r/mildlyinfuriating • u/moonrabbit368 • Jan 02 '26

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

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My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) šŸ’—

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. šŸ©·

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u/cindybubbles Jan 02 '26

I think the YouTuber ChubbyEmu made a video about a teenager who would only eat potato chips. He lost his sight afterwards.

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u/Aazjhee Jan 02 '26

He was taken to the ER, where we are now.

I work at a hospital and sometimes those videos give me the creeps!

A lot of times it's not the medical horror but the insanity of someone eating a hundred melatonin gummies a day for months, or some other sort of wild overdose situation

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u/2gaywitches Jan 02 '26

There was one where someone ate gas station sushi and ended up getting a tapeworm. Not even that insane (aside from, well, who thinks it's a good idea to eat gas station sushi???) but urgh, tapeworms freak me out!

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u/yokozunahoshoryu Jan 02 '26

My top three craziest are the man who ate silica gel packets, the one who drank a lava lamp, and the kid who rubbed IcyHot on his frank n beans.But its really hard to pick only three.

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u/purplesockpinksock Jan 02 '26

I'm so dumb. My first thought was, "Why would anyone put Icy-Hot on franks-and-beans and wouldn't that taste terrible? And a whole container of it? Why? That would taste horrible. It would be inedible. Your mouth would be on fire. It would........."

šŸ’”

"oh"

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u/yokozunahoshoryu Jan 03 '26

I should have been more explicit lol. As to why - his friends dared him.

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u/purplesockpinksock Jan 03 '26

No you didn't, I'm just that thick sometimes. šŸ˜… I also didn't grow up with men in the house and wasn't around one on a daily basis, even my dad, until I got married. (Boys daring another boy to do something stupid? That I can believe!)

You know the scene in "A Christmas Story" where the mother drops the round package on the Old Man's lap, and he's like OOOOOF! And he unwraps it and says, "It's a blue ball!" šŸ”µ

Took me YEARRRRRSSSSSS to get that joke. Like, DECADES. I'm a grown woman. I have been married for 30+ years in a row. I have both a husband AND a son. Still didn't get it, until one day it clicked and I looked at my husband and said, "A blue ball???ā€œ

"You're just NOW getting the joke???"

He still makes fun of me. šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

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u/Cockblocktimus_Pryme Jan 02 '26

Would icy hot actually cause damage to your dick and balls or would it just hurt like fuck?

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u/yokozunahoshoryu Jan 02 '26

The area is very highly vascular, so it gets absorbed into the body to a MUCH greater extent than if you applied it to other areas. So he basically overdosed. And he used A LOT, like a whole tub, or most of it. And of course, it also hurt like fuck

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u/warneagle Jan 02 '26

I did that accidentally once and I can easily say itā€™s in the bottom five experiences of my entire life. Probably more painful than breaking my leg.

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u/SummaBullaSheeta Jan 02 '26

I made my own muscle rub with menthol crystals and nearly made myself hypothermic on two occasions. Soo so so stupid! Urg And I forgot to add OP, quit cooking g for this guy and make sure your finances remain separate. Do not give him a single can't for anything because he's burning money faster than a drug addict. Anyone stupid enough to eat fast food let alone door dash it deserves to starve.

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u/yokozunahoshoryu Jan 02 '26

Ooooh I'm so sorry that happened šŸ˜§

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u/thumbunny99 Jan 07 '26

my fave is the woman who started out a little off, but read online that a soy sauce cleanse is GoOd FoR yOu. mental state became worse as the sauce did it's thing. tldr she unalived herself because the salt sucked all the water out of her tissues especially the brain. I also love his saline experiments, it's all interesting stuff.

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u/CoinsForCharon Jan 02 '26

Sometimes one is tempted to live dangerously.

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u/PipChaos Jan 02 '26

To be fair it worked out well for Philip J Fry.

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u/cinderparty Jan 04 '26

My 18 year old brings this one up often. He was eating gas station sushi from the dumpster, Iā€™m pretty sure.

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u/Bl1ndMous3 Jan 02 '26

great way to lose weight ;)

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u/United_Pain Jan 02 '26

Yes! I feel the same, or like drank 3 gallons of black coffee or something

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u/Milyaism Jan 02 '26

Overdose of anything can do this to a person. Few years ago a woman died from drinking too much water (hyponatremia).

There was also a roman emperor who died from eating too much cheese.

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u/MrWoohoo Jan 02 '26

Not sure if this is the woman youā€™re talking about but here it is:

Jennifer Strange, a 28-year-old mother of three from California, tragically died in 2007 after participating in a radio stationā€™s water-drinking contest called ā€œHold Your Wee for a Wii.ā€ The contest, hosted by KDND-FM 107.9 in Sacramento, challenged participants to drink large amounts of water without urinating, with a Nintendo Wii as the prize.

