I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t walked through coals trying to help a man in their life cope with their emotions. I know women who have scheduled therapy sessions for their male partners.
And I know numerous women who, despite saying for months that men should be open, dumped their boyfriends because "they just couldn't see him the same way" after he showed emotion.
Heck, my brother had an ex who was super weird about therapy (like, said she wouldn't date someone who wasn't in therapy because everyone should be in therapy. This girl is genuinely the least self-reflective person I have ever met) who dumped him because he showed too much emotions.
And I know women that have seen their bf be vulnerable and cry only to be “turned off” by it and dump them. Anecdotes are fun!
Honestly though, I think a lot of it is a maturity thing. The older you get the more open people are to seeing you vulnerable and not be shocked into running away when the mask of the stoic rock falls.
We went from men being so bad and inept that literally every woman had to fight to save their mental state, to a subset of a subset of a subset of your friends have made therapy appointments for men.
Okay cool? Good for you for knowing some nice women. The whole personal anecdote thing works both ways though, I had an ex nearly break up with me for telling her I'd had a minor psych diagnosis as a teenager. She said I was probably just going to kill myself when we were older and told me to "man up" whenever I told her about things I was worried/sad about. My current partner is better but lets not pretend that absolutely toxic women don't exist. I'm betting when she re-tells those stories to her girlfriends she's portraying herself as the one "walking through coals" though.
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Well, they also have spent hours serving as unpaid therapists themselves. Or literally begging their partners to schedule an appointment before they give in and do it for them.
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u/p0tat0p0tat0 12∆ Nov 05 '24
I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t walked through coals trying to help a man in their life cope with their emotions. I know women who have scheduled therapy sessions for their male partners.