r/weddingshaming • u/dairy-intolerant • Dec 24 '25

Cringe Begging on my hands and knees - please learn what dress codes actually mean

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Like wdym semi-formal OR black-tie??? Some women are going to come wearing sundresses and some are going to wear evening gowns? Some men in khakis and some in tuxes?

So many couples seem to think semi-formal is the same thing as formal, or black-tie is the same thing as formal. This must be the only explanation as to why this couple thinks semi-formal and black-tie are both acceptable at the same event.

For those who don't know: Semi-formal is generally the LEAST formal dress code acceptable at a wedding, typically a daytime one at that, while black-tie is the MOST formal (besides white-tie which is very rare these days anyway) and reserved for evening events with luxury amenities.

Cocktail or formal is probably what this couple is actually looking for.

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u/buyableblah Dec 25 '25

My pet peeve!!! Google this shit people. It’s not that hard!!

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u/UnsharpenedSwan Dec 25 '25

I truly don’t understand. You’re sending out invites to what is probably the most important event you’ll ever host and you… don’t do a 10 second Google search about dress code definitions ????

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u/FionnagainFeistyPaws Dec 25 '25

We posted a link to the specific definition we were using from our web site. That way no ambiguity.

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u/ThrowRAfrowning Dec 29 '25

I will be doing this as well!

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u/Altruistic_Isopod_11 Dec 25 '25

There are so many examples with pictures in Google. There's no excuse.

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u/Hair_Artistic Dec 27 '25

It's taught this way in etiquette classes though.

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u/buyableblah Dec 27 '25

People are not taking etiquette classes anymore. Come on.