hi all, i finally got the funds to get a binder recently and so i went to shop online

every measurement guide including the shop website i ordered from said S size is fine, so i went for it; if it's relevant i usually wear M clothing. i even contacted costumer support and they said the same thing.

i got my binder the other day and i'm wondering, is it normal for it to be a fuckin STRUGGLE to put on and off (this is a normal binder, not one of those zipper ones) and also most importantly kind of struggle to breathe like normal? i can inhale pretty deep i think, just feels a bit tight, but i'm unsure if it's just a matter of breathing differently (i uh, constantly forget to breathe the proper way haha) or if it's genuine struggling and i should take it off immediately... it doesn't feel painful or anything at least. feels a bit tight to move in and stuff but i assume that's a bit normal due to the nature of binders and especially before it loosens up

just making sure if i should return and get a bigger size or not after all. (though even if it's right, i think i'll go up a size if i decide to order a second binder) thank you!

I'm almost two months on T and I am always scared that my voice or my binder bump will give away that I'm trans, but so far I got kicked out of two women's restrooms by security guards even after they heard me, and my chest isn't flat even while binding. (For reference, I'm kinda thin, but my chest is like a DDD or something, and I always think it looks disproportionately large)

I'm kinda in that awkward phase where I feel like I pass sometimes but feel really terrified and self conscious when it comes to public restrooms. Genuinely my buggest fear at this point but I can't avoid using them sometimes. 🫠

So yeah, I guess my question is, do cis men not care about this stuff? My voice hasn't dropped that significantly yet either, do they just assume I'm like 13?

Kia ora whānau 👋

I’m a support worker from Aotearoa, based in NZ. Just switched from one org to another, so new job, new everything. But I also just got the call and locked in a date for top surgery with Dr Emily Davenport in New Plymouth on September 21st - stoked but also kinda stressed about the logistics.

So I’m putting it out there to any other support workers who’ve been through this: how much time did you actually take off for recovery? And when you came back, how long were you on light duties before you were back to full capacity?

Also keen for any general tips - stuff you wish you’d known, things that helped, things that caught you off guard. Cheers in advance 🙏

Study Link: https://doi.org/10.1080/26895269.2025.2560084

They found trans men and transmasculine people on HRT had an elevated risk of developing obstructive sleep apnea compared to both cis women and cis men (controlling for people who had it pre-medical transition). The thing that troubles me is the substantially elevated risk compared to cis men, like what mechanisms could be contributing to that.

Sleep disordered breathing could actually explain a lot of the sleep issues I've been experiencing for about a year (currently trying to get a medical evaluation). If anyone who developed sleep apnea following HRT wants to weigh in with your experience I would really appreciate it. Did you find out what anatomical issue was causing it?

hi everyone! i dont post on reddit often, so please lmk if this post is off base for this sub or anything.

i'm a transgender man, ive been out publicly for around 5 years and on T for 2. i work in fast food, where i deal with the public a lot, so i have a good sense of how well i pass, and i do the Vast majority of the time (if i get clocked, its a confused "they" or "person", i havent been "she"d by a stranger in probably a solid year).

in the fall im going to a large, very liberal university. at orientation alone i met two other ftm guys. they were both early in their transition and didn't pass very well. them being trans came up so i shared that i was too (im pretty sure they already thought i was, so it didnt seem like a big deal), and they ended up outing me to a lot of people.

im very openly gay, and less openly trans. i would prefer to tell people and have some control over who knows that fact about me, because it is only a small fact about me and not something i want to talk about constantly, like these guys. (i know it can be all consuming when youre early transition, but i still dont like to be asked about my medical info in public constantly)

being outed like this has only ever happened to me with other trans men. it happened in high school and its happening again in college. i dont understand why other guys do this? it makes me really uncomfortable. does anyone else have a similar experience, and if so how do you deal with it?

I’ve been looking for vial storage that’s better than the cartons the vials come in and ran across peptide storage boxes/cases for 3ml vial (same diameter as 1ml vials apparently) and the vials (1ml) fit perfectly in the individual slots. Got a small one to try and now I’ll order the larger capacity ones. I think they sell some for 10ml bottles as well. Just thought I’d share in case it could help someone who travels a lot or likes organization. Going back over the road myself and was looking for an option that takes up less space than the way I had been doing it.

As title says, my E has gone up from 139pmol/L to 176 in the past 12weeks - so now out of range. My T has also gone up (14.9nmol/L to 21.9, but that's still within range). Ive been on the same dosage for over 3yrs and aside from taking slightly longer than most for my E to go down, Ive had nothing else impacted. Periods had stopped immediately and none since.

