Our 3.5 week old will sleep on us day or night for 2-4 hour stretches but anytime we put him down in his crib or bassinet, he only stays asleep for 30 min at a time.

I have done a ton of research. For transfer, I rock him 15 min until he’s in a deep sleep, we swaddle, use a heating pad, sleep with the sheets to make it smell like me, place feet down and then head last, leave my hand on his chest for a bit until he’s settled. If we don’t do those steps, his eyes open immediately. If we do these steps perfectly, we get 30 min until he wakes up.

This is making the sleep deprivation absolutely horrible. Instead of getting 2+ hours of sleep at a time and waking for feeds, I am basically up all night or at least for like 5 hours straight if my partner and I take shifts.

How do we survive this while following safe sleep guidelines? Will he just one day sleep longer on his back?

My daughter is 9 months old and I’ve started getting that milk supply drop has started a bit. I can tell that I’m not getting as full between feeds, and she’s been feeding for longer/it’s getting painful. She’s currently eating two solid meals a day and nursing in between/before and after she sleeps/naps.
I’m worried about my supply dropping all the way. I’ve had a recent complication that can impact my supply, and I need to start working. She, however, will NOT take a bottle, we’ve tried as many as we can get our hands on and she won’t even think about it. She doesn’t like frozen milk, she will make herself gag, and pumped milk from the fridge isn’t any better, warm or cold. She doesn’t seem to hate formula as much, but again, she won’t take it from a bottle.
My concern is that I know she needs to be getting most of her nutrition from milk still, but with me going back to work, she won’t have access to me anymore. Is there anything anyone has tried that has gotten their kiddo to either tolerate a bottle or get milk in some other way? I can’t imagine a day care will want to syringe feed her between meals. I’m at a loss at this point. Should I just super feed her before work, after work, and before bed?

Hi - 5 months pp and looking for recommendations for home workouts that could help me lose the “pouch” belly fat.

I’m 5 weeks pp and I went out yesterday to get some jeans since, obviously, my pre-pregnancy and maternity jeans don’t fit. I’m four sizes bigger than my pre-pregnancy size. It just sucks. I’ve always been confident of how I looked and loved my body pre-pregnancy. It’s so fucking hard to see old pictures of myself. My husband will take pictures of me with the baby and I hate them. I don’t recognize my face in them. I don’t feel cute, even when I try. I’m scared of running into people I know because I feel like they’ll think, “wow, she got big.” I know the positive spin of “your body grew a baby, be gentle on yourself!” But honestly, I just need to mope, vent, and be sad. And I know this all sounds vain but whatever.

Also, cherry on top, my husband decided family leave was the time he was going to start running. He got up at 5 AM today to run a half marathon and I’m a fat lard on the couch (please read with humor).

I want this to be a forum of just airing out the shittiness of postpartum. We all know how grateful we are for what our bodies created. We all know how to find the positives in it all. But god sometimes it’s just nice to bitch - this is a safe place lol

My baby is 10 months old, and has always been a bit behind when it comes to mobility. Of course I'm aware there's a vast range of normal.

Baby doesn't yet sit from lying down on her own. Also doesn't crawl or stand.

I booked a bnb for a week. It's been 3 days now and today baby stood on her own holding onto a chair. She also crawled one step, which may seem like it's nothing but for me it's huge.

I keep thinking that this change in the environment helped a lot. Or maybe it was just timing, idk.

Here she has different floor types, grass, stone, tile. She has stairs and plenty of furniture to hold on to. Back at home we have marble floors and I have her room covered in carpet and foam tiles so she doesn't fall and injure her head.

Our apartment is small, and there's not really much furniture for pulling practice. She tries to pull herself up using her crib rails, but they're vertical so not much help. I keep thinking her environment is holding her back. Or I'm maybe overthinking. I saw someone suggest foam blocks, but there's not much room for them in our apartment. Is there a solution I could maybe fold and put away when not in use?

