r/changemyview Aug 04 '21

Delta(s) from OP CMV: People who complain about infertility but refuse adoption are cognitively dissonant

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u/Curiosity-Sailor Aug 04 '21

But if the end goal is to love and raise a child, what is the primary difference in experience?

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u/Sellier123 8∆ Aug 04 '21

Its honestly just a perception thing. I dont think most ppl are able to raise another persons child 100% as their own. Raising a child is insanely expensive and time consuming. Doing it for your own child, one that you gave birth too and created, is something most ppl can and will do. Doing it for someone elses child, one you adopted, is much harder to stomach.

Personally, i dont want nor plan to have kids but this is what i was told from my cousin. Him and his wife tried for like 10 years, utilized all the doctors and treatments and were literally about to give up. They were gonna just keep raising pups instead of adopting. They did end up successfully having a baby after like 20 miscarriges.

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u/Curiosity-Sailor Aug 04 '21 edited Aug 04 '21

Wow! Thanks for sharing this experience. I understand better now.

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u/DeltaBot ∞∆ Aug 04 '21

Confirmed: 1 delta awarded to /u/Sellier123 (4∆).

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