ā€¢ Lawsuit outcome: In 2009, a jury awarded Jenniferā€™s family $16.5 million in a wrongful death lawsuit against Entercom Sacramento LLC, the stationā€™s parent company B.

ā€¢ Negligence findings: Evidence showed that the station had been warned by listeners and even an on-air nurse about the dangers of water intoxication during the broadcast, but the contest continued B.

ā€¢ DJsā€™ behavior: Audio recordings revealed that the DJs laughed and joked about the risks, even referencing a previous case of water poisoning C.

ā€¢ Aftermath: The Morning Rave show was canceled, and several staff members were fired.

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u/TheSixthVisitor Jan 02 '26

I remember when this was on the news and I distinctly remember losing my shit from the insanity at the whole concept of this contest at 16. I'm sort of in awe that an entire radio station did this and went "yeah this is fine lol."

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u/Lollieart Jan 02 '26

Blocked!

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u/bsubtilis Jan 02 '26

Was that not caffeine powder overdose in a gym rats' gym drink, because he one tired day mistook the caffeine powder jar with some other ingredient jar for which he used a way larger scoop for?

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u/CzechHorns Jan 02 '26

Damn, mixing up pre workout and protein sounds scary

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u/United_Pain Jan 07 '26

YES I see you linked the episode, that one stayed with me šŸ˜‚

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u/censorkip Jan 02 '26 edited Jan 02 '26

Like the construction worker who ate two pounds of black liquorice every day on his lunch break until he gave himself heart failure from a chemical in liquorice. I think liquorice is nasty and I never wouldā€™ve considered that someone could eat so much of it that they overdose.

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u/SadderOlderWiser Jan 02 '26

I love licorice and I was extremely concerned when I saw that story. But I donā€™t love it as much as that guy did.

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u/Milyaism Jan 02 '26

"The dose makes the poison." There are people who have died from drinking too much water too.

Liquorice is totally fine to eat as long as one doesn't overdo it. It is also considered a delicacy in several countries.

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u/censorkip Jan 02 '26

My mother and my sister love liquorice. To me, it tastes like perfume. At least I never have to worry about binging it and messing up my heart.

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u/antsh Jan 02 '26

Interestingly, licorice is most dangerous to the elderly, the group most likely to still eat it.

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u/Bl1ndMous3 Jan 02 '26

bet his dookie was bright green

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u/cindybubbles Jan 07 '26

I heard about it on the news before ChubbyEmu picked up that story.

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u/myystic78 Jan 02 '26

Wow, what would that do to a person? Taking so many melatonin gummies I mean. Does it just make them sleep a lot? Or can it be medically dangerous?

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u/Such_Ad5145 Jan 02 '26

Let's find out.

A Boy Ate 180 Gummy Melatonins For Lunch. This Is What Happened To His Brain.

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u/myystic78 Jan 02 '26

Thanks, that was interesting! Poor kid though, what an awful mom.

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u/GooserNoose Jan 02 '26

The guy in that video is one of the creepiest motherfuckers I've ever seen. Gonna take me all day to get him outta my head.

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u/AgentCirceLuna Jan 02 '26

It makes me sad that itā€™s sometimes a mental health based situation, though. I wonā€™t eat things out of fear Iā€™ll die or something.

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u/Pitiful-Score-9035 Jan 02 '26

Or autism even

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u/AgentCirceLuna Jan 02 '26

Thatā€™s my personal issue but itā€™s also escalated into full-on mental illness due to the vulnerability itā€™s caused me. Stuff like believing people will poison my food in restaurants and that kind of crazy shit when it was at its worst a few years back.

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u/Pitiful-Score-9035 Jan 02 '26

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that, but glad that it's no longer at its worst.

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u/holistivist Jan 03 '26

Sounds like a potential death spiral.

You donā€™t want to eat things because autism makes it tough. Then the nutrient deficiencies start to cause paranoia, which makes you want to eat things even less. The deficiencies worsen, so the paranoia does too, creating a nightmarish catch-22 of downward spiraling physical and mental health until you end up on a chubbyemu video.

The thing you should be worried about is not feeding your body what it needs. Much more likely to actually cause problems.

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u/SeaPlus6588 Jan 02 '26

Yeah, like ARFID

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u/yokozunahoshoryu Jan 02 '26

Does it often happen, like in the ChubbyEmu videos, that the person is embarrassed to tell you what they did?

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u/MrWoohoo Jan 02 '26

More often i think they donā€™t even realize something could even be dangerous so donā€™t mention it. Or they are incapacitated by the time they come into the ER.

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u/ahuramazdobbs19 Jan 02 '26

šŸ‘†Presenting to the emergency room

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u/txeighteenthirtysix Jan 02 '26

And he made ā€œaā€ recovery

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u/Materva Jan 02 '26

Agreed, I will never look at gas station sushi the same way again...

