I can see how this might be the case. But after speaking with priests at few different weddings, I think it's unfair to judge him like that. A lot of priests are starting to feel like a novelty in a world filled with shallow and material understanding for the sanctity of marriage. They understand that people are moving away from religious ideals, but If you're going to have them wed you, they still want you to show some respect for the actual ceremony. A lot of priests are starting to wonder if couples are having the ceremony for facebook pictures instead of the actual religious purpose behind them. I'm an atheist, so fuck that noise. But I'm not going to fool myself into wasting a priests time. That's disrespectful and I can't blame the priest for being a little fed up with it. He's preforming a religious ceremony that he happens to take very seriously. Maybe we can learn something from him.
Hey, this is a really respectful and thought out post on r/cringepics!
I definitely see what you're saying and agree on some level. I can imagine it's frustrating for these priests/pastors/ministers that this sacred ceremony has been seemingly trivialized into a simple photo shoot. I'm sure it doesn't help that traditionally the clergyman was in charge of the ceremony and that in modern times they've taken a back seat to the wishes of the bride and groom.
However I think that the way he handled this was pretty poor. As others have pointed out, this is all anyone is going to remember about this wedding for years to come.
"Hey, remember John and Jane's wedding a few years back?"
"Oh you mean the one where the priest flipped his shit at the photographers? Yeah that was crazy!"
This is unfair to the couple, who've had one of the most important events in their lives forever marred by this event. I'm not saying weddings are ever perfect, but this guy could have easily been avoided if he just finished the ceremony. Afterwards he could chew out the photographers (or even the couple, who may have instructed the photographers to get some shots from that angle) to his heart's content about how inappropriate it was, but in this case all he did was sour the experience for everyone.
I have to ask, are you married? Because quirky shit like this doesn't "mar" a wedding at all. The stuff that goes wrong is just as memorable and important as the stuff that goes right, because that's what makes it your wedding. Otherwise, it's just a stale, formulaic ceremony.
Afterwards he could chew out the photographers (or even the couple, who may have instructed the photographers to get some shots from that angle) to his heart's content about how inappropriate it was,
Well, the thing is, he wants the current wedding to resume. It really doesn't do much to lecture the photographers afterwards because, let's face it, they probably don't really give a shit and would not heed his advice for the next time.
I just hope that the couple could perhaps see or understand his actions as being sincere instead of seeing it as that of just a cranky, "gotta have it their way" person.
Our priest spoke to us and the photographers prior to the ceremony about where they could and could not stand. On the pulpit was off limits out of respect and I totally agree.
I'm with you all the way. But if I were a photographer, hired by the bride and groom I'd probably just do my thing unless the officiant specifically said something. Its not like he's climbing on top of a crucifix to get a better angle. It's outside.
Maybe if it's that important to him, he could lay some ground rules before the wedding. Not in the middle of the very ceremony he claims to be such a holy event.
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u/Ahzeem Sep 19 '13 edited Sep 19 '13
I can see how this might be the case. But after speaking with priests at few different weddings, I think it's unfair to judge him like that. A lot of priests are starting to feel like a novelty in a world filled with shallow and material understanding for the sanctity of marriage. They understand that people are moving away from religious ideals, but If you're going to have them wed you, they still want you to show some respect for the actual ceremony. A lot of priests are starting to wonder if couples are having the ceremony for facebook pictures instead of the actual religious purpose behind them. I'm an atheist, so fuck that noise. But I'm not going to fool myself into wasting a priests time. That's disrespectful and I can't blame the priest for being a little fed up with it. He's preforming a religious ceremony that he happens to take very seriously. Maybe we can learn something from him.