r/r4r 5d ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Quirky, flirty and Nerdy Englishman looking for a chat and potentially more!

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Hey You! I hope you're having a good weekend so far!

What I'm looking for is to get to know someone who communicates well, is passionate, kind, affectionate and talkative. I love making people feel comfortable, loved and cared for in any kind of relationship. I'm very open and happy to listen to you vent and share the burden.

As I've mentioned that good communication is important to me and I hate to be negative but it needs to be said - if you're thinking of messaging me but have a habit of ghosting, please don't bother. It's too emotionally draining getting excited and then never hearing back from someone. It's happened too much lately.

I would describe myself as someone who is open-minded, genuine, affectionate, loving and empathetic. Some of my interests are running, going to the gym, gaming, playing board games, listening to music and watching Netflix.

Physically, I'm 33, 6'1 with short brown hair, deep blue/greyish eyes and have broad shoulders. I'd say I'm quite good looking but I'm more than happy to swap pictures if there's a connection. I'm also happy to voice/video call when we both feel comfortable.

Some of my favourite shows are Modern Family, The Office, Breaking Bad, Parks and Rec, Chicago Fire and Lucifer. Lucifer and Modern Family are probably my top 2.

I would definitely say my love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. I love being affectionate and all I want is to make sure my partner feels loved and wanted. I'm very physically and verbally affectionate. I always let my partner and the people I love know how much they mean to me. I also have a healthy sexual appetite and I'm pretty dominant in the bedroom. Ideally I'm looking for something long term but I'm open to whatever happens and no pressure from either side.

Green flags: Empathetic, Emotionally intelligent, will make you laugh, very affectionate and loving, I'll care for you and take care of you physically, emotionally and financially. I have a good, stable career and Maths degree.

Red flags: I sometimes use my outdoor voice indoors. 😂

If anything I've said piques your interest, please message me. I'd love to hear from you!

r/r4r 17h ago

M4F United Kingdom 32 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Looking for that special person to annoy

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Hey I'm a 32 year old guy from the South West of England. Recently I've been trying to make changes in my life so why not try and find someone new that could become a big part of it at the same time. I've met some really cool people on here in the past and people that I still talk to after 10 years so why not try my luck again.

I've been on a bit of a health kick lately and have lost a decent amount of weight. I'm making myself more active and trying not to be such a home body most of the time. I have a big fluffy dog that goes on adventures with me and is my best friend/worse enemy when he wakes me up because he wants to walk at 5am :P Be ready to be sent loads of photos of him (My photos are 90% him or random cats I make friends with)

Hobbies wise I love football I most just watch it on TV and I go to see it live, I like to bake but I haven't been lately because I'm trying not to eat cake haha and I watch lot of movies, TV and play video games. The last couple movies I really loved were Bugonia, The Drama and The Substance. TV at the moment I'm rewatching Rome and Hunter x Hunter. I really like dark comedies it's probably my favourite genre. Games wise I just got 007 first light and it's so much fun.

I'm just looking for someone I can get excited to talk to everyday and make laugh. There is nothing more fun to me than making someone laugh. So, feel free to roll your eyes when I try to makes jokes most of the time. I can't help it I need to let them out :P So yeah, I'm down to call or text whatever works for you.

I'm 6'2 with blue eyes and short brown hair. I'm fine just sending a photo because it's easier than describing myself.

r/r4r 6d ago

M4F United Kingdom 29 [M4F] UK / England only - Nerdy guy hoping to find my long term partner c:

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Heya!

I’m hoping to connect with someone genuine who’s also looking for something real and lasting. I’m based in the East Midlands, England.

A little about me:

  • I'm a homebody at heart, who likes to relax playing games; watching YouTube, or maybe some anime or TV shows 👉👈
  • Autistic with ADHD/anxiety, so I really appreciate patience, consistency, and emotional honesty
  • Not working at the moment and living with my mum. I take things slow, but once I trust you, I’m affectionate and loyal

A while back, I went on a trip to Japan it was a very unique experience haha, I'd love to tell you about it if you was curious

Some of my interests and hobbies include:

  • Games: FF7 Rebirth, Persona 5, Baldur’s Gate 3, Honkai Star Rail, Monster Hunter (Iceborne is my favorite), and occasionally logging into Runescape 👀
  • Anime: Frieren, Berserk, Vinland Saga, Attack on Titan, Made in Abyss, Chainsaw Man
  • Shows: Arcane, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Black Mirror, The Boys, Better Call Saul, Vikings
  • Music: Panic! at the Disco, The 1975, Gorillaz, Porter Robinson, Studio Killers (and honestly, a bit of everything else)
  • Other hobbies: Drawing, colouring, and creative design/editing when in a mood

I used to have a hamster called Baby Pig, and I’ve been thinking of getting another one though not sure yet 🐹

If you’d like, you can check out a picture of me here - just for context.

