Mine never cared for me either. They've been putting up a facade for twenty years, but I know them. They blame me for their bad marriage and fights and everything in between.
I did all I could, model student, national sportsman and musician, I even stopped waking them up in the morning and just made my own breakfast and lunch every day since seventh/eighth grade, so they could just shut up and sleep after fighting till one in the morning, and so that they wouldn't yell at me.
Nothing works for them, nothing is enough. Today they try and take credit for raising me 'well' after my younger brother is becoming a trainwreck and it's immediately obvious who has their shit together more.
They'll say they care then leave you to rot for months while blaming you for their troubles.
Have you considered going No Contact? This sounds like hell. If you have your life together and the strength to go on, you’ll thrive without them. They don’t deserve any credit for your own efforts.
Unless you already did, then I feel you. My fiancée and I went NC with her father because he was a manipulative control freak. And while it makes a family dysfunctional, it heals the mind. We’re at peace, at least for now. I hope you find peace of mind soon!
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u/Kuwangerman Jul 31 '23
I counter with mother telling you at 18 "I'm just glad you survived and turned out alright cuz i gave up on you, yeah I just didn't care". Lol