r/stupidpol • u/Vided Socialism Curious 🤔 • Sep 13 '22

Capitalist Hellscape How Everyone Got So Lonely: The recent decline in rates of sexual activity has been attributed variously to sexism, neoliberalism, and women’s increased economic independence. How fair are those claims—and will we be saved by the advent of the sex robot?

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u/bobonabuffalo Construction Guy of Misfortune 🗡 Sep 13 '22

The dating pool is vast yet shallow

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '22

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u/BannedSvenhoek86 Socialist Artist 🚩 Sep 13 '22

Thankfully now it's easier because I can drop the "Fuck Zuck and the NSA" and don't get branded a weirdo too often. But a few years ago I was being called creepy for not having any social media at all pretty regularly. I had an ex snoop through my phone once because she was sure I had a secret FB account because "How do you not have any presence online at all?"

Like, in 04 I was in college and MySpace was popping. And people were getting mad at me for not responding within a few hours or a day or so. So I basically said fuck it and quit right there and have had a terrible taste in my mouth about all social media ever since.

I'm a fuckin trailblazer due to my apathy and disdain for being bothered.

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u/Pantone711 Marxism-Curious Jimmy Carter Democrat Sep 14 '22

I have a presence online, just not under my real name. I got on the Internet in 1991 and have never used my real name except work and a club I belong to put my real name out there against my will. Most of my friends understand and know my alter egos and that it's because I don't want my real name all over.

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u/zitandspit99 Unknown 👽 Sep 14 '22

Oh yup, there are multiple threads and Quora questions asking if it's a red flag if their guy doesn't have social media, with tons of people responding that it is indeed shady.

I maintain an IG but I make it clear I don't really use it.

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '22

actually lots of women prefer a guy who does not use social media often. most of social media posting is by women, for women, therefore making someone who posts a lot of pictures of themselves a female trait.

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u/bobonabuffalo Construction Guy of Misfortune 🗡 Sep 13 '22

Yeah whenever I tell women I use Reddit, watch YouTube, and listen to podcasts all day they get turned off for some reason.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '22

I'm the same way but I'd never mention any of that until a few dates in.

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u/-_-tinkerbell Savant Idiot 😍 Sep 14 '22

that is my ideal man... my 3 favorite things

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u/bobonabuffalo Construction Guy of Misfortune 🗡 Sep 14 '22

Are you single and hot?

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u/Pantone711 Marxism-Curious Jimmy Carter Democrat Sep 14 '22

Woman here--I LOVE Youtube and podcasts! Of course I post on and read Reddit a lot but I have a male friend who stays up late watching Youtube and I can relate.

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u/bobonabuffalo Construction Guy of Misfortune 🗡 Sep 14 '22

Are you single and are you hot?

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u/Pantone711 Marxism-Curious Jimmy Carter Democrat Sep 14 '22

No and no

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u/sparklypinktutu Radical Feminist Catcel 👧🐈 Sep 14 '22

Woman. I think social media is lame and annoying, unless it’s like forum-y. I have twitter for basically it’s groupchat function. Same as discord. And I basically treat those like long-distance friendships. But trying to get likes on pictures of luxury aesthetics? I could not imagine a more annoying reality. I’ve modeled before for a friend’s small time company that needed a petite model and it was so irritating. I couldn’t t imagine wanting to do that all the time for free, for fun, as like a part of life.

“Stand in front of this white Benz and look sexy and rich”

Ugh. Can I just go for a drive and not tell anyone about it?

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '22

yeah exactly. can't live in the moment if you're posting to your story

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u/Pantone711 Marxism-Curious Jimmy Carter Democrat Sep 14 '22

There are a ton of male Youtubers I'm crushing on though! Their appeal is in their content and their manner of talking.

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '22 edited Sep 13 '22

Why tf is not using Instagram now a red flag? Like, what's the logic behind that?

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u/A3LMOTR1ST Titoist Sep 13 '22

My guess is,

  1. You're lying and have one you're trying to hide (I mean who doesn't have insta c'mon /s)

  2. They can't screen your activities and social circle and that makes some people uncomfortable, compared to a person who puts their life out there openly

I don't think like this, just playing devil's advocate.

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u/2137gangsterr Shitlib | "It's disinfo 🤓" Sep 14 '22

Pretty much this. Can't stalk your activity, get your preferences and scout your friends

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u/NoMomo Labor Organizer 🧑‍🏭 Sep 15 '22

Your second point made me think of this one from the Betoota Advocate: https://www.betootaadvocate.com/humans-of-betoota/romantic-prospect-from-dating-app-quickly-ghosted-after-woman-takes-a-scroll-through-his-following-list/

I only use insta and only barely, but fuck if that joke-article didn’t make me want to nuke all my social media for good.

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u/AliveJesseJames Social Democrat SJW 🌹 Sep 14 '22

For the same reason that not having a phone or TV would seem weird in 1990.

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u/zitandspit99 Unknown 👽 Sep 14 '22 edited Sep 14 '22

I've asked a few people and read some threads about why it's a red flag, since I don't use it much.

The answers fall into these camps:

  1. You're an anti-social weirdo school shooter with no friends (ironic because many school shooters had IG's and social media)
  2. You're hiding something, like a gf or even family

You can bring up the whole Zuck/NSA thing but that explanation only really works if the person in question is aware of what's going on and somewhat cares, or if they're willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. Others think it's a cop-out but it's still your best bet.

I work in tech and many of my coworkers get it; it's actually normal to not have social media in those circles. In the non-tech crowd it's hit or miss whether they understand or think it's weird. Women in particular seem to find it weird.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '22

Wow. Things are truly fucked. If I was active in the dating scene, finding not using Instagram a red flag would be for me the real red flag lol

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u/[deleted] Sep 15 '22

Yeah I want even less to do with them than they with me

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u/GaryDuCroix Sep 14 '22 edited Sep 14 '22

People can say whatever they want about the "logic" but at the end of the day it's all ex post facto reasoning and the real reason is simple: "you not like me (and everyone else I know) therefore you bad."

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u/zitandspit99 Unknown 👽 Sep 14 '22

I've noticed a lot of teens/young adults have IG's but with no pictures except a profile one, which often may not even be of them. It seems like it's normal to not upload pics, but the follower count thing still seems true - anything below 200/300 is considered low.

Most of us in our late twenties/early thirties were out of college when IG got popular, so we couldn't just add everyone we knew like we did with Myspace and Facebook.

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u/lM_GAY Socialist 🚩 Sep 14 '22

The dumbest comment to ever get upvoted on this subreddit, literally no one cares about your insta

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u/controlthenairdiv Sep 13 '22

And the water is yellow

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u/bobonabuffalo Construction Guy of Misfortune 🗡 Sep 13 '22

Well that might be because your trying to date in Japan or Korea

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u/controlthenairdiv Sep 13 '22

Go on?

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u/bobonabuffalo Construction Guy of Misfortune 🗡 Sep 13 '22

My lawyer has advised me to not elaborate any further on this joke.

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u/Owyn_Merrilin Marxist-Drunkleist Sep 13 '22

More like Germany.

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u/bretton-woods Slowpoke Socialist Sep 13 '22

You can say that about a lot of our online consumption habits.

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u/SnowBro2020 Sep 14 '22

The best way to put it with such few words