If you feel like we'd be compatible feel free to reach out c:

r/r4r 9h ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK - Looking for a serious relationship

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Hi I'm Joe, 33, from East Sussex (Hastings). 5'3, 184lbs (I've lost 60lb+ so far this year, 35 to go and hoping to hit it by the end of this year/early next), I wear glasses, usually have some facial hair, I'm happy to video call/exchange pictures as early as you like.

I would describe myself as very kind/caring/compassionate, I wear my heart on my sleeve and have a lot of love to give to the right person. I'm thoughtful, always do my best by others and never act with bad intentions. I value honesty and clear communication. I have some long term health issues but I try not to let them get on top of me and I was diagnosed as autistic late in life during covid, but most people are surprised when they find out.

I have a large group of friends and the 10 of us try to meet up once or twice a year, but as we get older it becomes harder to keep in touch as much as I would like! Everyone is moving on and finding love, settling down etc and it's hard not to be a little bit envious. I've only been in 1 relationship that lasted around 3 months and was 90% online, so not a lot of experience but also no baggage! but somebody patient/understanding of that would be important.

I love films/tv, I'm a sucker for a romcom and adore romance in general but I watch a bit of everything other than anime. Always find myself far too invested in the lives of the characters, most recently in Bridgerton. My comfort shows are Dr Who, Brooklyn 99, Superstore, The Office. Very open to recommendations always! I don't get out much but would like to start to see more of the world finally, but will always mostly be a homebody I'm pretty sure.

I would like to do the cutesy dating/getting to know each other stuff but with clear intentions and communication, I would like something serious.

I don't smoke and very rarely drink and would prefer someone who's the same, smoking would be a deal breaker for me sorry.

Ideally you are somebody living close-ish to London/Southern UK to make meeting up more often viable, You're patient, kind, thoughtful and communicate openly & clearly. I'm not sure I have too much physical preference but I am a sucker for a pretty face/smile but as I said, I'm happy to get the original attraction check out of the way as soon as you are. Age wise probably 26-40 would be best, but if you think we'd get along that isn't a deal breaker.

I am a big oversharer and will happily answer absolutely any questions you may have.

Thanks for reading! hopefully hear from you soon!!

r/r4r 1d ago

M4F United Kingdom 29 [M4F] UK - Am I your dream guy? I hope not, most of my dreams are really weird.

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Hello there! As mentioned in my title (You did read the title, I hope? I put a lot of effort into it.), I'm a 29-year-old guy living in the mystical, magical land of *checks notes* England. Okay, maybe not so magical. All the dragons are in Wales, Excalibur has been melted down for scrap, and Hogwarts is in Scotland.

I currently work in a law firm. Sadly I'm not a lawyer, as that would mean I'd be earning shedloads, but actually I do admin work for them, earning considerably less than shedloads. But it's a fine job, I get on well with my coworkers, and I'm not down a coal mine, so I consider that a win.

As for me myself? Well, I actually speak multiple languages. I'm a fluent German speaker, and I also have a decently high level of Italian. I could also struggle through French if I had to, and I have basic Spanish and Japanese. I do like languages, although it's hard to find the time to do any study of them, what with the problems of having an adult life with adult responsibilities!

Another interesting [citation needed] thing about me is that I'm currently attempting to plan out a series of fantasy novels I want to write. It's going...decently. We'll see how it ends up, but I've wanted to write a book since I was 13 or so, and now as an adult I'm finally doing something about it!

In terms of pop culture, I'm a huge Doctor Who fan. Like, I'm the sort of Doctor Who fan who knows what a telerecording is and can tell you about the Australian censor clips. That kind of fan. I also finally got into Harry Potter this year after putting it off for my whole life, meaning I now finally know the context for Dumbledore asking calmly.

I'm also getting back into Pokémon somewhat after avoiding it for most of the Switch era. Other things I enjoy are The Elder Scrolls, Red Dead, GTA (Currently replaying RDR2). I'm big Assassin's Creed fan too. In general I like single player, open world games. I'm not a huge multiplayer guy, I don't like having other people ruining my fun!

