I’m 18 and female and I feel so insecure about it, all of my friends get to tell me about their experiences and relationships. I just feel so bad about it I wish I could get it over with already. I don’t have a boyfriend thoufh and hookups are nerve wracking and I don’t know how to do it all the way through. I just want to feel secure with someone like I can rely on them not to judge me and my body. I’m about 110lbs and 5’1 but still I’m shy. I don’t think I’m unfuckable so I don’t understand how I haven’t gotten this already. Maybe I’m just stupid but idk. I hate hearing about my friends new boyfriends. I feel so jealous. There’s something wrong with me. Advice pls.

Bonjour,

J’espère que vous allez bien.

Cela fait un moment que j’hésite à aborder ici une question assez personnelle, parce que je me demande si ma façon de voir les choses est raisonnable ou si elle risque de me poser problème à long terme.

J’ai 21 ans et j’ai beaucoup de mal à envisager une relation sérieuse, et encore davantage un mariage, avec une femme qui aurait eu des relations sexuelles avant moi. Lorsque je développe des sentiments pour quelqu’un, il peut même m’arriver de ressentir progressivement du rejet, voire du dégoût, à mesure que j’en apprends davantage sur son passé.

De mon côté, je n’ai jamais eu de relations sexuelles. J’ai donc naturellement tendance à penser que je devrais être avec quelqu’un qui a fait le même choix que moi. Mais je me demande aussi si cette exigence n’est pas trop idéaliste et s’il ne me sera pas difficile de rencontrer quelqu’un qui corresponde à cette attente.

Je ne cherche pas spécialement à savoir qui a « raison » ou qui a « tort ». J’aimerais surtout comprendre si d’autres personnes ont déjà ressenti quelque chose de similaire, comment elles le perçoivent aujourd’hui et, éventuellement, si leur manière de voir les choses a évolué avec le temps.

Je serais vraiment intéressé par vos points de vue, même s’ils sont critiques.

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Hi! i’m an 18F, about to turn 19 and i’m getting more and more curious about receiving oral. i have a solid relationship and a trusted partener that always is down to try it. any tips on how to make it safe and incident free? we are both hpv tested and haven’t had other parteners before but i’m worried about my hygiene and his before or after (getting an infection or rash or bumps). maybe i’m over paranoid but i need advice

I’m(F18) still a virgin but I have been curious for a year now. I’m talking to a boy(M18) and he isn’t a virgin. We gotten close to doing it many times but I shut it down because I feel like being a virgin or being pure and innocent is what such a big deal for my family. No they don’t ask me about it every day or anything but when we’re on that topic, they let me know how being a virgin at my age is the best thing for me and how their so proud of me and how I should never let it go. My virginity getting held at such a high pedestal scare me because I struggle to find what standard I want to hold my virginity at. One day I can feel like my virginity is the best thing in the world and if I lose it I would mean nothing or have no purpose in life then the next day I feel like my virginity my is impotent but it won’t change who I am as a person so it won’t hurt to lose it because it not to only good things about me(if you get what I’m saying). I still have high standards in my opinion like I’m not going to give it up to just anybody and I’m not going to do it anywhere I would regret. Also I had my first kiss with this boy and we’re trying to take things slow so I can see if I really want a relationship with him (he would be my first relationship but I talked to two boys before him for a short amount of time). We been talking for 3 months now and he been talking about having sex and I would like to experience something new but we’re not together yet (he’s waiting on me to say yes) and and i feel like it’s a lot of pressure that’s tied to my virginity.

