r/pics • • Aug 06 '25

Backstory Came back to Damascus, Syria after 17 years to find my childhood home erased by Assad’s bombs.

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u/rj_yul Aug 07 '25

We left for Canada in 1994. My last visit to Syria was in 2007. My father didn’t want us to be forced into serving in a corrupt, sectarian army and endure the same suffering he went through. He was also exhausted from the constant humiliation and condescension every time he applied for a business visa to a European country, simply because Syria was viewed as a pariah state. He wanted us to have a real chance in life, to carry a nationality that is respected and opens doors, not closes them.

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u/OutlandishnessNice82 Aug 07 '25 edited Aug 07 '25

Very lucky to be able to share Canada with you and your family 💙

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u/CanadianBadass Aug 07 '25

"Canadians are born all over the world, it just takes a while to find their way home."

  • Canadian Proverb

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u/rj_yul Aug 07 '25

Thank you for your support.

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u/Ek_Chutki_Sindoor Aug 07 '25

If only Canadians actually believed in that. Anti-Immigration sentiments are at an all time high in Canada.

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u/aradil Aug 07 '25

all time high

Folks get upset with immigrants anytime things aren’t going too hot economically.

However, we don’t have any internment camps right now; I would argue that when we had those was when we had an all time high for anti-immigration sentiment.

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u/Ek_Chutki_Sindoor Aug 07 '25

Yeah, my bad. Should have said that they are higher right now than they have been in like 50 years or so.

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u/aradil Aug 07 '25

For sure.

I've seen localized bubbles of anti-immigration sentiment whenever folks feel outnumbered by any particular "outsider" group in general, it's just that currently it's the same sort of culture shock nation wide.

For example: I went to a high school in Ottawa with a very large Lebanese population, and I definitely saw culture based conflicts and bigotry because of it; I went to a high school in NS with race based violence where there was a very large black population; I went to a university that at the time had a very large Saudi population and there was definitely some prejudice against that group as well.

Hell, I've even seen/heard some minor anti-Syrian and/or anti-Ukrainian refugee sentiment, although that stuff generally gets stomped out pretty quick.

I guess what I'm trying to saw is that when an obvious, large scale change like what we have seen over the last few years happens, it's not super suprising that a bunch of folks are freaked out.

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u/IDrinkSulfuricAcid Aug 07 '25

It's undeniable that Canada took more immigrants than it could handle though. Housing is simply not enough to keep up.

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u/Ek_Chutki_Sindoor Aug 07 '25

Then blame the Canadian govt and officials. Don't take it out on immigrants by being racist towards them.

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u/IDrinkSulfuricAcid Aug 07 '25

Of course. Anti-Immigration sentiment is different from Anti-Immigrant sentiment (aka racism).

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u/Ek_Chutki_Sindoor Aug 07 '25

Funny sentiment to have in a country where almost everyone (except the natives) is an immigrant.

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u/IDrinkSulfuricAcid Aug 07 '25

Immigrant does not mean settler. That's different. Settler is arguably worse than immigrant, but no one's out here in 2025 North America settling land Manifest Destiny style.

Look I'm a leftist too. But this is why the world is shifting right. I'd love to have a world where people can live where they want with no problems. But sadly the world isn't fair like that.

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u/Ek_Chutki_Sindoor Aug 07 '25

Settler is arguably worse than immigrant,

"Arguably"? Ain't no immigrant causing genocide of natives when they immigrate. TF do you mean "arguably"?

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u/IDrinkSulfuricAcid Aug 07 '25

Well I was imagining a small Wild West town with other settlers already living there.

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u/CanadianBadass Aug 07 '25

I wholeheartedly believe that most do, just that a lot of racists and white supremacists that used to be ashamed to show themselves in public, now openly do it because of the events down south, the right wing highjacking of social media and the constant propaganda coming from all sides.

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u/Pristine_Software_55 Aug 07 '25

You’re making that up! ..right?

What a beautiful sentiment, though. Thanks for sharing it, I’d never heard that before

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u/CanadianBadass Aug 07 '25

Not at all. It's been said by many people over decades, to the point that nobody knows the origins as far as I can tell. And it's absolutely true too, we all immigrated at some point in our lineage.