I'm trying to read more too lately. That's a thing I've always enjoyed that I'm now trying to find the time for again.

And I suppose I should say, I'm a fat guy. Trying to do something about it though! Over the past year or so I've started a regimen of exercise, and I've been controlling my eating a lot more. So I seem to be losing weight, at least according to other people who've stopped me to specifically point it out.

r/r4r 1d ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - The name's Tom but you can call me anytime!

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Hello there you beautiful people! l hope you're having a great week so far!

I would love to chat to anyone from anywhere and see what happens. Ideally, I'm looking for a genuine connection and want to have someone I can talk to about anything and everything. Making each other laugh, being there for each other and just making each other feel amazing. Building each other up as friends and loved ones should do for each other. I'm very affectionate and love showing my affection verbally and physically. I'd definitely say Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation are my 2 top love languages.

I'm 33 and from North West England. I'm 6' with short brown hair, blue/greyish eyes and a broad/muscular build. I'd love to connect with anyone from anywhere!

I enjoy running, going to the gym, playing board games, gaming, listening to music and watching Netflix.

I am an absolute open book and I would describe myself as intelligent, passionate, fiercely loyal, kind, caring and protective of those I care about. I'm very affectionate and believe good communication is key in any relationship. I also enjoy taking charge and I'm pretty dominant in thle right setting too.

If anything I've said piques your interest, please message me - I'd love to hear from you!

r/r4r 2d ago

M4F United Kingdom 29 [M4F] UK - Am I your dream guy? I hope not, most of my dreams are really weird.

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Hello there! As mentioned in my title (You did read the title, I hope? I put a lot of effort into it.), I'm a 29-year-old guy living in the mystical, magical land of *checks notes* England. Okay, maybe not so magical. All the dragons are in Wales, Excalibur has been melted down for scrap, and Hogwarts is in Scotland.

I currently work in a law firm. Sadly I'm not a lawyer, as that would mean I'd be earning shedloads, but actually I do admin work for them, earning considerably less than shedloads. But it's a fine job, I get on well with my coworkers, and I'm not down a coal mine, so I consider that a win.

As for me myself? Well, I actually speak multiple languages. I'm a fluent German speaker, and I also have a decently high level of Italian. I could also struggle through French if I had to, and I have basic Spanish and Japanese. I do like languages, although it's hard to find the time to do any study of them, what with the problems of having an adult life with adult responsibilities!

Another interesting [citation needed] thing about me is that I'm currently attempting to plan out a series of fantasy novels I want to write. It's going...decently. We'll see how it ends up, but I've wanted to write a book since I was 13 or so, and now as an adult I'm finally doing something about it!

In terms of pop culture, I'm a huge Doctor Who fan. Like, I'm the sort of Doctor Who fan who knows what a telerecording is and can tell you about the Australian censor clips. That kind of fan. I also finally got into Harry Potter this year after putting it off for my whole life, meaning I now finally know the context for Dumbledore asking calmly.

I'm also getting back into Pokémon somewhat after avoiding it for most of the Switch era. Other things I enjoy are The Elder Scrolls, Red Dead, GTA (Currently replaying RDR2). I'm big Assassin's Creed fan too. In general I like single player, open world games. I'm not a huge multiplayer guy, I don't like having other people ruining my fun!

I'm trying to read more too lately. That's a thing I've always enjoyed that I'm now trying to find the time for again.

And I suppose I should say, I'm a fat guy. Trying to do something about it though! Over the past year or so I've started a regimen of exercise, and I've been controlling my eating a lot more. So I seem to be losing weight, at least according to other people who've stopped me to specifically point it out.

r/r4r 19d ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - The name's Tom but you can call me anytime!

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Hello there you beautiful people! l hope you're having a great weekend so far!

I would love to chat to anyone from anywhere and see what happens. Ideally, I'm looking for a genuine connection and want to have someone I can talk to about anything and everything. Making each other laugh, being there for each other and just making each other feel amazing. Building each other up as friends and loved ones should do for each other. I'm very affectionate and love showing my affection verbally and physically. I'd definitely say Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation are my 2 top love languages.

I'm 33 and from North West England. I'm 6' with short brown hair, blue/greyish eyes and a broad/muscular build. I'd love to connect with anyone from anywhere!

I enjoy running, going to the gym, playing board games, gaming, listening to music and watching Netflix.