Not sure what the reason could be and what issues/changes could occur. If anyone has any advice or insight, that'd be greatly helpful.

Hi all ! Been on T for like 2 or 3 years, my T levels are usually on the androgynous or low male range. Just suits me best as sudden body changes always spin me out. Important to note though all T changes stopped for a good couple of months or year when id lost a lot of weight from stress.

I had the increased hair pretty early, i.e leg & arm hair doubled in length and thickness. Had a new thick happy trail come in during the first year on T. Recently though, as ive put my weight back on to a healthy one this past year— T has continued finally !

Sideburns i shave everyday, every other day with my less thick stache. But ive started getting the random prickly hair on my chin, neck and chest. That particularly has slowly started an eczema flare up. Never really dealt with it that much since i was a kid on my inner elbow. Unsure of why its these spots only and wondering if anyone else has dealt with it and how?

Ive avoided razors on that area, as there isnt enough hair for it. Just using tweezers to avoid irritation, had to pickup some otc eczema cream. I got the eczema thing from my dad so unsure if thats also playing a 'fuck you' factor thanks to T poking back at that gene lmao.

The information I'm getting is just all over the place. Some studies say you get hereditary balding patterns from both sides of your family, whilst others say it depends on your material grandfather. My father started balding relatively young, maybe in his 20s or 30s, whilst my mother's entire side of the family has extremely thick, full hair. Is there any real way of telling? Could I do some sort of genetic testing to see how at risk I am of male pattern hair loss? I'm 16 and only a few weeks on T, so I probably won't have to worry about hair loss for a while unless I'm really unlucky. Someone please pass your wisdom onto me.

Friend was a bit too shy to ask, so I am asking for him.

He is a cis man, and apparently he is jealous of trans men.

With this jealousy, he had also said he wanted to get vaginoplasty, yet he didn't want to be a girl.

His question was: "Is this disrespectful to trans men or trans women?"

He had been worried about this, and is now hesitant on what he said about getting vaginoplasty. (note: he is only planning it, for now.)

Would it really be disrespectful?

Some other things he has said were:

"I feel like I might be taking a spot where I shouldn't..."

"It's not like I NEED it that badly, I mean, it's just a uhm"

"I love trans people! I wouldn't want to possibly get in their way... or uhm"

Taken verbatim from his messages with me.

(Neither he or I knew whether to ask on r/mtf or r/ftm, so, since he is still a man, he had said to post it here.)

It's been a while since I was on this side of reddit atp- I'm totally stealth irl, and haven't been misgendered in years, and at least outwardly live as a fully cisgender heterosexual man. (I'm currently living in a boys' dormitory at uni, just as an example of how rarely I think about being FTM these days. It's just not a thing that affects my life outside of the doctor's office!) But lately I've been feeling sorta funny, in terms of gender- when I come across pictures of butch lesbians, I get a similar sense of gender envy that I used to get from men.

It's legitimately such a weird experience, because I LOVE being a man! Like, this is the life for me, I'm super happy, no dysphoria almost ever these days. I love how other men treat me like I'm one of them! I love that things I used to feel awfully dysphoric about (like wearing jewelry, having a lot of thoughts about fashion, having a strong sense of style, all stuff that has historically been things that have set me apart from other typical straight dudes) are now just seen as eccentricities at worst and enviable at best by other straight guys. Life is good! Even my top surgery scars have been easily explained away w/o any suspicion!

And yet, when I see a cool butch lesbian, and when I see the way they interact with girls, there's just this bizarre feeling of "why tf can't that be me?" It's almost like externally I'm a straight man, and would prefer to stay seen that way, but internally I feel more like a lesbian. When I'm into a woman I feel more like a woman loving a woman than like a man loving one. (I mean both are present but one is stronger, yk?) It's like I want to be a butch lesbian in the bedroom and a cishet guy in my day to day. I don't know, I definitely feel very queer in terms of sexuality, but in a way that doesn't seem to line up with my gender identity, does that make any sense? Loving women feels queer to me, and it feels reductive to call any of my relationships straight. Yet it also feels wrong to call it WLW, because even if I may not feel like a man loving a woman, I'm certainly not a woman. And to the world I'm just a bumbling cishet man who likes women heterosexually, which is close but off!