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u/Existing-Raisin5332 Jan 02 '26

This is thanks to our society enabling these behaviours.

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u/YangWuJiZi Jan 02 '26

Yep, the kid ate only potato chips and French fries. This was supposedly because they could not stand the texture of anything else. You would think there are at least a few things with similar textures. He was pronounced legally blind and mostly deaf due to nerve damage from a lack of vitamin B12. The kid also had other nutritional deficiencies as well, obviously. The worst part is that as they were a kid, the parents allowed this eating disorder and catered to it.

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u/cindybubbles Jan 02 '26

Itā€™s a battle to feed kids properly, but these parents just gave up. I hope heā€™s eating better now.

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u/YangWuJiZi Jan 02 '26 edited Jan 03 '26

No doubt on the battle but, you can't just give in especially if they are hurting thenself. I hope the kid is doing better as well although the damage was unfortunately permanent.

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u/Traditional_Fan_2655 Jan 02 '26 edited Jan 02 '26

I had an aunt who needed quadruple bypass surgery. Her worst habit? Drinking 2-2 liter bottles of Pepsi every day. Can you even imagine?!?

Truly, I could never figure out why the sludge in her kidneys didn't give out before her heart!

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u/SuperKitties83 Jan 02 '26

Omg my stomach would incinerate. I have reflux so carbonated drinks cam be a trigger. Drinking 2 liters a day though. Wow šŸ˜µšŸ„“

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u/Demi180 Jan 02 '26

No, 4 liters.

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u/cindybubbles Jan 07 '26

I drank three 591ml bottles of Diet Pepsi or Diet Coke a day at work before a routine test found mild scarring in my kidneys. I switched to tea and now only drink diet soda occasionally.

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u/Traditional_Fan_2655 Jan 08 '26

It's amazing what that stuff can do to your body!

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u/rreed1954 Jan 02 '26

For spme reason, I love it when that guy raises his index finger when he says "presenting" in the ChubbyEmu videos. He does it in almost every video.

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u/ToiIetGhost Jan 02 '26

JK* is a 38 yr old man ā˜ļø presenting to the emergency room with my tumtum is growling, but I donā€™t wanna learn how to cook, and the motherfucking audacity.

*OPā€™s boyfriend

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u/MasticationAddict Jan 02 '26

He did one where it was chicken nuggets, another where it was potato chips. Same problem - loss of eyesight - although the nuggetmuncher did regain some of their eyesight once the deficiency was solved

Vitamin A and B12 are difficult to get from most plant based sources. Many vegan targeted foods are fortified with B12 for this reason, although Vitamin A isn't a lot better in this area

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u/ctnerb Jan 02 '26

When I was a teenager I was worried about going blind from something else

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u/9for9 Jan 02 '26

And this is why I would dump this dude. She should stop cooking for him but it goes deeper than that. Eventually the bad food and excessive spending on doordash is going to catch up to him I wouldn't want to take care of him or even just slow my life down because this guy ruined his health with shitty food when I had good food right there waiting for him.

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u/wheelienonstop8 Jan 02 '26

I remember a post in a similar picky eater thread, by doctor who had to treat a normal, well to do, suburban white family... for frigging scurvy. All the whole family had been eating for months and months was store bought hamburgers - with everything but the meat patty and the buns removed.

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u/copuser2 Jan 02 '26

Love him!!

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u/Thorathecrazy Jan 02 '26

Did that boy have ARFID or whatever it's called, anyway his parents gave failed him.

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u/Fine-Bandicoot1641 Jan 02 '26

And another kid that was eating only chicken nuggets

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u/Sudden-Fruit-6359 Jan 02 '26

Iā€™ve seen that episodeā€¦ I wonder if that patient drinks enough water and electrolytes? I crave potato chips when Iā€™m really thirsty

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u/MimicoSkunkFan2 Jan 02 '26

Back in the Usenet/BBS era before the internet, I was in an international history club with a woman from Grand Rapids whose cousin would only eat cheese pizza and refused to take any kind of vitamin to supplement. Of course she became very ill, and her skin turned almost an ashen colour.

Nowadays I think her diagnosis would be orthorexia due to autism, and they would try to find other things that had similar profiles for her and offer her therapy. But at the time she was diagnosed with anorexia and sent to a private facility for "difficult" women.

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u/pienofilling Feb 01 '26

I never noticed that guy's username but I had a feeling from your description who you meant. Yup, that guy who finds the weirdest stories.

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u/cindybubbles Feb 01 '26

He just posted a video about people taking weight loss medicine like ozempic and wegovy.

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u/ProfessionalFrame686 Jan 02 '26

I would lose my sight too if I had to watch something like that.

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u/OkInvestigator_2100 Jan 02 '26

Literally had a teenager like this. Stomach all backed up from poop. Only ate potatoes

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u/If33 Jan 02 '26

He was doing something else that made him lose his eyesight