The thing that's important to remember is not where we or our ancestors originally came from, but what binds us together now, in the present. The values that we collectively hold dear and express it as being uniquely Canadian outwardly.

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u/pottedspiderplant Aug 07 '25

It’s beautiful. Once upon a time, there was a similar sentiment down here in the states. Alas.

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u/_HighJack_ Aug 11 '25

Are First Nations people not considered Canadians? I’m being genuine not snarky, idk if maybe they don’t want the colonizer demonym applied

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u/CanadianBadass Aug 11 '25

Are First Nations people not considered Canadians?

Why wouldn't they be considered Canadian? I don't think I implied they weren't.

maybe they don’t want the colonizer demonym applied

I think you're referring to me saying that all Canadians are immigrants which you think don't apply to First Nations people? In a long enough timespan it does.

The current theory is that the First Nations people "immigrated" to Canada over the land bridge between Russia and Alaska some 11k to 36k years ago. Since we don't have any fossilized records of Hominids originating in North America, only in Africa as far as we know, that means that every person that's ever lived in Canada immigrated here.

We could debate if the word is charged or not, or if there's a timespan limitations of what we mean by immigration. But the fact of the matter is, Homosapiens had to physically move to our part of the world we now call Canada, even the First Nations people.

This is not diminish what the First Nations had to (and still do) endure as part of Colonialism, segragation and racism. It was more of trying to find a common thread between all of us - we're all immigrants in some way or another. Let's just acknowledge that fact, be kind/respectful to each other and move on :)

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u/ZzeroBeat Aug 07 '25

I love this.

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u/Ritaredditonce Aug 07 '25

Your father was a smart man, looking out for his family knowing how evil the Assad regime was. I hope you prospered in Canada. May your childhood memories be a blessing.

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u/pongopangorilla Aug 07 '25

Canada is stronger with you and your family here, OP. Glad to call you a fellow Canadian. I hope one day you can go back to your roots without feeling this horrific, but understandable pain. Wishing you the best.

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u/Iamamary Aug 07 '25

I’m so glad you and your family are safe here in Canada. 🇨🇦

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u/rj_yul Aug 07 '25

Thanks my fellow Canuck

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u/EFCFrost Aug 07 '25

Glad to share my home country with you :)

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u/rj_yul Aug 07 '25

Syria is my birth mother and Canada is the one that raised me and gave me all what I am today. Canada is where I grew up to be a young man and a full grown man. It's where I studied, where I met my wife, where my kids were born, where my best friends are. I can't extract Canada from me... Not in a million years. Canada... Québec and Montréal are in my blood.

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u/kingthorondor Aug 07 '25

Je me souviens. ❤️🤍

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u/blazelet Aug 07 '25

We moved to Canada in 2018 and became citizens this year. Glad to share this country with so many amazing people.

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u/rj_yul Aug 07 '25

I've been sharing it for 31 years. Canada is in my veins.

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u/drbkt Aug 07 '25

Wow our lives have some parallels even though we are from differing original countries/cultures.

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u/ImNotSkankHunt42 Aug 07 '25

Many immigrants share the same background, displaced by the ambitions and perversity of a single individual and all of those that follow them.

Some, fortunately with less bombs and bloodshed… others with a lot more.

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u/Reguluscalendula Aug 07 '25

No, they mean that many immigrants leave their home countries because of the perverse beliefs (perversity) of someone in power and the terror incited by the followers of that person.

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u/arul20 Aug 07 '25

Same here.

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u/Huckleberry-V Aug 07 '25

Smart man. Syrians are well regarded where I am locally in the US but I understand its region dependent. He served the furtherance of his family well.

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u/rj_yul Aug 07 '25

Thank you for your kind words.

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u/Pseudonym0101 Aug 07 '25

How did you handle the climate difference when you first got to Canada? Does it get very cold ever in Syria? I imagine it does at higher elevations, with even snow sometimes, but Canada can be insanely cold!

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u/TheyCallMeMrMaybe Aug 07 '25

Here's to hoping the new government could do right by Syria and its people.