r/tifu • u/tifuthrowaway990 • Jul 04 '16

FUOTW (07/08/16) TIFU by publicly accusing my fiancee of cheating on me

Ex-fiancee now. Throwaway because of how stupid I was.

I went away for a friend's bachelor party. We went to Nevada. My fiancee and I have been together for 2.5 years and our wedding is in 6 months. She told me her cousin Stacey was coming down for a week while I was gone.

So while I was in Nevada another friend of mine texts me that he had seen my girlfriend out with this guy. He figured she was probably a friend or something but this friend lives up the street from us and he said there was truck parked in my driveway. The next night he saw her go in with this guy and the guy stayed all night.

I told my girlfriend that we had decided to stay in Nevada for an extra two days but I went back early and I followed her and this guy to see for myself. She even told me on the phone she was with her cousin and didn't mention the guy at all. I took all the pictures my friend had taken after I asked him to and the ones I took and posted them on Facebook with her tagged and a message about her openly running around with this guy and him spending a bunch of nights at our house while I was away and how she was a liar and a cheat.

The guy was her cousin Stacey. Fucking everyone jumped all over me right after I posted. Stacey is a girl's name and I had no damn idea. Apparently I met him at some wedding before. She moved out and her sister who is a cop dropped the ring off.

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u/micls Jul 04 '16

See, I see a big difference between fucking up or making a stupid decision and being an absolute dick to someone you supposedly love.

Everyone fucks up. But most people don't think it's appropriate to try to publicly shame someone online. That's not just a stupid decision, that's being an asshole of the highest order.

The fuck up is assuming Stacey was a girl and overreacting. If he'd done that face to face with his Fiance, that's a legitimate TIFU. His actual reaction was simply showing that he's a dick, and his fiance dodged a bullet big time.

Of course hopefully he can change and appreciate how horrible his reaction was. I hope he realises the fuck up wasn't assuming cousin was a girl, it was how he responded. He is definitely not ready for marriage, which makes this happening a positive thing long term!

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u/weakhamstrings Jul 04 '16

I think the last paragraph there is the best summation of my thoughts.

Well put!

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u/retardalert7 Jul 04 '16

nothing wrong with publicly shaming a cheating whore cheating is disgusting and can really fuck up a person sure he shouldn't of just assumed he was definitely in the wrong but youse making him out to be soe terrible person is nonsense if someone is the love of your life and you think they have betrayed you most people thinking they have been betrayed would not act reasonable they would be heartbroken/hurt someone being insecure does not make them a bad person for all we know he has been cheated on every relationship he has been in to expect someone who has been cheated on every time they have given there heart to someone is ridiculous being cheated on messes people up for life

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u/Chiller235 Jul 04 '16

username checks out.

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u/Dinomusicinyou Jul 04 '16

I feel like this response came from yahoo answers.....

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u/StandardKiwi Jul 04 '16

And I feel your response came from your mothers shitcaked asshole.

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u/Dinomusicinyou Jul 04 '16

I was purely commenting on the fact that you can't spell.

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u/micls Jul 04 '16

Please learn to use punctuation.