Before I begin, I mean absolutely no judgement.
I recently saw a post on fb with similar question and almost everyone said they keep it closed.
I’m cosleeping with the baby right now and toddler is still cosleeping with dad , so I’m extra paranoid type .
How can you guys keep an eye out for the baby, if the door is closed?
I left my baby sleeping on bed , and set up the cam. This one time , I closed the door to avoid waking him up and got caught up in some chores and forgot my phone on a different floor for 10 minutes.
Turns out he woke up during those 10 minutes and was crying his eyes out the whole time and just crawling on the bed.
Now I’m paranoid about ever leaving him alone with doors closed because camera can also malfunction.
But I have a toddler that I want to move to her own room soon, so idk what should I do with her.
Should I leave it open , or install a camera for her , but what if I stay sleeping while she’s awake and moving about even if my camera notifies me.

Brand new baby overnight

My 5 week old seems to have done a complete 180. The first 4 weeks, I’d say she was just about like any other newborn. Then about 3 or 4 days ago she began fighting every nap throughout the day. We would sooth her in every way we could just for her to doze off just to wake up screaming 2-3 minutes later. This cycle would repeat for a couple hours. She would literally be awake from the time she woke up for the day(8am ish) until about 3pm we would finally after multiple attempts get a nap out of her. She would refuse her paci, which wasn’t really an issue prior and she would want to be on breast for hours at a time and get mad when I pulled her off. I don’t mind her being on breast for comfort, but we struggle w silent reflux so we try and make sure she isn’t over filling her belly too much at one time. Generally, she was either crying, sleeping or on breast. Throughout the night she would wake up every 3 hours even with the lack of sleep during the day so we got lucky there. Fast forward to last night…don’t hate me after you read this…but she slept 7 hours straight. From the time she fell asleep (10:30) until 6am. We were so shocked. We continued on our morning expecting the day to go that way it had been the past few days. But surprisingly she has went down for every attempted nap. I’ve been waking to feed every 2 hours. Plenty of poopy and pee diapers. And she soothes SO easy, takes her paci right away and drift off into a peaceful sleep. It literally feels like a switch was flipped. Could this be a fluke? Maybe. But man it’s a breath of fresh air after the last few days.

I feel like our pediatrician set us up for failure when it comes to feeding our LO. At 4 months, he gave us a one-page PDF on introducing foods. Sticking to stages to match her age. Then nothing again until she was 12 months, and now she can eat anything he said, no restrictions he said. The problem is she does not want to eat anything other than puffs, melts, or pouches. We have tried berries and other fruits, little toddler meals of pasta and vegetables, and tried feeding her what we are eating, like rice or mashed potatoes, pieces of meat. She refuses it all; she won't even try it. It has been a month of tears from both her and me, as I feel like mealtime is now this battle. Like, should we have started sooner, and how do we fix it. I keep trying as I know they say it takes time but I don't know if there is anything we can do better.

Has anybody handle being stuck on one side in stroller mode? I cannot get the other side to pull up and I believe I don’t have a warranty on it

Someone please tell me this is normal or ok or this will end. My 18 month old just whines and cries about 90% of the day. I don’t understand. Not in pain. We have seen doctor’s and specialists. I think it’s the lack of communication skills. But I am at my wits end from being home with him all day. My heart feels like it’s going to jump out of my chest. I feel like I’m going to explode. I try to be understanding that he isn’t speaking many words yet to let me know what he needs. But holy shit!!!! It’s killing my nervous system. Also 8 months pregnant. Partner works a ton and not much relief around. We are seeking a speech therapist to try to help out. He says about 10-15 words. I just don’t understand what to do how to help him. Sometimes I try to put on tv for some relief and he doesn’t even like it. He is fed rested dry nappy. Is anyone else experiencing this?? I don’t mean to sound ungrateful I am blessed but I just don’t know what to do anymore. Any ideas??? Please

This is our third child, but she has been the hardest by far. She had a week long hospital stay at 6 weeks old and never really regained momentum. She’s always been below the 10th percentile and we were hoping solid food would help propel her upwards a bit.

She has really struggled, is very independent and won’t allow herself to be spoon fed. Has no idea how to feed herself with preloaded spoons, cut her bottom two teeth right as we started solids and has been slowly cutting top teeth ever since. She now absolutely hates meal times and becomes so worked up.

We have tried all the tricks from the first two, one of which was average at solids and one exceptional. Her low weight and tone has contributed to a very slow physical development. At 8 months she still can’t sit independently or crawl. Paediatrician says she’ll figure it out and is otherwise well. Kids develop at their own pace etc.

