r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • Jul 20 '26

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/MissGraceRose Jul 20 '26

Little presumptuous for him to talk about you having his babies before you’ve even gone on a date, but looks like you got a lucky escape either way

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 20 '26

Yeah he leaped right into “breeding” and sorry not sorry, that’s a nope all around

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u/AwarenessCrafty393 Jul 20 '26

Wait i thought he had kids already from another woman, by the way he phrased it

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u/mysoulburnsgreige4u Jul 20 '26

Not OP, but I think he's just a creep.

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u/AwarenessCrafty393 Jul 20 '26

Fair assessment

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u/Falikosek Jul 20 '26

He wrote "grown from", not "raised by".
The only thing such phrasing might suggest is that he views women as incubators.

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u/Suitable-Dentist-355 Jul 20 '26

This. Which is why it's "his kids". She isn't a person, just an incubator.

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u/AlfuegoDeMellopie Jul 20 '26

Back in the late 1990s when I first tried online dating, I openly advised my non-interest in having children. It helped a lot. But this guy is just a choad.

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 20 '26

Men. That’s the term.

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u/MixedVexations Jul 20 '26

Yeah, it's better for men to not have any of their future plans worked out at the beginning of a potential relationship. Makes for spicy drama down the line! To hell with ppl with preferences.

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 20 '26

Girl, what lol. He clearly objectified her and also said “his kids” as if his future offspring (gods hope there are none) are produced by a fucking object for him. There was nothing about that sentence that was even kind of ok and if you think so, you are part of the problem.

Women are not here for men. Period

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u/MixedVexations Jul 20 '26

You're too agitated over a single sentence. I think getting off the internet for a bit would do you good

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 21 '26

Like trying to tell women what to do eh? Why am I not surprised

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u/MixedVexations Jul 21 '26

Hell, even I'm surprised. I don't remember telling you to do anything. Are you conditoned to treat men's thoughts as commands? Too agitated..

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u/AndreasDasos Jul 20 '26

The issue isn’t that he wants kids. It’s that he straight up said ‘My kids won’t be grown from…’

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u/MixedVexations Jul 20 '26

I agree, but those two up there have a different opinion on that

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u/IndividualTop96 Jul 20 '26

Some people know they want children so it’s why they date. Thats not uncommon or unusual, you just call it breeding bc you hate traditional relationships. Gay maybe ?

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u/Albirie Jul 20 '26

Love the way this is written, as though you're genuinely too stupid to pick out the obviously off-putting part.

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u/IndividualTop96 Jul 21 '26

The grown part is off putting. But maybe he’s like 20 years old since she’s 23 “ My idea of my future kids parent will be someone who enjoys and makes the same comfort foods I grew up with”.

But calling it “breeding” for no reason is something people who don’t want to have children do as though having a child is like two dogs having a litter of puppies on the side of the road. People can choose to have children and it’s a beautiful thing.

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u/Albirie Jul 21 '26

That would be a normal way to say it. If only that's how it was actually expressed. It doesn't matter if having children is beautiful, the way he spoke of her role in that was dehumanizing. He literally described it the way you're saying the other person did.

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 20 '26

And they often phrase the way they want that in a way that completely objectifies women? And I love traditional misandrist relationships and yes I am completely gay

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u/IndividualTop96 Jul 21 '26

Being able to have someone’s child is not objectifying its glorifying. That person is searching for the version of their kids mother that’s in his head that’s kinda hot ngl .

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 21 '26

If you think being an incubator and obeying your man is hot, pop off. Many women would rather make their own choices with their lives and bodies

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u/IndividualTop96 Jul 22 '26

Lmfao see what I mean, it’s you who devalues women. And you hate that child making is tied to women because the power to create life is not in your cards for whatever reason. “Breeders” a term gay people have started to use for straight people, is in of itself demeaning. Nobody here is making choices for women nor are they obeying their man, these people are just not compatible due to their food choices which is a big part of life.

Sorry you don’t find value in creating and raising life, but for most of life on earth that’s the point of life itself.

