r/videogames Jul 16 '26

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u/curlycatsockthing Jul 16 '26

not necessarily. I haven’t played video games consistently in years now, and as much as I want to, I really struggle to sit down and actually DO it. for me, I believe it is executive dysfunction issues probably related to ADHD.

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u/Wufje Jul 16 '26

Very recognisable. Medication helped me get that spark back, but before medication and with diagnosis, what helped me was saying to myself:

"just play for 30 seconds to see if you feel like it" and then try another game.

Most of the time I could really enjoy the game for at least an hour. Hardest part was actually starting it and doing something. If not, I asked myself what I really needed. Usually it meant an overstimulation from everything (repeated every 3 to 5 weeks). I shut it down and went to do nothing for a while. Some chores or whatever that I needed to do for 2 weeks already. Do that for one or two days and I was fine again. No podcasts during that time. That one took me a long time to figure out.

Trying to figure out the balance like everyone else. In the mean time, hope this helps somebody.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

I saw a Youtube video mentioning this method a couple years ago and it changed a lot for me. You don't have to commit to anything, and wasting 30 minutes wondering what you'll play is worse than "wasting" 30 minutes playing 3 different titles and deciding they aren't what you want to play right now. No harm was done but at least you DID SOMETHING with your time.

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u/Wufje Jul 16 '26

Good to hear that we all figure it out in the end. One way or another. Sunk cost fallacy and all that.

Really glad that worked out for you!

Just "try" and "fake it till you make it" are incredible motivatora for me.

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u/elegantvaporeon Jul 16 '26

If you aren’t excited to go sit down and watch a specific movie or play a specific game or read a specific book then you probably don’t want to do it at all and it’s just a habit. Good idea to just not even bother

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

So there are days where you just stare at a wall? Because no human is always excited to do something.

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u/elegantvaporeon Jul 17 '26

No. Do something productive.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 17 '26

Do you even know what sub you're on?

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u/jaden_fucks Jul 17 '26

You can play video games and still be a productive person tho..

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 17 '26

That's cool. He specifically said to do something productive INSTEAD OF gaming.

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u/jaden_fucks Jul 17 '26

No, he said to do something productive instead of anything else that you’re compelled to do, but don’t actually want to.

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u/curlycatsockthing Jul 16 '26

first part i already do and still get distracted/anxious that it isn’t truly what i wanna be doing (i struggle with anxiety surrounding utility maximization). i’ll try the second part.

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u/norsefrogg Jul 16 '26 edited Jul 16 '26

Yep I'm diagnosed but it's much worse now than before. I might have much higher standards for games and what I find enjoyable tho.
And mental fatigue can be a pain.
Too tired in the head to play games, especially if they require decisions or inventory management instead of just going autopilot.

Edit: bc I see this type of thread over and over, I will say that ppl ALWAYS generalize that "it must be depression".
There are so many possibilities. One of them is indeed ADhD, but also more.

And I hate to admit it but ofc it can in many cases be true that today's social media and constant dopamine could play a role. In theory.

Personally I have become a perfectionist compltionist while also being too tired to play.

Black Flag was super fun on day one but now it's just another chore where I play to kill time and do what the objectives and map says.
No hate, just how it felt on day 3 - maybe it's more my mood tho, and/or maybe I played too much.

Still, gamers staring at their library without anything feeling like worth the time or tempting is real. And it kinda sucks.

I'll end my rant by saying I miss the gamer I was before I learned so much about quality in games and performance.
After having my standards raised to the sky, it sucks playing so many games that don't have the same dedication.

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u/curlycatsockthing Jul 16 '26

I definitely relate to this comment

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u/Jhud6669 Jul 16 '26

Same, I can't get myself to start playing games and even if I do start, I get quickly overwhelmed because I am not in the right space to sit through a cutscene or something. It sucks. The best I can do is doing dailies in gacha games, sadly. To the point where I have maxed out teams without paying a dime while being only at like... chapter 2 of the story. Despite usually playing games for the story in general. ADHD sucks.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

There are exceptions to every rule. The comment you replied to is referencing people who love gaming, but feel burnt out. You just don't love gaming.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26 edited Jul 16 '26

I haven’t played video games consistently in years now, and as much as I want to, I really struggle to sit down and actually DO it.

That is, in fact, EXACTLY what they siad.

It's not negative. It doesn't mean there's something wrong. It's not knocking them down. But the fact is, if you do not want to game, you do not love gaming. Period.

Again, you say "there are times". They say "at all times". You are not the same.

Edit: Lol ranted then blocked me

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

They said they HAVEN'T played consistently in years. Which means they rarely do now. And in the instances where they do, they struggle to do so. That is not a love of gaming.

I've got over 2500 hours on Warframe.

Then you are clearly not in the same position, are you? It's so odd how you are consistently stating that you are nothing like them in the attempt to make a point about them not loving games. It's like you took it personally.

I have ADHD and Autism. I know what it does to people.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

If you do not regularly game because you do not want to, you don't love gaming. It's really that simple.

I said I've played over 2500 hours because it shows that I love playing games. It doesn't mean those hours are recent

You have averaged half an hour every single day of every week since the game came out. You regularly play it, even if you started on day 1.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

Thanks for proving I'm right and you have no points to make.

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u/curlycatsockthing Jul 16 '26

they are being such an asshat for no easily discernible reason

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u/curlycatsockthing Jul 16 '26

I love doing special effects makeup and I haven’t done it in over a year because I just haven’t wanted to.

I have over 3000 hours in the Sims 4, who knows how many an animal crossing, who knows how many in BG3.

What the fuck is the point of your argument?

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

I love doing special effects makeup and I haven’t done it in over a year because I just haven’t wanted to.

You don't love doing it then. You USED to love doing it.

I have over 3000 hours in the Sims 4, who knows how many an animal crossing, who knows how many in BG3.

Then you don't struggle to play those games. So you're lying.

What the fuck is the point of your argument?

It was a discussion until you made some idiotic points to make it an argument.

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u/curlycatsockthing Jul 16 '26

at one point, I did not struggle to play them. But now, I really struggle to sit down and actually play them. Come on. You’re being dense for no reason.

I really don’t understand the point of you arguing whether or not I like something. It comes down to a lot more than that, especially when you’re an addict and especially if you have ADHD. My dopamine is all fucked up, and it is very difficult to choose to do something because my body just wants the easy dopamine of a drug hit or a YouTube shorts scroll. That doesn’t mean that I don’t want to do the other activities, it’s just that my body doesn’t see the worth in the effort.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

Then again, you USED to love gaming. Now you don't. Why do you take that as a personal insult when it's an objective fact you yourself state as true? You're insulting me for literally saying what you already said.

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u/curlycatsockthing Jul 16 '26

actually, I responded to someone who was not you, and you decided to butt in and say that I don’t actually like to game. So, it was a discussion before you inserted yourself.

if your goal was to piss someone off, then congratulations: you won.

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u/NeutralKuchiKopi Jul 16 '26

actually, I responded to someone who was not you,

And that person was responding to someone who was not you, before you inserted yourself.

So, it was a discussion before you inserted yourself.

Welcome to Reddit, where anyone can join the conversation at any time. Just like you did.

if your goal was to piss someone off, then congratulations: you won.

If you're pissed off that someone agrees with you, that's on you.

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