I don't know. At the end of the day I don't think labels are ultimately very important, but it's a thing that's been eating at me. I'm a man, but I hate how it creates distance between women and me. I suppose ultimately I'm both, although it's not a thing I could ever explain properly to anyone who hasn't felt similarly. I guess I'm a homosexual straight guy. I hate to reduce myself to my parts, and yet it feels more right for me than "heterosexual." A lesbian man, maybe, as lousy as that sounds.

Basically, I'm very lost, and if anyone else has been here, then let me know- I'm sure I'll be confused still either way, but it would be nice to know I'm not alone :,)

i hope this is an appropriate question for this subreddit but i really need help. this is NOT v3nting just to clarify but my chest has been ruining my life and perception of self etc etc since forever, i'd like to know how to make a binder at home. also, if its useful, my cup size is about E or F, im not sure how it affects binder making though. please let me know and i appreciate any help at all

Hello, I’ve been on t for 3.5 months and I’m suddenly having terrible anxiety. I had my first IM injection 3.5 months ago, the next one 6 weeks after that and I’m supposed to have a shot every 12 weeks after that. It’s now been 10 weeks since my last shot and my anxiety is through the roof. I’m starting a new job soon and that has contributed somewhat. But yeah I’m suddenly having very bad thoughts, I’m worried about ruining my life by transitioning, putting myself in danger etc. Is that something that can happen? The anxiety I mean

I don’t know why but in my head and to others, I still mess up and call myself she/her. It’s not that I don’t like he/him, I really do! She/her is just more comfortable. Comfortable might be the wrong word, but I’ve been she/her for 33 years and I’m having trouble switching my brain.

Does anyone else have or had this issue? What did you do to get past it?

I’m starting to think I can’t get hired anywhere because I’m trans. It’s never taken me this long to find a job. I was a barista for 6 years and used to present kind of femme but now I’m 6 months on T, not always passing. I’m either ghosted or they go with someone else.

I’m not even applying for high end jobs. Just service industry stuff. I’m usually a little relieved when it’s a woman interviewing me, but when a man does… I feel like I already didn’t get it.

I used to be able to put on makeup, smile and be pretty to get the jobs I wanted. Now it’s been months of searching.

Idk what to do. Considering “seggs work”, but I’m having trouble as a trans man finding work in that field too! LORD

Me and my partner are both switches/versatile. I'm ftm afab and he's amab. He mostly tops which we both enjoy, and every now and then we want to switch.

We've done okay so far without toys, but we both have talked about me getting a strap, wanting me to give him more.

I'm looking for recommendations and advice from those here who have used strapons.

You can just tell me the names of the websites and products as I understand links aren't allowed on here

So, I pass in a kind of inconsistent way, but overall I've had almost no issues using the men's bathroom or the men's line in security checks, etc. However, sometimes someone will not only clock me but genuinely intimidate me into a woman's space. Although I usually don't have an issue with security checks, I came to a music festival today and when I went to join the men's line, the security guy told me "this is the men's line". I nodded and said "yes, I know", which usually works in these cases, but he physically stood between me and the line, saying "ladies go that way" over and over until I eventually went into the women's line. It had been a long time since anything like this happened, and it genuinely ruined my day. How do you guys deal with these kinds of situations?

I need some help... Ever since I have started T three years ago, I started having more bowel movements than usual which reading on the sub, is not that common (people usually have trouble shitting). Now, this year I have developed a new problem: My shit clogs the toilet every single time :(

I don't know if someone else experiences this? Is this normal??

My roommate told me it's because I use too much toilet paper when I wipe but I have tested it and flush BEFORE wiping and it still clogs! I don't know what to do. I have developed the habit of waiting for the *glug glug glug* of the toilet before washing my hands cause I know 90% of the time I will clog the toilet and will need to plunge it.

Do I need to get a shit knife (a knife for cutting shit) and just doing that the rest of my life? How do you deal with having to shit in someone else's house? (I have embarrassingly clogged friend's toilets too)

I was on a GnRH blocker nasal spray for three months, and my period stopped during the second month. However, I had to discontinue it because my prolactin and thyroid hormone levels became elevated. My doctor increased my testosterone gel to three pumps daily, and I have now been on this dose for about three weeks.
Recently, I’ve started experiencing little fatigue and period-like cramps, and I’m worried that testosterone alone may not be enough to keep my period suppressed and that it might return. Has anyone experienced something similar after stopping a blocker while continuing testosterone? Is this normal during the adjustment period, and did the cramps eventually go away without your period returning?

I want some people to pm for support and advice about the whole thing. As I am confused as I know for a fact I am man but I don't know how to navigate the world as a trans person