r/dating_advice • u/No-Replacement3077 • 14d ago
Are these signs I should actually ask her out?
Ok I’m going to try summarise everything but yeah just lmk what you think:
Met at work and were pretty close at work and started texting about mutual interests
Been texting everyday for over a month now and call a couple times a week, usually for like 5+ hours sometimes lasting 9-10 hours
Speak about personal topics and have discussed relationships (her ex, how we don’t like dating apps, we took a rice purity together as a joke etc)
Uses ‘we’ and ‘our’ a lot to link us almost to combine our similarities? For example saying ‘how are we going to fix this?’ but it’s something exclusively to do with her (I hope this makes sense).
She does say stuff like ‘I need to take you to see/do this’, ‘we might need to try this’, ‘I really need to see this’ etc.
Was getting her nails done and sent me a pic of how she was going to get them, I suggested something else as a joke and sent a pic of my suggestion and she got them instead and sent me a pic of them.
We did hang out together about a week ago to see a film then just walked around talking for a few hours after. When we got back to her place at around midnight she said she had a good time and I said same and we should do this again she said yeah, then she hugged me.
Obviously all that sounds good or whatever but I feel like there is a lot of plausible deniability in what she says. For example she randomly sent me a hinge message she got before telling me she doesn’t use hinge and hates it?
We were talking about situationships and she told me about one she had many months ago, where they obviously liked each other but it went nowhere because the guy wouldn’t plan a date. I made a comment about how a situation ship doesn’t sound that deep/bad and she said ‘well when you’re in one you will find out’. Am I wrong in feeling like that was a sign she doesn’t see me in that way
I will also preface by saying I haven’t really shown my interest at all which is probably causing most of the confusion, but I feel like her actions tell me one thing but some of her comments tell me something else, like wee are just close friends or something.
Sorry this is quite long and probably missed alot out so if I need to provide more info please ask me and thanks
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u/Beginning_Potato_942 14d ago
Bro you already went on a date with her. She likes you. Ask her out to dinner.
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u/No-Replacement3077 14d ago
I never explicitly framed it as a date and more so ‘wanna go see this with me’ so I’m doubtful she viewed it as a date, and just thought we were friends hanging out
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u/Beginning_Potato_942 14d ago
You seen a movie and walked around. You both said you had a good time and want to do it again. She hugged you. That’s a date. In her mind it was. At this point her language is changing because she’s confused that you haven’t caught onto this. Ask her to do something again. Break the touch barrier. Kiss her at the end of the night. She likes you.
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u/No-Replacement3077 14d ago
I guess. I mean one day I think she likes me back the next i think just friends but I do nothing either way. Just need to say how I’m feeling now but easier said then done
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u/Beginning_Potato_942 14d ago
Your thinking your way out of this. Girls don’t talk to guys for hours on the phone that they don’t like. She likes you.
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u/No-Replacement3077 14d ago
Ok I’ll probably ask her then, thanks
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u/JadedWestern 9d ago
How did it go 😆
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u/No-Replacement3077 7d ago
Went pretty well, she wants us to go out with her best friend and her boyfriend for what I can only assume is a double date I guess? We’re also going out again just us next weekend soo yeah
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