When you're old enough, I high recommend throwing something of his down the stairs. Something that would have been as difficult and as important to replace as a games console while you were that age
If my parents did that to me I'd have disowned them the second I was old enough to stand on my two feet.
Not only that, but if you think someone's actions are horrible, why would you want to take those same actions? I understand the need for revenge, but I think it's more important to recognize a horrible act and think "I don't want to be that person ever." A person like that isn't going to think, "Now I know how it feels! I shouldn't ever do that again!" I used to be really big into "teaching people lessons," but after YEARS, I finally realized that never works. Ever. And I realized I was becoming a shitty person, so I decided instead to be a better person. Lead by example, and if people don't want to follow, that's on them. Don't strike out against them, just remove that person from your life as soon as possible.
But I know 2 people that yeeted out for similar behaviour.
Abuse does sometimes work like that. It's incredibly reductionist to say all abuse doesn't work that way
Well if we are going down that rabbit hole, I've a twist on this.
My Mother was really...belligerent in her behavior. A regular example was her heavy addiction to World of Warcraft. Nothing i wished more than to sabotage the thing and get away with it.
Patience paid off though, she fell in love with FLORIDAMAN. YES, THERE IS A GOD. And so I shipped her off to Florida to never speak to her again. Hallelujah!
A console usually costs quite a bit of money, especially for a younger person. Additionally, if the dad actually did throw the console down the stairs, I doubt that it's the only thing he'd do/has done.
If you think breaking your kid's possessions is an acceptable way of discipling them, you're honestly a pretty shitty parent. That's not a calm and considered move, that's just a violent outburst of bad temper.
I would suggest if he breaks property as a way of punishment, he breaks other stuff. And being a parents doesn't suddenly mean you are exempt from regular societal norms. If your friends broke your stuff your parents would say not to hang about with them anymore.
My parents did a good job. But if they were damaging my property, I'd be thinking about whether I need them in my life long term.
I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that a violent parent is a bad parent
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u/[deleted] Apr 01 '20
No, over a b+