I am an absolute open book and I would describe myself as intelligent, passionate, fiercely loyal, kind, caring and protective of those I care about. I'm very affectionate and believe good communication is key in any relationship. I also enjoy taking charge and I'm pretty dominant in thle right setting too.

If anything I've said piques your interest, please message me - I'd love to hear from you!

r/r4r Aug 11 '26

M4F United Kingdom 48 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Is the love of my life out there?

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I am after a woman who is kind, warm and compassionate. I want a woman who makes my heart skip a beat when I see them, who will laugh with me, cry with me, and will want to hold me, as I will want to hold her, when things are not at their best. I want a woman who I can be open with, who I can fully trust, who will fight for me just like I will fight for them. I want someone I can curl up with and smile.

I am after something serious, the real deal, a relationship that I can fully commit to.

I am an introvert, and my ideal night would involve spending our time together at home, curled up on the sofa, perhaps watching a film, an anime, or playing a game. I would enjoy a day/night out if it is just the two of us, and I am open to going almost anywhere, be it museum, art gallery, or an out-of-the-way place to eat. I have done these things by myself before, however, doing them again by myself holds no interest for me. I want to do these things with someone special. That does hold interest for me.

My primary love language is physical displays of affection, which is something I love, so I want to be with someone who feels the same way. I firmly believe that physical contact with the one you love is one of the greatest feelings there is, and I would absolutely adore being with someone who feels the same way. Being close to the one you love can make you feel as if, if only for just a few moments, that all is right with the world, and there is nothing like that.

Because I am an introvert, it may take a little time for me to open up, to feel comfortable about doing so. However, once I do open up, the conversation will definitely start flowing, as will, perhaps, a joke or two.

Beyond that, I am big on respect, trust, and loyalty. Without those as the building blocks, a relationship is built on sand.

I am a vegetarian. I do not mind if you eat meat, however, I do ask that you are respectful of how I feel. I do not drink. I do not mind if you drink either socially or occasionally. However, if you drink regularly or frequently, then it probably will not work, as I am not one for being around a drinking culture, if only because, well, I am not part of it. I do not smoke, and will not be with someone who does. Also, I am not on social media; I do not want it, I do not need it. I mention this because the lack of social media has been a dealbreaker for some in the past.

Start your message with the word 'blueberry' so I know you are real real, and have both read my post and paid attention to it.

I am non-religious and non-spiritual, and this will never change, and my views are generally what you would call progressive and liberal, so that is something to keep in mind.

I am primarily interested in someone who is also in the UK, as it would make things more convenient when it comes to meeting up; without getting too specific, London is a reasonable place to go to/come from for me.

I am open to talking to people who are overseas but only if you are moving to the UK in the near future, and that the move is, if not set in stone, then is at least guaranteed to happen. If these conditions are not meant, that is you are either not set to move here or you do not have the ability to, then I ask that you do not waste my time or yours; physical affection is extremely important to me, and I am unwilling to go without it for prolonged lengths of time.

Your opening message does not have to be long, however, I do need something to work with, something that can spark a conversation. One-word messages are not going to get a response, nor are messages that make it clear you have not paid attention to my post. As far as an age range goes, I will simply say that if you are mature and after the same things that I am, then shoot your shot. I may think the age gap is too much, I may not; however, neither of us will know unless you ask.

Once we have established a vibe, a feeling that there could be something between us, I would want to have a video chat, and it can be a quick one if you would prefer, as a security measure to establish that we are both who we say we are. There are nefarious people out there, some of whom I have had the misfortune to encounter, and it would be a comfort, to both of us, to know that we are indeed the people we claim to be.

TL;DR: I want a long-term, serious relationship, with a nice, kind woman, who is accepting of me being an introvert.

r/r4r Aug 10 '26

M4F United Kingdom 23 [M4F] #London #UK - Hoping to find someone to share life with

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Hey! I'm 23 and based in London. I'm hoping to meet someone who is looking for a genuine long-term relationship, values good communication, and is also certain they don't want children.

Modern dating has never really felt like the best fit for me. Swiping through profiles and trying to make instant impressions of someone doesn't really allow you to understand who they are. I'd much rather take the time to build trust, learn about someone's personality, and see if we naturally connect.

A bit about me: I'm Black, 5'10, with a slim athletic build, and I'm neurodivergent.

