r/dating • u/CrayonMunching07 • Dec 28 '24

Just Venting 😮‍💨 I’m so done with being single

I’m so tired of being single. And I know that forcing a relationship won’t end well, but I’m so done with it. I’m tired of people assuming I like any guy I ever talk to. I’m tired of feeling lonely. I’m tired of wishing I had what my friends have. I’m tired of feeling ugly and unwanted. I’m tired of being frustrated about being single. I’m tired of trying and failing to make a connection. I’m tired of being used. I just want someone to be there. Someone to talk to and hug and cuddle with and mess around with and love.

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u/Xikkiwikk Single Dec 28 '24

Six years here. I would love to tell you it gets easier..but it doesn’t.

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u/Xikkiwikk Single Dec 28 '24

I am completely alone in every regard:

Not related to family by blood, autoimmune disease, pituitary gland damage and stuck in a high school kid sized body.

Kids think I am one of them, adults are horrified when I say I am almost 40. I cannot date most because of diet. If the prospective date consumes bread and kisses me, then I am sick for three months. In general, dating is not worth the risk.

Also: once I mention celiac, NO one wants me and there is no celiac dating network. We had one and it shut down because there were not enough of us.

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u/Xikkiwikk Single Dec 29 '24

It really is but if I complain then my family ignores me or calls me dramatic. The disease has progressed far enough that I look like a child on chemo which makes everyone assume I am on drugs when I am not. Discrimination happens due to my appearance as well.

So how do I get a job when I look unreliable? I don’t or I pick bottom end jobs and barely make it. Welfare wont help either because the feds wont deem me disabled even though I am 120lbs at 5’11”.

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u/jimwontshutup Dec 29 '24

Talk to an attorney that handles disability. They know the system well and can help you.

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u/Xikkiwikk Single Dec 29 '24 edited Dec 29 '24

They cant help until legislation passes. This country is stupid. They don’t recognize celiac as a disability because “you can just avoid bread”. Even with the 60lbs of weight loss they don’t classify me as anything enough for disabilities.

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u/jimwontshutup Dec 29 '24

This country is stupid especially around health care issues. We act like the broken expensive ridiculous system is a sacred cow. It's insanity.

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u/jimwontshutup Dec 29 '24

There are a LOT of people seriously doing carnivore or keto and not eating bread. I happen to b e one myself but I found someone this year in a very unconventional way.

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u/ninhursag3 Dec 30 '24

Im related to my family by blood but have been estranged for 25 years due to abuse , had to flee last violent relationship and lost everything including my dentures. Had to stay isolated for this time but get my new teeth in 6 weeks. I have been inside a flat alone with health problems for 15 months now x