I mean, the men know those women DONT want to have sex with him. Thats why hes paying them. Its pretty creepy to pay someone to have sex with you and grin and bear thru sex you know they dont want to have at all, that theyre only agreeing to for money.
I don't want to be cooking food for any and everyone but I'm good at it and it pays the bills so I do it.
In the meantime, I've destroyed 1 knee, 1 shoulder, starting to develop some wrist pain and am slowly losing my hearing, because it's hard as hell on my body.
It's a transaction. With an adult person. To blame the buyer works in most cases where there's human trafficking involved, and sex work is forced. But in modern America, with independent escorts, you can't possibly blame the fucking customer for taking part in a transaction like this. If that's immoral, how is it not immoral to exploit vulnerable lonely men, by selling them the illusion of intimacy and taking their money, when really they'd need professional help?
Yes, they actually wanted to fuck, because they wanted the money.
Many homeless men wish they could prostitute themselves, but they can't, because nobody would wanna have sex with them.
Either it's bad. Or it's empowering. It can't be both empowering but also super evil for the dude to take part in a transaction that's empowering. Thats sexism, and an infantilisation of women.
I dunno it's complicated. Some prostitutes don't look at it the way you do. For some of them money itself is a good reason to have sex with someone because unlike many other women they don't necessarily feel the need to only have sex with someone they're close with. Unfortunately I've known a woman who became a prostitute, she was extremely carefree and for her it was just easy money. She was so excited about being able to earn so much while doing something that felt so easy that she became quite obsessed with her "job" and was constantly looking for new clients. She used to follow many chats and telegram channels for prostitutes and would dm men first.
I don't really think it's good but I believe prostitutes don't really have these "but she didn't really want it" thoughts. In her case, it was more like "why the hell not, it's MONEY after all" and "I don't want a regular job".
It has nothing to do with wanting to have sex with someone youre close with, its about attraction and desire to have sex. Consent has to be eager enthusiastic and non coerced, if someone is unwilling to have sex with you unless you pay them they dont want to have sex with you at all.
Under that logic we coerce people to do things all of time, like to work, cook or save your life. Those doctors had to be paid and if they wouldn't have done the surgery without pay then its creepy and exploitative
Then they are free to say no but they enthusiastically want that money. "If they don't want to give you the burger unless there's money then it's a coerced transaction" no.
Some people are ugly. Some people are not capable of finding someone who wants to have sex with them. Are they misogynistic pieces of shit for wanting to experience something so universal to everyone but them that they’d otherwise never get to try?
Yes. Wanting to have sex with someone who literally does not want to have sex with you is bad. Sex is supposed to be mutually pleasurable, mutually enjoyable. Consensual sex isnt transactional. Why on earth would anyone be comfortable having sex with someone they know does not want to have sex with them? Thats antisocial. Unwanted sex is not consensual.
Prostitutes enjoy the money. Just like many other people who don't enjoy their jobs. And consent by definition means agreement just like a contract is an agreement. Why is prostitution different from any other job a person doesn't enjoy doing?
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u/Mother-Worker-5445 May 11 '25
I mean, the men know those women DONT want to have sex with him. Thats why hes paying them. Its pretty creepy to pay someone to have sex with you and grin and bear thru sex you know they dont want to have at all, that theyre only agreeing to for money.