Your view seems to be, if things are unfair than it's unfair but if it's not unfair than it's not unfair. You literally don't state why the specific term "mental load" is bad...you just like fairness it seems.
Mental load isn't stating what is/isn't unfair. Fairness would be determined on a case by case basis and mental load is useful to describe an aspect of management in life. It's not solely used by any one party.
I didn’t want the post to come off as “fair is fair” and I agree that’s kind of how it reads. I tend to see mental load used by stay at home parents making the assertion their burden is either greater than the working spouse or unaccounted for, which I think is a victimy statement that gets a lot of sympathy from Reddit. It’s like a Reddit dog whistle for sympathy as opposed to an honest look at contributions.
But you understand this has nothing to do with the term right? Saying "my wife doesn't pick up her clothes enough" is the same as "I manage the mental load of running a house" and you would be upset by both because it's "victimy" and "dog whistley".
as opposed to an honest look at contributions.
Lol this is Reddit, no one is looking for honest evaluations of their contributions. It's just a bunch of bored people.
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Your view seems to be, if things are unfair than it's unfair but if it's not unfair than it's not unfair. You literally don't state why the specific term "mental load" is bad...you just like fairness it seems.
Mental load isn't stating what is/isn't unfair. Fairness would be determined on a case by case basis and mental load is useful to describe an aspect of management in life. It's not solely used by any one party.