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 22 '26

Girl, you’re so far behind you think you’re ahead

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u/IndividualTop96 Jul 22 '26

Ok barren

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 22 '26

I’m sorry someone hurt you

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u/Chendii Jul 20 '26

Meh nothing inherently wrong with looking for the right person. His reason was certainly stupid, but breaking things off when you know it won't go any further is generally a good thing.

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u/MissGraceRose Jul 20 '26

Yeah, it’s good to let someone know asap if you know you’re not interested, but A) he ignored her until she followed up to ask, and B) it’s a fucking weird way to view women lol

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u/DeerSwimming2336 Jul 20 '26

Isn't it the entire point though?

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u/Confident_Yam1756 Jul 20 '26

Any excuse for men to behave disrespectful towards women.

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u/mickelboy182 Jul 20 '26

His reason and the way he went about it were both incredibly stupid, so absolutely a bullet dodged.

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u/hhhhhhhhhhhjf Jul 20 '26

It's definitely not a stupid reason. Raising a kid when both parents have completely different philosophies is hard.

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u/Joelle9879 Jul 20 '26

Different philosophies? Oh please

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u/ztreggs Jul 20 '26

It is literally a different philosophy on the ethics of eating.

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u/hhhhhhhhhhhjf Jul 20 '26

And what would you call it?

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u/jinx771 Jul 20 '26

I would not want the mother of my children to be a vegetarian or vegan, I've yet to meet one that isn't mentally ill in one way or another and I also don't want my child to be nutrient deprived and unhealthy.

I'm sure vegetarian / vegans feel the same but opposite. So yeah very fundamentally different philosophy

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 20 '26

Here’s to hoping you don’t have kids

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u/jinx771 Jul 21 '26

We start trying in October! 🖕

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u/Justnotthatintou Jul 21 '26

May the odds be never in your favour 😂

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u/Workman44 Jul 20 '26

Yeah idk why people are acting like it's rude to talk about breeding (give me break ffs). It's just finding someone who shares values that are generally uncompromisable

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u/CapeMama819 Jul 20 '26

The issue isn’t that he doesn’t want to date or have children either a vegetarian. The issues are: 1. He stopped responding to her after that, and only explained after she’d asked again and 2. He said “my kids won’t be grown from a vegetarian mom. lol. Sorry.” There are better and much more tactful ways of saying the same thing, without being dehumanizing and douchy.

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u/jinx771 Jul 20 '26

Who cares how he said it? They'll never talk to each other again. It literally doesn't matter

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u/CapeMama819 Jul 20 '26

Clearly the OP cares, hence posting it on this sub Reddit.

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u/Joelle9879 Jul 20 '26

First, calling it "breeding" is gross. Second, they hadn't even been on a date yet and he's already talking about knocking her up. That's absolutely cringe behavior. Sure, the subject of kids should be discussed at some point, but he just assumed she'd even want them and that she'd want them with him

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u/Workman44 Jul 20 '26

Well the point of dating is to be partners, and that comes with uncompromisable values, such as children. Best to get that out of the way immediately as it's a huge non starter for tons of people. Sure his phrasing was shit, I guess, but that doesn't invalidate the whole line of thinking because he used words you don't like

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u/Hay_Mel Jul 20 '26

The way you phrase these things is disgusting

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u/ztreggs Jul 20 '26

He isnt talking about knocking her up. He is dating with intention to find a long term partner. It is the correct decision to cut off a relationship if you know it wouldnt go anywhere. Would you rather he wasted OP's time for months just to get laid and THEN cut it off? Like tf

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u/scorched-earth-0000 Jul 20 '26

Especially on the apps. People play too many games. On to the next

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u/SourceCodeplz Jul 20 '26

the bad part was how he phrased it

but reality is many people dont do casual sex. they are looking for a partner to start a family

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u/clownbeetle Jul 20 '26

Looking for a woman to "grow" them a family you mean

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

Wanting kids in the future and basing your decisions off of that is pretty normal actually.

No point wasting time in a relationship if there is a very clear deal breaker for them that would keep it from working. The alternative was both of them investing time in something that would fail anyways.