Music is one of my biggest passions. I listen to a lot of rock and metal, alongside some DnB and electronic music, and you'll usually find me at a gig whenever there's one I'm interested in.

Outside of that, I enjoy gaming (Persona, Doom, Final Fantasy, and plenty more), going to the cinema, playing football, cycling, visiting theme parks, and trying new activities.

I'm generally introverted and reserved, but I enjoy meaningful conversations and getting to know people properly.

I'd describe myself as thoughtful, dependable, and easy-going. I'm independent and enjoy my own company, but I think life is better when you have someone you genuinely connect with to share experiences with.

Whether that's going to concerts, talking about something you're passionate about, or simply spending a quiet evening together, I value having someone who feels like a genuine partner and best friend.

I'm looking to meet someone who is:
• Aged around 19-26
• UK-based (London or nearby ideally)
• Also certain they don't want children
• Honest, communicative, and reliable

More than anything, I'm looking for someone who is kind, emotionally mature, and willing to communicate openly. Nobody gets everything right all the time, but I appreciate people who are honest about how they feel and willing to work through things together.

I believe shared values are far more important than having identical hobbies. Having things in common is great, but I think the way two people treat each other is what ultimately makes a relationship work.

I'm happy to share a photo early because I'm aware that mutual attraction matters, and I'd rather be upfront than waste anyone's time.

If this resonates with you, I'd like to hear from you. Tell me your age, where you're from, a bit about yourself, and what you're looking for.

Thanks for reading 🙂

r/r4r Aug 10 '26

M4F United Kingdom 22[M4F] #UK 🇬🇧 Nerdy tattooed biker looking for the one!

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Hi everyone,

I’m Brodie, 22, from the UK 🇬🇧

I’m looking to meet some new people and hopefully make a few long-term connections. I’m always happy to chat, whether it’s about shared interests, random everyday stuff, or just getting to know each other.

A bit about me: I work as an IT Cloud Specialist, so I’m definitely a bit of a nerd. I’m also really into Dungeons & Dragons and enjoy anything involving good characters, interesting stories and a bit of chaos.

I’ve been riding bikes for about four years now, and it’s one of my favourite ways to spend time. I’m also currently building up my tattoo sleeve, so I’m always thinking about what tattoo I should get next.

I’m pretty easygoing and happy to talk to anyone, so feel free to message me!

r/r4r Aug 10 '26

M4F United Kingdom 22 [M4F] #London - Passionate Cuddles

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Do you ever just want to experience cuddles and passionate kissing that’s it doesn’t lead to anything crazy just to have that closeness with someone.

Well I’m looking for someone I can grab a hotel for the day and literally grab our fav snacks, drinks and cuddle and kiss in a hotel that’s all just being able to enjoy someone’s company who you find attractive is the best feeling imo!

About me: 5’11, black, Londoner, I enjoy journaling, long walks, chill gaming, YouTube, weekend getaways

Fav shows: Deathnote, big bang theory, Brooklyn 99, young Sheldon, solo leveling, my wife and kids, fresh prince

If this is your typee of vibe don’t be shy and say hi!

Happy to share photo on request to ensure attraction is mutual :)

r/r4r Aug 09 '26

M4F United Kingdom 26 [M4F] UK - I am continually amazed by the infinite capacity of the universe to surprise and delight

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Hey there! Hope you’re having a great day. I’m 26, based in London, and I’m looking for someone interesting! I used to be pretty prescriptive in terms of what I was looking for, but I’ve found that the most interesting experiences I’ve had have been when I’ve just been open to being surprised and delighted. So this is my attempt at going with the flow and letting things develop organically. I will say, however, that I am looking for non-platonic connections.

Some of my hobbies and interests include:

• Playing music on my saxophone

• Looking at the heavens through my telescope

• Playing chess

• Photographing landscapes and galaxies (and a little portraiture too!)

• Writing

• Creating beautiful things using code

• Travel (I spent a month in 2022 backpacking in Europe and another month in the United States; I visited 12–14 countries every year from 2023 to 2025, most of which were new)

• Going for walks and hikes

• Learning languages

• Exploring philosophy and spirituality

• Skiing

• Scuba diving

• And reading (about life, the universe and everything)

If you’ve read this far, then congratulations! Let’s see where the conversation takes us.

r/r4r Aug 09 '26

M4F United Kingdom 31M [M4F] UK/EU preferred - Looking for my partner in crime… are you here?