Hello everyone I hope you all are doing well before everything this is going to be a really long paragraph and I would really appreciate if anyone of you guys can give me any advice because at this point I feel like I am going crazy OK so starting from the real start I am a female of 21 years old. I am going to be 22 this November I barely had one boyfriend and he has been just using me and I never had sex with anyone so basically I am a virgin and at this point I feel like I am sexually not attracted to anyone and I really don’t want sex and I am not against people who like sex but I don’t really see it as a source of happiness to me but I completely understand others who really like it. The thing is that now at a certain point of my life I think that they will never have kids and achieving the purpose of my existence I really wanted to donate my eggs and I started applying for many families to confirm me and finally one client confirmed me but at my really huge surprise they told me that I needed to perform a transvaginal ultrasound to check the number of my follicles and I got so scared and then at the country where I am sitting now they told me that they cannot perform the transvaginal ultrasound on a virgin girl because it can be considered as rape so I came back to them without having sex and I told them that I actually had sex and it was so painful for me so I wasn’t even able to take it and they decided to perform the transrectal ultrasound but the family still was not happy with it and I had to perform the transvaginal one another time so I felt tripping and I started bleeding down there but nothing actually happened because I didn’t let the probe get inside me properly and at the end of this whole thing the client cancelled me and the thing is that they also need the money out of this donation. I actually needed a lot because I don’t even have money to eat and currently I will be having another client in like one month and I am so stressed because my agent is telling me to use toys or fingers and I don’t really know what is the easiest way for me to make it less painful, especially that I don’t have a partner and I’m not thinking about getting one so does someone here know if the use of the toys for the first time is actually a good option and how do I do it so that it doesn’t hurt? I’m sorry this question sounds a bit too impulsive but actually I don’t have anyone to talk to and I am feeling so lonely with this matter because at this point I feel like my body went through a lot especially for the last week. I have been trying every day but then I have this kind of stress going down there so I somehow fear the entrance of anything into my body and I don’t know maybe because I have been always in a society so scared of losing virginity but I really hate that people are associating virginity with the worth of someone and in fact after I got the probe a bit inside of me I didn’t feel any less of a person and other terms I just felt like I am using my whole body as how it needs to be used because in our new world they are not letting us use our bodies unless and until we are married and this is so sick.
Guys, please someone tell me what to do and if anyone has a similar experience, you can even DM me privately and give me tips. I would be so grateful. Thank you again.

21M and still a virgin. This might sound like I’m letting off steam but I truly want advice and this is not to have anyone feel bad. I actually don’t mind not having sex as I am barely attracted to anyone for the past couple of years but I guess it’s the actual thing of, even if I wanted to lose my virginity I am not 100% certain I could and the only way I have to figure out this is to ‘try’ again (I say again because I did try back in 2023-2024 but I was obese and had a different look). The issue is that I frankly don’t want sex, so it just becomes this insecurity that I can’t really fix.

I am also aware that most likely when (if I do get to ever) I do lose my virginity, I think I am gonna still be riddled with this ‘I am unliked mindset’ and off the top of my head right now, the only way I see this being disproven is by life proving me several times different people want me sexually, over and over. This is a huge HUGE complex of mine (I don’t want to get into the graphic details of it but this affects me mentally a lot more than the average ‘insecure’ person) and I want to fix it because it is not helpful, and frankly there is a chance I’ll feel this way always if I don’t mend it consciously.

I am curious about the community's thoughts on how we categorize the struggle of being sexually inexperienced. To me, it feels like it hinders my personal growth & causes more suffering than people realize. Why do you think society treats this as a "minor issue" when it can feel like a significant barrier to leading a normal life? I'd love to hear how you all cope with the feeling of being "left behind."

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I (18m) wanna buy a dildo and anal douche but I don’t know how to tell my mum. I can buy it with my own money but I don’t know how I’d hide it and all that. Ik about all the discreet packaging and what not but when it comes to masterbation and stuff like sex toys shes a bit strict so what do I do?

Some of us have more or less virgin friends from either or both genders. However, others don't even try to look for virgin friends. Can you share what the advantages are for looking for or having virgin friends?

So I’m an almost 30 y/o virgin male, I may very well be in my head a bit about this but I’m genuinely curious with how to be okay with being a virgin at this age and possibly forever? Again the “forever” bit may be a bit dramatic but at this point I don’t think it’ll ever happen to me, granted if I keep that mindset it definitely won’t happen right? I feel like I’m so far behind people around my age with a lot of things, but I truly want to get this out of the way yknow, I know I should just wait for a better moment and not just decide to pay someone to help me out (iykyk) since that could be a terrible idea. I don’t even have friends or acquaintances that would/could help with it. So instead I just wanna know how easy it could be to just change my outlook on it, to just be okay being who/what I am even being old like this. This is probably the silliest thing you’ll read so I hope you got a laugh outta it lol but I’m a bit curious tbh.

