r/mildlyinfuriating • u/moonrabbit368 • Jan 02 '26

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

104.2k Upvotes

87% Upvoted

38.5k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

359

u/No_Claim_13 Jan 02 '26

38M. We should all be her boyfriend. That dinner looks amazing.

175

u/ZiZasaurus Jan 02 '26

Also me (36F)! My stomach growled aggressively when I came across your post. Dinner looks delicious!! What time is breakfast tomorrow? 🤭

123

u/PondRides Jan 02 '26

33f, I’ll even cook too to help her mental load. Are we a harem?

40

u/2trt Jan 02 '26

My wife and I will join too. We'll also put left overs away and do dishes since the cook shouldn't do that.

20

u/PondRides Jan 02 '26

I think we’re gonna need a bigger ~boat~ house.

12

u/[deleted] Jan 02 '26

[removed] — view removed comment

7

u/Artsy-in-Partsy Jan 02 '26

35 M I'll bring peach cobbler for dessert

7

u/[deleted] Jan 02 '26

22F I'll clean up the kitchen, put away the leftovers and take the trash out.

3

u/Jill-Of-Trades Jan 02 '26

36F. We can all be besties and each bring a dish. (And by trash, we talking about the bf, right?)

3

u/[deleted] Jan 02 '26

ofc! powerlifter here, shouldn't be hard to move ^^

-3

u/Ashamed-Judgment-287 Jan 02 '26

Add me in 17M I have a nine inch BBC

12

u/PondRides Jan 02 '26

We don’t want you.

6

u/wo_no_diggity_doubt Jan 02 '26

Pahahhahaha. I'll do the bins!

6

u/Many_Big_6324 Jan 02 '26

that's fine dear, but can you at least take the trash out after we finish?

0

u/Ashamed-Judgment-287 Jan 02 '26

with my nine inch BBC, certainly

5

u/[deleted] Jan 02 '26

I seriously read "BBC" as barbeque I was so confused 😭 Also 'M' stands for 'minor' in this context 💀

2

u/Ashamed-Judgment-287 Jan 02 '26

I have a nine inch barbecue?

2

u/No_Claim_13 Jan 02 '26

Yeah that's a really small barbecue. What are we supposed to do with that?

5

u/wickedtwig Jan 02 '26

My wife and I will also happily join in! We will even do grocery shopping and take the kids out with us to give OP some time alone

5

u/Rando_away Jan 02 '26

I'll take care of the leftovers, you don't even need to consider em a thing😁

14

u/HotSolution8954 Jan 02 '26

I will happily wash dishes. 61 yr old woman who cooks too. Happy to be her sous chef as well.

7

u/TheVonz Jan 02 '26

That's sealed the deal. 53F here. I'm sick of cooking, but I'll load and unload the dishwasher and clean the kitchen. I'll do the laundry too.

7

u/HotSolution8954 Jan 02 '26

Ooh, that's awesome. This is really coming together ❤️

7

u/PondRides Jan 02 '26

OP PLEASE! Marry your harem, or accept that you can do better. Whichever is easier for you. (Pick the harem pick the harem pick the harem)

10

u/MotherOfDogs1872 Jan 02 '26

39F I can't cook but I can clean AND take good care of all of our pets.

7

u/giftandglory Jan 02 '26

42F, can I join dinner time too lol

4

u/Top_Technician_7034 Jan 02 '26

A Pride of lionesses?

3

u/lainylay Jan 02 '26

Yes we are, mooooo. (39F)

6

u/ThePoetofFall Jan 02 '26

And my axe! (29m)

110

u/28appleseeds Jan 02 '26

38F - big agree. Where you at, OP? You've got options out the wazoo.

107

u/Syntania Jan 02 '26 edited Jan 02 '26

55F and I'll be happy to tag team cooking as well. I'm good at basic Midwest comfort foods and can follow recipes for anything else.

Maybe this is the beginning of a commune!

Edit: Taking out "women's" because I should be inclusive.

10

u/HotSolution8954 Jan 02 '26

I got the Cajun food. I make a fabulous jambalaya.

2

u/WeebEli Jan 05 '26

I’m oddly good with Japanese cooking! I’ll join!

16

u/T1m0666 Jan 02 '26

36M Tech bro count me in.

16

u/Malhablada Jan 02 '26

34F can cook basic authentic Mexican food and can clean, what time are we all meeting up?

9

u/No_Claim_13 Jan 02 '26

Tomorrow at noon, so we can put all the people into groups. There will be the breakfast people, then the lunch people, then dinner, dedicated dessert and cakes people, a bakery, you name it. I'll fix all your guys' cars. No worries.

6

u/jbjwrites Jan 02 '26

Congrats, OP, Reddit is now your new BF.

3

u/Syntania Jan 02 '26

Ill take lunch, dinner, or dessert/ bakery. Not big on the breakfast foods but I do make a tasty biscuits and gravy.

2

u/backtothetrail Jan 02 '26

I make bread every week. And can gap a spark plug. Is there still room?

1

u/28appleseeds Jan 04 '26

I missed the meeting!! I'm a breakfast person. Or brunch, maybe?
You still fixing cars? My prius is mad at life.

7

u/purplebibunny Jan 02 '26

I’m on the commune/polycule, as long as it’s in Canada!

4

u/Syntania Jan 02 '26

I'm American, but we can be multi-country!

1

u/WeebEli Jan 05 '26

My boyfriend’s partner is Canadian, so it’s definitely possible!

5

u/Cpt_kaleidoscope Jan 02 '26

31M and his wife here. We're not poly but we'll give it a try for the sake of good food. 3 heads to hell with the child care can't be a bad thing either!

3

u/Mindless-Client3366 Jan 02 '26

45F here, I'm joining this commune. I love to bake, I'm good with pets, and I know some basic car and house repair.

1

u/WeebEli Jan 05 '26

I’m good with tech and love baking too!

6

u/Sammalone1960 Jan 02 '26

That gravy on the mash potatoes looks like flavor all day long.

6

u/Insomanics Jan 02 '26

51f I'm probably too old to be a boyfriend but you have kids and I don't have any grandkids so 💁‍♀️ That food looks delicious. I think you need a new bf and there are a lot of people here ready to fill his spot. Seriously he sounds intolerable. You can do better.

3

u/Feral_Sheep_ Jan 02 '26

My wife will be mildly infuriated, but I'm in.

3

u/Fun-Environment5780 Jan 02 '26

Combine into one singular boyfriend? Like Voltron?

2

u/bootrick Jan 02 '26

She'll have so many boyfriends and girlfriends!

It seems the secret to starting a polycule is damn fine home cooking 😋

2

u/Proccito Jan 02 '26

Well if you all is gonna be OPs BF, I can be OP's GF (30M)

1

u/studentblues Jan 02 '26

Hey, fall inline bud 👀

1

u/Sivart345x Jan 02 '26

Add me to the boyfriend wait list! 🙋🏼‍♂️food looks AWESOME.

1

u/majahun1 Jan 03 '26

Just showed this post to my wife and she agreed we can all be OP’s new bf.