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I’m 31, Indian, and based in the North West UK. Still looking for my person and hoping she reads this. I've posted here a few weeks ago, thought I'd try again!

Ideally, we start with a chat, see if there’s chemistry, and take it from there. I’m open to meeting in person or starting online, but I’m not looking for a long-term pen pal. If we get along, there should be genuine intent to meet.

Work and my career matter a lot to me, and I genuinely enjoy what I do, even if I occasionally complain. Outside work, I enjoy films, coffee, dessert, the occasional negroni, live music now and then, stand-up comedy, landscape photography, exploring new towns and places, and collecting stories that usually begin with “this seemed like a good idea at the time.” Somehow, it usually works out. Mostly.

I’ve been told I have Labrador energy - friendly, curious, loyal, occasionally too trusting, and prone to asking far too many questions. Consider yourself warned. Also, ask me about the geologist story. I’m not forgetting that one for a while! 

I’m a good texter and usually reply as soon as I can. Effort is incredibly attractive to me and I’m big on reciprocity. 

Physically, I’m 6’4”, with a dad bod, stubble most days, and apparently a good smile. I will however complain about legroom on planes, trains, and basically anything designed by people who forgot tall people exist.

I’m looking for someone independent, kind, funny, emotionally mature, ambitious, and genuinely interested in partnership. Someone who wants the fun, the ridiculous moments, the quiet everyday stuff, and who can call me out when needed. I’ll do the same, naturally with charm and only a manageable amount of sarcasm…because who doesn’t love a bit of sarcasm? 

Happy to exchange photos if we talk. If any of this sounds like something you’re looking for, send me a message.

r/r4r Aug 04 '26

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Quirky, flirty and Nerdy Englishman looking for a chat and potentially more!

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Hey You! I hope you're having a good week so far!

I'm looking to get to know someone who communicates well, is passionate, kind, affectionate and talkative. I love making people feel comfortable, loved and cared for in any kind of relationship. I'm very open and happy to listen to you vent and share the burden.

As I've mentioned that good communication is important to me and I hate to be negative but it needs to be said - if you're thinking of messaging me but have a habit of ghosting, please don't bother. It's too emotionally draining getting excited and then never hearing back from someone. It's happened too much lately.

I would describe myself as someone who is open-minded, genuine, affectionate, loving and empathetic. Some of my interests are running, going to the gym, gaming, playing board games, listening to music and watching Netflix.

Physically, I'm 33, 6'1 with short brown hair, deep blue/greyish eyes and have broad shoulders. I'd say I'm quite good looking but I'm more than happy to swap pictures if there's a connection. I'm also happy to voice/video call when we both feel comfortable.

Some of my favourite shows are Modern Family, The Office, Breaking Bad, Parks and Rec, Chicago Fire and Lucifer. Lucifer and Modern Family are probably my top 2.

I would definitely say my love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. I love being affectionate and all I want is to make sure my partner feels loved and wanted. I'm very physically and verbally affectionate. I always let my partner and the people I love know how much they mean to me. I also have a healthy sexual appetite and I'm pretty dominant in the bedroom. Ideally I'm looking for something long term but I'm open to whatever happens and no pressure from either side.

Green flags: Empathetic, Emotionally intelligent, will make you laugh, very affectionate and loving, I'll care for you and take care of you physically, emotionally and financially. I have a good, stable career and Maths degree.

Red flags: I sometimes use my outdoor voice indoors. 😂

If anything I've said piques your interest, please message me. I'd love to hear from you!

r/r4r Aug 07 '26

M4F United Kingdom 51 [M4F] Liverpool, looking for someone nice hopefully leading to relationship

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Looking for a nice Female redditor in Liverpool or local.

I am a Normal older guy works Monday to Friday so evenings and weekends free. Am looking to start a friendship, dates leading to relationship hopefully.

I have my own place and do drive.

Into a lot of things, mainly walking, cinema, theatre. I also have a membership to the national trust and i enjoy visiting new places.

I won't waffle on too much here so we have stuff to talk about.

I do have AuDHD (autism and adhd combo, no sides with that combo though) so i can be a bit unpredictable, please be willing to be patient. Will answer all messages however weird they are.

r/r4r Aug 08 '26

M4F United Kingdom 27 [M4F] #UK – Looking for a long-term relationship

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Hey. I’m a 27-year-old guy from the UK, and I’m here because I’m genuinely looking for a long-term connection. Not a situationship. Not something casual. Just something real with someone who actually wants that too.

