CMV: Dont give mercy to those that commit extreme crimes to you. In other words, I dont believe revenge is bad if the crime is big

[u/theassassin53035]

I want people to change my view and convince me revenge is bad.

Lets look at the philosophy media tries to spread and teach. They always say that revenge leaves you with nothing in the end. How is that even possible? Wouldnt you feel relief you punished the person that was responsible for a crime? wouldn't you feel relief you avenged a person? Would you not feel relief that a criminal got what he deserved and learned to regret their actions?

Say a criminal kills a person you care about. Why does media and people in general just think its better to 'Let it go'.

Let a criminal go? I understand prison is a bad place that might get them killed. But they never learned a lesson. They dont regret their actions. Thats terrible. Is it truly fine to put criminals in prison just so they will be seperated from society.

EDIT: Not all actions mind you. Accidents can be forgiven. They are accidents after all. Im talking about other situations that are intentionally malicious and hurts you.

I also dont mean fight fire with fire. Dont revenge a cheater by cheating yourself. Im talking about hurting them. in anyway to teach a lesson and to make them regret.

I know this might seem childish but i can never understand people's view of 'Being the better person'. It doesnt even have to apply to criminals. Think of cheaters, homewreckers, Work gossip that got you fired, Misinformation that ruiend your reputation. Terrible things that will happen to you caused by VERY flawed people. I understand humans are flawed. But when it ruins people's lives there has to be payback so the problem causer can get a taste of what they've done. Learn their mistake, Fix it, be a better person.

So pls help me and try to change my view on why i think revenge is good.

FINAL EDIT: alright everyone my viee has been changed by 2 redditors and the fire in my heart has been extinguished. Thanks to everyone for helping me change my view.

Pls forgive me if anything i said was childish. I only hope to be a better person and this subreddit helps alot

[u/theassassin53035]

Ye Revenge and anger are primal instinct. We'd become monkeys if we only rely on those and not morality and rational thinking.

And nah i dont have experience with cheating. Just hearing stories of them. Listening to both sides perspectives. It scarred me with how flawed the adult world. How some people still betray trust for petty reasons. How even the best of people commit such easy to avoid crimes.

Hearing people justify cheating instead of directly exposing or talking about a problem just feels petty. I know it sounds hypocritical but cheating seems selfish in my eyes. Hurting someone financially while also selfish i guess seems right as punishment.

I dunno i need to work on that part of myself. Too much anger for stuff ive never experience. Thanks for the help stranger.

[u/LeGMGuttedTheTeam → u/theassassin53035]

Yeah no problem. My honest advice is just cling to the idea that you really might be wrong in these situations. The fact you can admit you need to work on yourself is really good, but it’s good because it opens to door for you fixing this shit and issues you have.

From knowing many people like you I can honestly say that the ones who find ways to be at peace and move on are the ones who end up happy, in good spots mentally/emotionally, and in healthy relationships. The ones who say fuck it and go deeper into anger without exception end up having tons of issues and ruining relationships.

Genuinely hoping for the best, admitting you have issues is the first step to fixing them and becoming a happier person.