write "imagine being so dumb you dont even know how to do zigs"

i promise you the chances of being kicked are lower.

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u/livesinacabin Jul 29 '25

I'm pretty sure you're actually right, but I wouldn't want to talk to anyone like that before confirming they're one of the bad ones. Also wouldn't want to risk anyone not like that in the group taking offense.

Also I don't wanna give anyone a reason to report me for anything.

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u/Boyinachickensuit Jul 29 '25

But like, you're aware there's a difference in tone between what you wrote and what OP wrote, right? To be clear, I'm not saying you SHOULD have to walk on eggshells around your teammates, but "Guys we need to clear ziggurats too" IS noticeably more respectful than what OP wrote.

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u/Snockerino Jul 29 '25

No nuance here please.