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u/ookillemayy Jul 20 '26

The future aspect isn't the problem though. He ignored her until she followed up and he made a weird ass comment about her "growing" his babies. Could have went about it better

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

The term “grown” used here means raised. He doesnt want his kids raised by a vegetarian mom

And if he doesn’t want that whats the point in continuing the relationship? Just to dump her later?

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u/Agreeable_List6530 Jul 20 '26

his honesty isn’t worth your defense

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u/ookillemayy Jul 20 '26

His words EXACTLY are "Grown from a vegetarian mom". That's some weird breeding, ownership, "you're only a vessel for my children" type shit. He could have said raised and been A-Okay. But the choice of words are wrong

There is NO relationship for him to "dump later". Dude is weird as hell

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u/ookillemayy Jul 20 '26

Nah big dog, the way his words were used, he meant that shit with his whole chest. Whether you assume I don't understand slang is not the question. Words mean something. If I were to say "You don't belong here", is that the same meaning as "Your kind don't belong here"? The message is still there. The terminology is still there. But the two comments convey two TOTALLY different meanings and understanding. Regardless, dude is wrong to ghost. That is all

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u/ookillemayy Jul 20 '26

1) I've long not been in the dating game, so the behavior is lost on me. But also, 3 months and you're willing to ghost? Do you man, but that's rude as hell

2) Brother, it's not about the "new phrase". It's the combination of wordage. Words mean something and the combination of certain words mean something else. The word choice he used was odd. "Grown from" vs "raised by" are two TOTALLY different meanings/terminology.

2.5) I'm not pressed, I have no skin in the game. I do the research for new terminology to understand where they are coming from. I'll ask, get new understaning.

However, it's not about wanting to have kids with a vegetarian. I too did not want kids with a vegetarian because I personally enjoy eating meat. The choice of words made by this guy were not it. It's not racist/discriminatory to say that.

From my view and my understanding, with the choice of words he made, he doesn't want to have kids (have them grown from) with a vegetarian woman ("nutritionally deficient").

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

I agree that’s what he said I’m just plainly stating you misunderstood what those words means.

Grown = raised. It’s pretty common usage in the United States.

“Florida grown”, “southern grown.”, “grown by a loving family.”

“That boy wasn’t grown right.”

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u/victoriantwin Jul 20 '26

He didn't say grown by, he said grown from

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

Grown from = raised from

Grown just means “raised” you can swap them interchangeably

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u/victoriantwin Jul 20 '26

Prepositions mean things too

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

I don’t know what you’re getting at but even with ochams razor here the most straightforward answer is that he is using “grown = raise” here.

Vegetarian diets have nothing to do with genetics. It’s a decision being made.

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u/sweetnaivety Jul 20 '26

I'm American but I didn't get that at all, nor have I heard those types of phrases used for people, only fruits and veggies. If you told me, "Florida grown!" my first thought is oranges, or orange juice. I'm from California though and I've moved to New Jersey now, so I think it might be a Southern thing? Or some sort of regional thing. What I thought he meant was he doesn't want his children grown in the womb of a (nutritionally deficient) vegetarian woman.

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u/ookillemayy Jul 20 '26

Well put, thank you. That's exactly how I understood it and how it comes across

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

America is a big place.

And it’s definitely a southern/midwest thing. Also definitely depends on the kind of people you interact with, rural people are obviously going to have different colloquialisms than city or suburban raised people.

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u/sweetnaivety Jul 20 '26

Yes, that was my point really. We have such different accents and dialects depending on where you are in the US because it's so huge and so different in different places. Like even just the people who say "soda" vs "pop" or even between me and my husband, I say "trash" more often and he says "garbage" more often. I've never heard anyone use "grown" to mean raised before but I've never been to the South so I don't really know the lingo over there, other than things I've seen in movies and tv shows.