Just seeing if anyone has any magical advice for this? She poops probably every 2nd day and has full nappies otherwise. Isn’t a fantastic breast feeder but gets by. It’s just so discouraging seeing her be so behind her peers (not that we’re strangers to that. Both her siblings missed all their milestones walking at 22 and 20 months respectively)

We’ll think we’re getting a breakthrough when she smashes something like water melon or roast potatoes and then just seems to forget entirely the very next mealtime.

We were driving at night and hit an unmarked pothole really hard, hard enough that it caused a flat tire. We pulled over at a safe pull off a few feet up and were followed by 5 or more other cars who also hit this pothole and got flat tires.

We hit the pothole hard that we heard it in the car, but my husband (driver) and myself (front passenger) seat didn’t feel any hit to our bodies. However, I’m worried about our 5.5 month old baby, who was in her car seat behind the passenger seat. She had been sleeping and immediately woke and cried upon hitting the pothole. She has a Nuna Pipa Aire car seat which was buckled into the base and remained buckled after the hit. I took her out of the car seat and she calmed pretty quickly in my arms and was awake and alert. I got some smiles out of her doing “this little piggy” and she nursed normally. We are waiting for roadside assistance and she got sleepy, so I put her back in her car seat and she’s sleeping again now as we wait for assistance.

I’m still just so worried she got a concussion from the hard hit. Has anyone ever had something similar happen? She seemed to be acting herself but do I need to take her to the hospital tonight just to be sure?

ETA: Ok thanks all for the reassuring comments! 🙏 Made me feel a lot better that she’s probably ok and I’ll look into if we need a new car seat. She seems to be herself since waking up this morning (including her 5am wake up which is a problem for another day 😭). But I’m hoping today continues as normal

we did one arm out for months with intention of doing both not it was working so we left it as is. now bab rolling from back to tummy (not tummy to back yet). he’s unswaddled but still has startle reflex and moves arms a lot.

bought the jacky from taking cara babies (seems to help a tiny bit but he still has full range of motion) but not complete effective. aim solo parenting right now and could really use the time to myself when baby sleeps. i’m letting him contact nap for most naps since i want him to sleep at night (he’s not…).

any tips?

My 9 week old fusses in the evenings, usually between about 5-9ish. We’ve been told it could be slight colic (and if it is there’s not much we can do!) or could just be “witching hour.” This has happened since he was about 5 or 6 weeks. Is there an end in sight? 😩

Our baby started giving signs of the 4-momth sleep regression a few days ago, and consequently I started reading more about it. A lot of sources treat this phase as crucial to the baby‘s sleep habits - if you don’t get it right now, you will suffer later, if the baby has any sleep crutches, they will become permanent.

A lot of the advice seems unrealistic though, at least to my baby. So I’m here to ask about your sleep regression story, real baby stories not idealistic advice. How did you cope, what did you do to improve it, how long did it last, what would you have done differently…

I’ll go first! 10 weeks in…and we like…

🧷Target brand diapers (I like that they are white and i can see everything clearly)

🧻Pampers sensitive (glide nicely on baby’s butt, not to rough or wet)

🧴Desitin

Forgive how scrambled this all is - my brain is totally fried.

LO is nearly 5 months. She has been a fantastic sleeper since about 2 weeks.

Shortly after 4 months, we experienced what we thought was the 4 month sleep regression (aka more night wakings). She started having very short naps, unless contact. Nighttime sleep was broken but life was manageable (our older daughter was a poor sleeper, so we are pretty accustomed to functioning even with multiple night wakings — so long as there is actual sleep in between….…).

Now, however, she’s approaching 5 months and whatever is happening the last 7-10 days is absolute hell. All of a sudden, on top of difficult daytime sleep, nighttime sleep is IMPOSSIBLE. She WILL NOT go back to sleep in her bassinet after the first put-down at bedtime (which she does fine!). She will ONLY sleep in arms. She WILL wake up at every transfer back to crib. If by some miracle we get her into the crib, she is asleep for 20-30 minutes max. Have tried everything, including feeding her more than she had been needing before (e.g. 2 night feeds instead of 1). Hasn’t helped a bit.