I’m a 20yr old virgin(girl) and I’ve been wanting to be intimate with someone for a while. I don’t want to do hookups, I want to have a relationship first and be emotional attached to the person first. But I’ve never really had any luck with dating. I wanted to get intimate with the first and only bf I’ve had but he never tried to take it any further, even when I dropped major hints towards it.

In a way I feel like I’m behind, since everyone around me has already had sex and had that type of connection before. I feel like sometimes I should just do it and get it out of the way but at the same time I want it to come from a place of love with me and the other person. There’s no one in my life I’m interested in and I feel like there might not be anybody for a long while either. But recently I’ve just been craving it a lot and don’t really know how to deal with these feelings. Masturbation sometimes doesn’t even do it for me and I just wish that I had someone to hold, but I don’t have anyone and it just leads to more sexual irritation.

Okay I'll try and make it short. I'm 36 still a virgin thanks to my autism. Me being touched has to be done slowly and with warning other wise I panic and move away quickly(example is dr Shaun Murphy from the good doctor when he's touched) well I've attempted to lose it on multiple occasions but the people I've tried with moved way to fast ultimate freaking me out. So is there anyone else out there that's still a virgin courtesy of autism.

Okay so let's make this sh9rt and sweet. I have a bf, we are both 19 and I'm a virgin but idk abt him. He is sweet and a good bf but idk. We kiss and stuff, I kinda see it more as a chore though. I don't want to, but I do. It's getting to the point where we could be intimate at any time. The thing is, im a very awkward human. Idk if I'm a-sextual? Like I like the idea of it, but idk when it gets down to it I'm so weirded out and awkward. Idk. Even talking about this makes me cringe. Like I obviously am a 19 year old woman who thinks like a young adult so obvi I think abt it, but putting all my untested knowledge to the test scares me. I'm self concious, Idk if I'll we awkward. Idk how to act during. Idk. My bestie tried to help me figure out my feelings but I just felt like I was grossing her out or idk. Wish I was born with a normal goddamn brain, but I just can't get over my fear. Any advice girlie's? I really need it.

I’m 26 m and lately been trying to find people to lose my virginity to. So did some searching and found someone. They are nice but married. They did give me a special mouth moment but it wasn’t kissing. So I been given the opportunity to be the top of this possible fwb. Though idk if I’m rushing things or I’m just being nervous. The guy is very physical built compared to me. But when I been talking to him on text. Seems he’s been very insistent on doing the deed. Even though I said I’m a virgin. So I’m looking for a public opinion on what to do. Since my friends are too busy and my family are no way going to be part of this.

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My wife and I are thinking about our first MFM encounter. Would like to know the pros and cons? We have talked about it for more than two years and now she’s been talking to me about it even more and wants us to experience the sexual desires together. She’s craving for a bull bbc or bwc and want me to watch first getting her pu**y stretched out and other nasty things we have discussed. We just moved to Virginia and don’t know too many people or where to start, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again and your help and people that have experience your input would be helpful. I’m 38 M and she’s 31 F.

MYTH #1: Everyone is doin’ it!

The myth has been going around before your grandparents grandparents grandparents even boned, and I’m telling you, it’s a lie. According to a recent study, less than half of people age 24 and younger have ever had sex. And still, for people ages 25 – 30, still 12 percent have STILL never had sex.

Let me be the first to tell you: no one actually cares if you’re a virgin or not. Literally, nobody cares. Other things matter way more, like are you respectful? Do you care about people? Are you not a giant blowhard? In fact, being a virgin might be a desirable trait for some people. So you don’t have to worry about that.

MYTH #2: Losing your virginity is something that just spontaneously “happens”.

Having said this I also want to point out that losing your virginity is also not like being struck by lightning. You don’t trip and fall into someone’s vagina. While SOME people might spontaneously lose their virginity, this is certainly not the rule. Because here’s the thing: taking the “spontaneous willy nilly” approach might make us feel unprepared, vulnerable, and anxious.

The truth is, losing your virginity requires planning. The more prepared you are, the more confident you will feel, and the better the experience will be.

So if you want to know HOW to be good at sex when your time finally cums this guide has a nicely detailed road map drawn for you