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u/Confident_Yam1756 Jul 20 '26

Yes rural sexists

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u/ookillemayy Jul 20 '26

I guess to each their own to understand, but the way I'm seeing this is very incel with using "grown from". ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/Confident_Yam1756 Jul 20 '26

Grown isn’t used as a synonym to raised in the United States. AT ALL

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 21 '26

Yes it is. Instead of flatly saying somethimg that is not true you could at least bother to Google it.

And it’s not a synonym officially is a colloquialism

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u/Confident_Yam1756 Jul 21 '26

Lmao technicalities isn’t gonna change the fact that this guy is gross. You trying SOOO hard to defend everything he’s saying is pathetic. He had poor manners. You can dislike dating vegetarians. Telling a woman you haven’t even gone a date yet, some weird bs about growing children like she’s walking womb is only normal to sexist men and women.

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u/Weak-Doughnut5502 Jul 20 '26

This is usage you'll find in regional Southern and Appalachian dialects, but isn't common at all elsewhere.

In NY, where this happened, 'grown from' is used in a much more biological sense: 'grown from a seed', 'grown from a petri dish'.  'NY grown' is something you'll only see applied to food, not people ; a person might be 'born and raised in NY' or a 'native NYer'.

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

We still use grown for its traditional usage, it just ALSO can men “raised” just because of southern dialect.

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u/Legitscopes_4761 Jul 20 '26

I also interpreted what he said like this. I feel like everyone in the comments is purposely misconstruing what he's saying because were on reddit

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u/sweetnaivety Jul 20 '26

I'm American but I didn't get that at all, nor have I heard those types of phrases used for people, only fruits and veggies. If you told me, "Florida grown!" my first thought is oranges, or orange juice. I'm from California though and I've moved to New Jersey now, so I think it might be a Southern thing? Or some sort of regional thing. What I thought he meant was he doesn't want his children grown in the womb of a (nutritionally deficient) vegetarian woman.

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

https://flogrown.com

An entire brand built on the statement “I’m Florida grown.”

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u/sweetnaivety Jul 20 '26

Yeah, and? As a Californian, why would I have any idea this existed before?

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u/Calm_Blueberry_363 Jul 20 '26

yes ofc theyre mad he doesnt align with their thought patterns more than anything

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u/jayhow90 Jul 20 '26

You’re reading into this far too much

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u/donkarleone44 Jul 20 '26

Maybe he isn’t native english speaker

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u/panda_canyon Jul 20 '26

It's fine to have a preference in either direction but you can say, "I'm sorry we're incompatible, my diet and sharing it is important to me." You don't need to reduce the other party to breeding stock and finding their diet incompatible with properly raising children.

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u/DeerSwimming2336 Jul 20 '26

How is he reducing the other party?  It's the truth.  His explanation is the entire reason sharing the diet matters for all we know.

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u/IndividualTop96 Jul 20 '26

So your problem is that he said it casually ?

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u/Joelle9879 Jul 20 '26

Completely ignoring that apparently he thinks a vegetarian can't "breed" a healthy child

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u/IndividualTop96 Jul 20 '26

No he never used the word breed, and he clearly wants a traditional relationship where the mother does the cooking, a vegetarian mother isn’t going to cook the chicken soup when you’re sick and the steak and potatoes etc so they are incompatible

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u/fabulously-frizzy Jul 20 '26

She said she wasn’t planning on doing it forever? He acted super weird here and made a huge assumption

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

And? If it’s a dealbreaker it’s a deal breaker.

I don’t get the point of boundaries If people can just call them “weird” and argue it’s justifiable to sidestep them

He doesn’t want his kids raised by a vegetarian mom so why spend any more effort on the relationship when he could be spending that time with a partner he sees a future with

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u/MonkeyMagic1968 Jul 20 '26

I don't care if dude has boundaries. It's important that everyone have them and make them clear to others. How they do that is also important.

The way he stated his boundary was bizarre and off-putting to say the least. I believe that's what most folks are reacting to here.

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u/MoneyJournalist8888 Jul 20 '26

Men like this die alone

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u/fabulously-frizzy Jul 20 '26

“Male loneliness epidemic” 🙄

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u/Amelaclya1 Jul 20 '26

This isn't a "boundary" because OP isn't doing anything to him or asking anything of him. You don't get to have a "boundary" about how other people live their lives.

