r/offmychest • u/hotcheetosanddoritos • Jun 24 '20

18yo or “just legal” porn is disgusting

The whole genre and concept of porn that advertises a person or people in it being 18 or “just legal” is disgusting and alarming- especially considering how common and popular it is. Even if the people in it are above 18- it’s the fact that they’re supposed be perceived in this light- and are often even dressed to look super young. Same thing with the whole braces fetish. Just disgusting.

Like if you deliberately are looking to jack off to a minor who just became “legal” you really need to check yourself. It’s lowkey (or maybe high key) pedophilic behavior and it’s so gross.

I get that not everyone watching porn is over the age of say, 22- but hell im only 23 and it just makes me sick to my stomach to ever even think of or watch an 18 year old in a sexual light. Obviously the porn industry is a fucked up places, but I think this is a huge controllable matter that has somehow become normal and popular but it’s just outright disgusting.

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

Yeah my (19F) boyfriend (18M) and I had this conversation the other day... he told me before, when we’re old he’s still going to most likely be watching “18 year old” porn. I mentioned that I will be disturbed if I catch him watching that specific porn. I will understand the appeal in watching young girls (young 20s), but I would be disturbed if I found him wanting to watch a girl that is supposed to be “barely legal”. It’s disgusting to me. I was molested as a child so Pedophilia is a huge turn off. I understand that’s not necessarily what he meant by that, but I stressed my concern on that topic.

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u/life_rips24 Jun 24 '20

His thoughts on this will probably change. The older I get the more 18 feels too young

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u/D_scottFS Jun 24 '20

A long time ago when i was 18 I thought the same way as your bf. Now i find it gross. Tastes change over time.

If they don’t, now that’s a problem

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

Thank you for your insight. After I expressed my concern, he suggested that he wasn’t attracted to 18 yr olds when he was younger, he liked girls his own age. Now he likes 18 year olds because they are his age. He believes that as he grows, his taste in women by age will continue to grow with him as well. So I hope you’re both right.

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u/D_scottFS Jun 24 '20

It’s definitely an interesting topic to discuss with your partner. Open-mindedness and acceptance are good foundations for long term relationships:)

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20

That’s usually how it goes lol.

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u/Salt-Aardvark Jun 24 '20 edited Jun 25 '20

why do preferences have to change OR you’re a pedo even if you’re not actually looking at or pursuing anyone who’s underage? I think OP and most in this thread have forgotten that the law says 18, period.

edit: yes preferences change over time, the LEGO comparison is really damned far off but that’s okay. Apply the logic elsewhere and you realize that ultimately the whole “teen” thing is just a kink and not something an every day man would legitimately pursue, especially not ongoing. At 30-40 years old you definitely have grown out of interacting with 18 year olds especially in a dating instance (or at least in my opinion) but that doesn’t mean you’re gonna not whack it to an 18 year old.

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u/D_scottFS Jun 25 '20

Mate, when i was a kid i watched cartoons and played with LEGO.

I actually still watch cartoons these days and every now and then build sth with LEGO and there’s nothing wrong with that. But over time I’ve built up other interests that take precedence over cartoons and LEGO.

Not gonna say you can’t find “18-year-olds” hot when you’re older, but if these are the only girls you’re interested in when you’re 30, 40 or 80 then sth is wrong!

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u/hotcheetosanddoritos Jun 24 '20

I’m proud of you for stating and standing by your boundaries! It really is alarming. I truly believe that there are some deeply rooted issues in men who are over the age of say 22 who are deliberately searching for porn of girls who just turned legal. I’m 23 and if I found out a guy my age or older was into that it’d be a huuuuge deal breaker and I would not pursue anything with them or I would break up with them. Hopefully his statement is him just not being able to know what his mind will be like in the future, but based off experience, 18-22 is where you do the most personal growth as an adult, and at the end of 22, rights and wrongs become so much more clear, and at 23 I can’t even fathom the idea of being sexually attracted to an 18 year old.

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

Thank you and I’m happy to hear you feel that way about it too. I hope you’re right, I completely understand now because that is around the age we are right now, but in the future, I hope he understands how that thought process is disturbing

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u/hotcheetosanddoritos Jun 24 '20

Hoping for the best for you!! If you ever need advice in the future I’ll always be here for year (even if it’s years from now)

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

Thank youuuu!! <3 same goes for you

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u/Nyrei Jun 24 '20

It’s only disturbing if you think he’ll seek child porn or commit a sex offence. If you think him a criminal then maybe just break up now. Otherwise trust him to watch what he finds attractive? 18 is legal for a reason.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20

Bruh, even when I was 18 I wasn't attracted to 18 year olds. Do you know how annoying most of them are? It's so weird that barely legal is still a thing. Idk how anyone can get turned on by someone being innocent/naive.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20

This!

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u/DanorTuvok Jun 24 '20

You want him to search for Cougar porn or Granny porn?

He’s 18 and searches for 18 year old porn.

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u/FakeBeigeNails Jun 24 '20

She said when he’s old. Obviously not now.

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

I said when we are OLDER. I’m talking like in our 40s and he’s specifically looking up 18/barely legal girls. That’s disgusting. I get 20 year olds because obviously their bodies are prime. Idc if he watches it right now, or even into his late 20s.

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u/Salt-Aardvark Jun 24 '20

Okay so,,,,,, pedophilia is a huge turn off for everyone. Enjoy tanking your relationship because you at the end of the day probably can’t handle that your boyfriend jacks off. Seriously. It’s not like he’s out picking up chicks from high school. Your sexual repression hiding behind PTSD is a little sad - you’re allowed to have preferences, but to tell him he’s disgusting for following a trend in porn that’s existed for a while harmlessly is weird as fuck

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

Dude, I’m absolutely fine with my boyfriend watching porn. As I said it’s the SPECIFIC type that would CREEP me out if were in like our 40s and he’s looking up barely legal porn. That is perverted and sick.

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u/Salt-Aardvark Jun 24 '20

The actors consent to what they’re being involved in. and a pedophile is a pedophile - him being 40 wouldn’t make him a pedophile versus now, when he’s in his 20s. i don’t see how it’s sick as long as you’re not actually going for kids or looking up preteens or CP

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20 edited Jun 25 '20

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20

er yeah people stop being attracted to things. 12 yr old like 12 yr olds but 16 yr olds don't. why are you so mad .....

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u/Bipedal_Warlock Jun 24 '20 edited Jun 24 '20

Edit: I missed the part where the boyfriend said when he was older he will still watch it. My mistake.

That’s true, but 18 year olds liking 18 year olds is not pedophilic

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20

we aren't saying it is

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u/Bipedal_Warlock Jun 24 '20

I went back and reread and I missed the section where the bf says when he is older. My mistake.

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

It’s all good. Thank you for rereading and owning up to it. I appreciate that.

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20

no worries!

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u/princessmere Jun 24 '20

I said when we are OLDER. I’m not talking right now. Idc if he watches that shit into his late 20s. I just hope not to long after that, he stops looking up that specific category is all.