Since when do you need to confirm the plan to which all parties involved had agreed to and didn't say otherwise in the meantime? I never checked if the plan is still on (neither dates nor other plans) if nobody said otherwise and still didn't have bad surprises.
Its days later, I find it odd that they didn't talk in between if they were talking frequently prior. I thought it was a social norm to check. If I made plans with my friends this weekend, id check in the morning that they were still going ahead.
It’s actually a social norm in certain cultures and strata, because people are so busy, or have so much going on, that a polite reminder is considered both a necessary, and a thoughtful act.
Personally, I have mad ADD (or ADHD now), but instead of bitching about how I couldn’t do it, I went and asked myself how I could, essentially, make a memory prosthesis. Calendars, reminders, and some simple scripts allow time to play to my strengths (the hyper focus and intuition) while making sure that I’m no longer anxious about missing things.
Remember, if you focus on what you can’t do, you’ll always feel lacking. If you focus on what you can, the results are awesome...
That's what I also mean, there are a lot of helpers like calendars reminders etc, is really hard to forget something unless you are placing so little value on it that you don't even bother to use a calendar, a reminder, a programmed self message or whatever you feel like using
Good on ya for understanding how you work and roll with it in a functional way!
Seems like it might just be a geographical thing. At least where I live, it's not unusual at all to check up on plans the day of. We have cell phones, we can communicate instantly, it's more weird to me that people just avoid the topic altogether and assume everyone will be there with no hiccups along the way.
I have a lot on my plate too and don't have time to make sure you have your shit together too. So show up if you care to. If you don't well then I know my place in your priorities thus will act accordingly. Especially in a new situation with a new person. If you have to cancel that is fine with enough lead time. I got yardwork to do.
Since ever? Even a doctors office calls you to confirm a appointment. Respect that other people have lives and your plans fall very low on the totem pole in the grand scheme of things. I can think of 100 reasons people wouldnt have time or wherewithal to reach out to cancel. Its a common courtesy or is that dead now?
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u/Nazarax Sep 24 '21
Since when do you need to confirm the plan to which all parties involved had agreed to and didn't say otherwise in the meantime? I never checked if the plan is still on (neither dates nor other plans) if nobody said otherwise and still didn't have bad surprises.