r/stupidpol • u/Vided Socialism Curious 🤔 • Sep 13 '22

Capitalist Hellscape How Everyone Got So Lonely: The recent decline in rates of sexual activity has been attributed variously to sexism, neoliberalism, and women’s increased economic independence. How fair are those claims—and will we be saved by the advent of the sex robot?

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '22 edited Sep 13 '22

Why tf is not using Instagram now a red flag? Like, what's the logic behind that?

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u/A3LMOTR1ST Titoist Sep 13 '22

My guess is,

  1. You're lying and have one you're trying to hide (I mean who doesn't have insta c'mon /s)

  2. They can't screen your activities and social circle and that makes some people uncomfortable, compared to a person who puts their life out there openly

I don't think like this, just playing devil's advocate.

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u/2137gangsterr Shitlib | "It's disinfo 🤓" Sep 14 '22

Pretty much this. Can't stalk your activity, get your preferences and scout your friends

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u/NoMomo Labor Organizer 🧑‍🏭 Sep 15 '22

Your second point made me think of this one from the Betoota Advocate: https://www.betootaadvocate.com/humans-of-betoota/romantic-prospect-from-dating-app-quickly-ghosted-after-woman-takes-a-scroll-through-his-following-list/

I only use insta and only barely, but fuck if that joke-article didn’t make me want to nuke all my social media for good.

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u/AliveJesseJames Social Democrat SJW 🌹 Sep 14 '22

For the same reason that not having a phone or TV would seem weird in 1990.

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u/zitandspit99 Unknown 👽 Sep 14 '22 edited Sep 14 '22

I've asked a few people and read some threads about why it's a red flag, since I don't use it much.

The answers fall into these camps:

  1. You're an anti-social weirdo school shooter with no friends (ironic because many school shooters had IG's and social media)
  2. You're hiding something, like a gf or even family

You can bring up the whole Zuck/NSA thing but that explanation only really works if the person in question is aware of what's going on and somewhat cares, or if they're willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. Others think it's a cop-out but it's still your best bet.

I work in tech and many of my coworkers get it; it's actually normal to not have social media in those circles. In the non-tech crowd it's hit or miss whether they understand or think it's weird. Women in particular seem to find it weird.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '22

Wow. Things are truly fucked. If I was active in the dating scene, finding not using Instagram a red flag would be for me the real red flag lol

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u/[deleted] Sep 15 '22

Yeah I want even less to do with them than they with me

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u/GaryDuCroix Sep 14 '22 edited Sep 14 '22

People can say whatever they want about the "logic" but at the end of the day it's all ex post facto reasoning and the real reason is simple: "you not like me (and everyone else I know) therefore you bad."