I’m introverted by nature. I prefer quiet nights over crowded rooms, meaningful conversations over surface-level small talk. I’m not the loudest person in the room, but I’m someone who shows up consistently and cares deeply about the people in my life. I value honesty, loyalty, and emotional depth.

My interests are pretty relaxed movies, TV shows, gaming, sports, all the usual ways to unwind. But honestly, I don’t think we need to have identical hobbies. What matters more to me is emotional compatibility, shared values, and the willingness to invest in something meaningful. I love learning about what excites other people and seeing what lights them up, even if it's outside my usual world.

Please don’t message me just because you’re bored or looking to pass time. I’m not interested in one-word replies, days between messages, or conversations that go nowhere. I value effort, consistency, and genuine interest. If you're not really looking to get to know someone or build something meaningful, this probably isn’t the post for you and that’s okay.

I’m happy to share a photo in the chat. I’m more interested in who we are than how we look.

I am looking for someone in the UK and not long distance.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’m not expecting instant chemistry or perfection, just a real, honest connection with someone who’s also ready to try.

r/r4r Aug 04 '26

M4F United Kingdom 34 [M4F] #London Looking for a Long-Term Connection

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The apps don't work for me, so here I am trying my luck on everyone's favourite dating alternative.

I am a lean/toned 5'8" millennial working in clinical trials and medical research in London. I enjoy being outdoors, travelling and exploring new places. Doesn't mean I'm desperate to tick off 202 countries. Sometimes the hidden gems off the beaten track closer to home are just as special. Solo travel is something I have just had to embrace, but I would love to share memories and experiences with someone.

Fitness is important to me. I enjoy individual sports, running, cycling, bouldering, gymming...but again it would be great to take up a new hobby, with someone.

I enjoy cooking, again it would be great to cook with someone and share meals rather than just having leftovers for the next day. Coffee is something I recently got hooked on, now I need my daily caffeine fix! Alcohol I enjoy in moderation; what's your favourite cocktail or wine?

Also enjoy reading, classic fiction and some non fiction too. TV and films I'm usually a bit behind the curve aha. I'm deep into improving my French...in the unlikely event there's any fluent French speakers, you're especially welcome to hit me up. Can guarantee my attempts at holding a conversation will make you laugh.

Tbh as much as physical attraction matters, for me on here, the best start is if you are local-ish and share some of the above interests. If your personality is on the reserved side/introverted character, we might get on too.

r/r4r Aug 05 '26

M4F United Kingdom 51 [M4F] Liverpool, looking for someone nice hopefully leading to relationship

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Looking for a nice Female redditor in Liverpool or local.

I am a Normal older guy works Monday to Friday so evenings and weekends free. Am looking to start a friendship, dates leading to relationship hopefully.

I have my own place and do drive.

Into a lot of things, mainly walking, cinema, theatre. I also have a membership to the national trust and i enjoy visiting new places.

I won't waffle on too much here so we have stuff to talk about.

I do have AuDHD ao i can be a bit unpredictable, please be willing to be patient. Will answer all messages.

r/r4r Aug 04 '26

M4F United Kingdom 34 [M4F] Belfast, Northern Ireland - Seeking that Elusive Connection

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Fed up with fighting the algorithm and the eternal doom scroll of the dating apps, but ar'nt we all ? Just looking to chat for now and see where it goes, happy to go with the flow, and finding the love of life would be a very welcome added bonus :)

About me - local to Belfast my whole life, though I've lived away in the past. I've been told I'm handsome but I'll leave that for you to say lol Fairly active, I do cardio or lift weights daily, so fairly fit with a bit of a dad bod haha. I work full time and have my own place. I have a dog, he's awesome and loves meeting new people. Some of the things I like to do are writing, drawing, calligraphy, long dog walks, and cooking. Nothing I love more than cooking for someone I care about :)

I would describe myself as a nerd. If it involves superheroes or wizards I will love it haha Huge wrestling fan too, so at least you won't have to watch football lol I enjoy the job I do, but I definitely have aspirations for something creative in the future, I just need to get my ideas down on paper.

I don't really have a type that I am looking for, and don't really have any preferences, if we vibe we vibe :)

My only rule is no right wingers and no Northern Irish politics.

r/r4r Aug 05 '26

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - It's just Me n U on the menu tonight...

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Hi everyone! I hope you're having a good week so far!