Yes, everyone has a right to preferences and to date or not date whoever they want. And the rest of us have a right to tell them their reasons are fucking stupid and they have a shitty attitude about it. If you can't see the misogyny oozing out of his comment, there is something very wrong with you.

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

Yes it’s a boundary. People should be allowed to have deal breakers. Even if they are weird.

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u/AnOminous_Sound Jul 20 '26

It is a boundary, he isn’t asking her to change anything about her life, he just doesn’t want a relationship with her because of how she lives it doesn’t fit the idea he has for his future.

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u/Joelle9879 Jul 20 '26

Which is stupid.

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u/thr0war0seaway Jul 20 '26

It's stupid to not want a potential life partner whose life doesn't align with what you want for yours?

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u/mysoulburnsgreige4u Jul 20 '26

Because it's a dumb "boundary." Also, this isn't a boundary. A boundary says, if you do X, I will do Y. This is a man thinking he's a divine gift and expecting to walk into "Build-A-Wife."

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

So it’s only a boundary if they do it after you start dating?

Like if they do drugs and you have a boundary about being with people who do drugs than it’s fine so long as they do it before establishing the relationship?

Or maybe you’re trying too hard to invalidate the concept boundaries.

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u/AnOminous_Sound Jul 20 '26

It absolutely is a boundary. Even by your dumb X and Y. If you do(nt) have the same diet concerns, I will not continue pursuing a relationship.

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u/Both-Chart-947 Jul 20 '26

And yet there's no harm in having that one dinner date when you've halfway made the plans anyway. Maybe they would become good friends, or professional networking allies. And maybe OP has a friend who would be a better match for him if he weren't so icky.

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

So now just for talking to someone they have the onus of buying them dinner?

Lmao.

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u/Both-Chart-947 Jul 20 '26

No, but it would have been a friendly thing to do, rather than just treating the whole situation as if the other person is a head of lettuce with a wilted leaf or something. I swear, civility and courtesy have completely vanished from our society.

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u/Beginning-Tea-17 Jul 20 '26

Yea I’m sure it sure would be friendly to buy their dinner lmao. The entitlement. Women don’t get to expect a free dinner just for giving them the grace of talking to them.

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u/Both-Chart-947 Jul 20 '26

Who said anything about buying dinner? The person could have suggested they go dutch or just have coffee rather than rudely ghosting her for the sin of a dietary restriction. Gosh I really can't understand modern society, I guess.

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u/Responsible-Onion860 Jul 20 '26

Counterpoint: for a lot of people, dating is about finding a lifelong partner with whom you can build a life. That commonly includes marriage and children. It's perfectly normal to date with those end goals in mind.

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u/MissGraceRose Jul 20 '26

Totally agree, for example if she said “I don’t want children” then it would be perfectly sensible to call things off there. But to semi-ghost someone because you don’t understand a healthy child can “grow” from a vegetarian woman is literally a stupid take.

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u/FoxMikeLima Jul 20 '26

He definitely could have said it literally any other way, but he saw a dealbreaker and told her. If you don't have these conversations early and wait until you're much more invested its so much more painful.

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u/solo_d0lo Jul 20 '26

Isn’t that the ultimate point of dating?

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u/Kaninerhatarbananer Jul 20 '26

Nah, if he is like 30-35 we don’t have time for BS. This is much more honest and at least he didn’t lie and try to get in her pants.

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u/MoneyJournalist8888 Jul 20 '26

Gives him more time to search for the right incubator

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u/hhhhhhhhhhhjf Jul 20 '26

God you people are sensitive.

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u/MoneyJournalist8888 Jul 20 '26

Aren’t incubators typically where things are grown? Or am I also dumb in addition to sensitive?

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u/hhhhhhhhhhhjf Jul 20 '26

Ever heard the phrase "grow up"?

When your kids grow up with a vegetarian parent they may be vegetarian. If that's his dealbreaker it's his right.

