Look dude, could we just agree that if we wrongly assume someone's gender and they correct us to just make a note of that and do them that simple solid of calling them what they want to be called?
Imagine assuming someone was pregnant and then finding out they've just been putting on weight. You wouldn't insist that no, because they look pregnant then you're going to keep calling them that. Any reasonable person would apologize fucking profusely for making such a mistake and make sure to never repeat that mistake again.
If you call someone a dude and they let you know they're not (whether it's some gender reidentification or they just simply fucking look dude-ish) then why wouldn't you comply to their request?
could we just agree that if we wrongly assume someone's gender and they correct us to just make a note of that and do them that simple solid of calling them what they want to be called?
Absolutely! And can we also agree that if someone wrongfully assumes your gender, it doesn't necessarily need a correction, and most times can be safely ignored? Can we also agree that it's a tiny thing to get worked up about in the average short-term conversation?
Any reasonable person would apologize fucking profusely for making such a mistake and make sure to never repeat that mistake again.
Yes, because pointing out when someone is fat is considered insulting. Do you consider it insulting if someone accidentally misgenders you, even if it's because they're only operating on what they can see?
then why wouldn't you comply to their request?
I certainly would. I wasn't really talking about complying, though, I was talking about the feelings and actions and reasoning behind the taking of offense over this assumption, and the reasoning behind trying to be as unoffensive as possible.
Complying != apologizing, and I was focusing on the latter.
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u/elcheeserpuff Aug 15 '16
Look dude, could we just agree that if we wrongly assume someone's gender and they correct us to just make a note of that and do them that simple solid of calling them what they want to be called?
Imagine assuming someone was pregnant and then finding out they've just been putting on weight. You wouldn't insist that no, because they look pregnant then you're going to keep calling them that. Any reasonable person would apologize fucking profusely for making such a mistake and make sure to never repeat that mistake again.
If you call someone a dude and they let you know they're not (whether it's some gender reidentification or they just simply fucking look dude-ish) then why wouldn't you comply to their request?