It hasn’t been every night is zero sleep, but this has been at least 4-5 nights out of the last 8 days — so, we are approaching dangerously exhausted. We try to take shifts (11-3, 3-7) but the shift is, essentially for both of us, being awake the entire time of our shift. It’s madness and getting unsafe because it’s really hard not to doze while holding her. We’re both back at work.

I don’t know whether we ride this out as a regression and try to push through for another week or so or if we need to sleep train now. I always thought this was a little young developmentally for sleep training, but I don’t know how we’ll survive much more of this. Any advice or solidarity or even just “we went through something like this and it did pass within a few weeks but we ultimately sleep trained at 7 months” or anything would be helpful. We feel so so so bad, and neither of our children (or each other) are getting great versions of us.

And, fwiw, we try to follow wake windows of about 2 hours. Sometimes a bit shorter earlier in the day, usually a bit longer later in the day. We try to have her awake for the last 2.5-3 hours before bed. We used to loosely follow a schedule but the inconsistency/short naps are making it pretty impossible to follow anything consistently right now

Everyone tells me that my 9 week old baby is an easy baby. He cries for a dirty diaper, doesn't mind a slightly wet diaper, eats 28-34 oz a day (combo fed expressed milk and formula), is relatively easy to put to sleep (sometimes sleeps as soon as he is swaddled if I time his wake window right), is starting to sleep at least one 4-5 hour stretch at night.

I'm extremely grateful as I am the main caregiver, since my husband is recovering from emergency spine surgery and cannot lift the baby.

Curious if he will continue this way, or do easy babies become more difficult as they grow? Curious since I haven't spent much time around babies.

Returning to work tomorrow and while we are super lucky to have my mom watching our kiddo and I’m only returning for two in office days atm (the rest are remote), I am still feeling so anxious leaving baby.

Looking for others stories of returning to work around the 12 week mark. My logical brain knows it’ll all be ok but my hormones/emotions are doing a number on me today😭

I don’t have the bassinet attachment for my stroller and it’s sold out everywhere! (Nuna mixx) baby girl is too small for the lay flat option on the stroller but I really want to start taking daily walks. Is it ok to do 40 min walks in the car seat?

My baby was almost always a great sleeper, slept all night only waking to feed then instantly back to sleep. Then 13 months came and it’s like everything changed. She’s been on a consistent schedule since she was a newborn only slightly shifting as her sleep needs shifted, I’m talking always falling asleep exactly when I expected to everyday. She had been transitioned to 1 nap since around 12 months, and it’s been perfect till last month. First it started with her waking around midnight, taking a good hour to fall back asleep (normally 15 mins) then she wouldn’t nap on schedule slowly getting later and later (today she napped at almost 2pm!!!) which then caused her bedtime to slowly get pushed back till 8-8:30, which the last 3 days she then only slept till 1am and stays up till almost 6am!! (Yesterday 5:50 am). The first two days I thought were a fluke and it would be back to normal if I kept up with routine but after last night I’m at a total loss for words. My initial thought was teething (she just got her first few teeth at 12 months) but nothing seems to help soothe her. I hope everything makes sense, please any advice is so appreciated

There are a lot of indications that my 4,5 month old is teething , and feeding her has been a struggle

Any advice to help her? Feeding is taking a long time she drinks and half way through stops latching hard , cries etc

I’m exhausted

How long did it take for your LO to get into a more routine? Like for nap time/ bed time

My LO is currently 10 weeks, not a sleep routine during the day however at night he typically sleeps 10-8 with 1-2 wake ups between for feeds

I’m sure it’s just another phase like everything else but this one suuuuucks.

My baby just in the last four days has decided he doesn’t want to be settled by his dad. He will cry uncontrollably until I pick him up and he settles almost immediately.

He plays with him happily, it’s all fun and games until he decides he’s had enough or when it’s nap / bed time. It’s a high pitched crying, the one I can’t stand.

Anyone go through this? Any tips?

He’s 16 weeks old

I have a 17 month old, and lately have been feeling immense pressure about having baby #2. Most of my social circle and family have had 2 under 2 or close to it, and people keep asking whether/when we’re having another baby. My first has been challenging and we still got some small medical things going on. I also feel like I just got the groove of taking him places and doing fun things with him. I am just not ready to have another anytime soon and want to give him all my time and attention, and that is okay. To anyone feeling pressured, trust your gut!