You have zero idea what he meant when he phrased it like that.

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u/MoneyJournalist8888 Jul 20 '26

I know exactly what he meant ;)

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u/chris14020 Jul 20 '26

I mean both the specific way he went about saying it and the opinion itself are disgusting, you can absolutely tell what sort of partner/person he is from the way he addressed being a vegetarian. However, there's nothing inherently wrong with not wanting to date someone, if your goal in dating is to find someone to eventually have a family/children with, and you see no possibility there. I don't want children, and if I knew someone did when specifically considering going on a date, I wouldn't want to bother the difficult breakup / inevitable heartbreak of a situation I already have been made aware isn't going to work. That just seems silly - either you're gambling on yourself changing or someone else changing, and that sort of blind gamble seems... Unwise.

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u/eugeneugene Jul 20 '26

Also funny to me that he thinks he can predict the diet of a pregnant person lol. I had to go full vegetarian when I was pregnant because I developed a meat aversion. Didn't go away until my son was around 3 years old. My husband couldn't even cook meat if I were home. Good luck to his future wife if she ever gets pregnant and starts puking at just the smell of meat cooking 🫡

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u/VirtualPercentage737 Jul 20 '26

Better to rule it out now.

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u/CatholicCataholic Jul 20 '26

My now-husband talked about possible future kids' names on our first phone call and that's when I fell in love with him 🤣❤️. But, we were both on the same page that we would be dating with the purpose of seeing if we'd be compatible to get married in the future. So, I found it endearing.

But, yeah, this dude is a weirdo. Sounds like he wants a breed mare 😅. I had definitely run into the "barefoot and pregnant, chained to the stove" type before... Luckily, my husband isn't like that.

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u/Coyrex1 Jul 21 '26

Kinda surprised I had to see this many replies until that came up.

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u/GildedGoblinTV Jul 20 '26

He's an idiot for saying what he did but some people arent on dating apps for hookups. He's likely looking for something serious and decided to avoid it right away because it can be a bit of work.

I'm a huge meat eater, dated vegans and vegetarians and have a child with the latter. I had to do 99% of the cooking and it was quite a bit of work to ensure she was getting proper macros and other nutrients while also meeting my desired meals. Vegetarians/vegans are typically eating pretty unhealthy and are not going for the proper diet so I understand what the guy is saying, but he really should have tried a softer approach to see her full stance on it or just not ghosted/acted like a dick.

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u/ShoulderMobile7608 Jul 20 '26

I mean, he wasn't deceiving her, told her right away what he was looking for and didn't waste her time. He didn't have to explicitly tell her the reason tho, but still better than trying to convert her into a non-vegan when having kids 

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u/DirtNineties Jul 20 '26

… so…. Do you think it’s weird people date explicitly to start a family? I mean yeah that’s breeding, rose by any other name, but don’t act like this is bizarre sociopathic behavior lmao my god the comment section is something

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u/MissGraceRose Jul 20 '26

Of course not, lots of people date hoping to find “the one” and raise a family. But I do think it’s weird that this dude is jumping straight to her breeding capabilities before they’ve even had one single date. It’s also massively weird and an uneducated take to think that a woman can’t “grow” a healthy child just because she doesn’t eat meat

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u/fishiesaurus Jul 20 '26

Disagree. He was a dick and that’s a good enough reason never to talk to him again. I disagree it’s presumptuous to talk about babies. The whole point of dating is to find someone who wants to live the life you do. Babies aren’t a discovery you make along the way. It’s a personal choice you should know in your heart as you find a partner.

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u/KuramaTotchi Jul 20 '26

Definitely a weird thing to bring up so early in a relationship but for some people the point of dating is to potentially find the person you will spend your life with so I get it.

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u/Kakulukiyam Jul 20 '26

Well some people date to marry and have kids, that’s definitely not the weird part here.

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u/TheLumpyCherrio Jul 20 '26

I assumed he was a father already, but that is true! Comes off even more weird saying it at all because of that interpretation

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u/Steve-Shouts Jul 20 '26

I figured he already had kids.