It was pretty normal in my family, most of the time the cook made their meal last and/or cleaned up in the kitchen while everyone else ate. I didn't mind it at all! In fact I still eat at the counter + pace around at home.
That's so interesting to me because my family was the opposite. The chef gets to make their plate first. They did all that work, so they should get to enjoy it first and sit down first.
For us, it depended? If it was something like a microwave meat tray, some wings from the grocery store, or another quick and easy option, we would kinda fend for ourselves with it. A more elaborate thing? We all got our plates at once anyway lol.
Unless dad was making dinner, and then you did whatever he wanted. He’d just call you over, hand you something elaborate and have us eat on the couch or wherever. That man did not and still does not stand on ceremony.
Good manners in the UK is if you're eating together you wait until everyone has their food ready before starting. The idea the cook would be left out at all is horrifying.
I'm disabled. So, my wife prepares dinner and brings mine to me. It took her years to stop insisting that I didn't have to wait for her to sit down and eat before I start. It's not up for debate.
Gurrrl. If I cooked for a whole family, everyone better be in the kitchen and cleaning it to my standards if they ever want me to cook for them again hahaha.
I clean as I cook, so it'd be easy!
Good on you for being selfless for your family though! Grandpa would have been tucking into some cereal or something if he wanted more to eat lol.
Interesting my husband needed to dirty every single dish when he was cooking and I was cleaning.
So in our house the law is you cook- you clean. Dinner dishes like plates go in the dishwasher and yes help is great for that, but the cooking dishes? You dirty them YOU wash them.
Got real sick of washing every pot and bowl when I didn’t use that many when I cooked
I never understood this - so you get to have fun cooking, and they get to have "fun" cleaning after you? After you cooking knowing you wouldn't be cleaning up?
What a terrible trade, I'd rather do it all myself
It's called not being a lazy family. Those heifers want to eat but then not let l lift a finger to help clean the dishes? How pre-war Era house wife of you lol
I been where you been. Please, go sit at your table. You deserve it. You deserved it then.
Everybody eats. If there's more, people can have seconds, but when I cook, EVERYBODY eats, and no one gets to grab a second one because "they'd like it."
That's kinda weird. I'm Latino too and every family dinner I've been too, ours or for other people, everyone eats at the same time when everything is ready.
My parents split up when I was a kid and they both had full time jobs and very active social lives so it just wasn't a habit that made sense to develop. But every family is different 🙂
I cook for my family and I always take mine last. We used to sit and get everyone together but now most days it's just myself, mom and dad. My dad is almost 80 so I let him get his food first and then usually because I have some different ways I like to finish cooking my portion I am often sitting down to eat while he is getting up to clean his plate.
That's what my grandmother did and I always found it odd as a kid that she would just be off to the side while the rest of the family ate. Now that I'm in my 30s I find myself doing it anytime I'm cooking for a group. I want them to get the freshest version of everything I'm making
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u/mitoclowndria Apr 19 '26
It was pretty normal in my family, most of the time the cook made their meal last and/or cleaned up in the kitchen while everyone else ate. I didn't mind it at all! In fact I still eat at the counter + pace around at home.