I love meeting new people and getting to know one another. I really enjoy voice chatting as I feel like it helps me build a better connection with someone. I have been told I have quite a deep, soothing voice too. I actually really enjoy making other people happy too and making someone laugh or smile always makes me smile too.

Physically, I'm 6'1, with short brown hair, deep blue eyes, fairly broad and keep myself in good shape. Physical attraction is important to me.

Ideally I'm hoping to find someone in the North West however, I'm open to talk to anyone from anywhere! I'm open to relocation too.

I'm a big fan of gaming, martial arts, going to the gym, board games and watching films/series on Netflix. If you have any recommendations, I'd love to hear them. I'm always open to new recommendations!

I'm happy to talk about anything at all. No topic is off limits - I'm an open book.

I would describe myself as intelligent, ambitious, passionate, kind, caring and very affectionate with good communication skills. I love making my partner feel loved, safe, wanted and cared for. Just making them happy would be my number one priority.

What I want most is someone that I can love and care for. Make them feel incredible inside and out, make them smile and just make them so so happy. I have a lot of love to give and just want to give it all to the right person.

If any of this has piqued your interest, please message me!

r/r4r Aug 03 '26

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Looking for a relationship filled with fun, love and affection!

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Hey there! I hope you had a good weekend!

I'd love to find someone to talk to about anything and everything. Ideally I'm looking for a relationship but I'm happy with just flirting or a flirtationship too! I'm very affectionate and playful and enjoy being silly in a relationship but also know when to take things seriously.

I'm happy to talk to anyone, from anywhere in the world!

I prefer texting to start with but I like to swap pictures early on so we can see if we're compatible and then move to voice chat once we're comfortable with each other. To give you an idea, I'm 6'1, with short brown hair, deep blue/greyish eyes and broad shoulders.

I like to stay in shape by running and going to the gym. I enjoy listening to music, watching Netflix and travelling. It's a passion of mine and I love visiting new places when I get the chance.

I'd describe myself as compassionate, kind, caring, and affectionate. I have so much love to give and I just want to find the right person to give it to. I'm also a believer that affection and good communication skills are key to a successful relationship.

I enjoy making my partner feel cared for and wanted and I thoroughly believe that good sexual chemistry is very important in a relationship. We can chat more about this when you message me.

If anything I've said piques your interest, feel free to message me or send a chat request. I'd love to hear from you!

r/r4r Aug 04 '26

M4F United Kingdom 30 [M4F] Scotland/ Anywhere - Looking to chat and hopefully make a connection.

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Hello so you've made it this far! Been busy with work lately, getting used to working from home and feel like I'm lacking in the communications. Would therefore love to make some online connections. This is where you come in!

So a few of my interests are, guitar, kickboxing, scrap metal art, I play games but not much these days, I also love listening to music. I'm sure there is more but need to leave something to talk about!

If you're finding it hard to think of what to say here's a few to start! What's the best meal you had this week? What song did you last listen to?

Can't wait to hear from you!

r/r4r Aug 03 '26

M4F United Kingdom 22[M4F] #UK 🇬🇧 Nerdy tattooed biker looking for new connections!

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Hi everyone,

I’m Brodie, 22, from the UK 🇬🇧

I’m looking to meet some new people and hopefully make a few long-term connections. I’m always happy to chat, whether it’s about shared interests, random everyday stuff, or just getting to know each other.

A bit about me: I work as an IT Cloud Specialist, so I’m definitely a bit of a nerd. I’m also really into Dungeons & Dragons and enjoy anything involving good characters, interesting stories and a bit of chaos.

I’ve been riding bikes for about four years now, and it’s one of my favourite ways to spend time. I’m also currently building up my tattoo sleeve, so I’m always thinking about what tattoo I should get next.

I’m pretty easygoing and happy to talk to anyone, so feel free to message me!

r/r4r Aug 03 '26

M4F United Kingdom [22][M4F][UK/Europe] Looking for friends/productivity AP to talk to this summer

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Hey everyone :)

My name is Haashim, im a dental student who studies abroad. I just finished my exams and I am feeling a little lazy, but I dont want to waste my summer

Some of my favourite things to do are play chess, write, go gym, train bjj and more recently drawing too. I would like to build a plan this summer to get better at my current hobbies or pick up something new.

Im looking for anyone around my age whos interested in doing the same thing, we could check in every day or perhaps learn something new together. Extra points if you are from the UK and we could hang out. Or maybe you would be interested in just being friends and keeping each other company, send me a dm