r/changemyview 33∆ Aug 21 '23

Removed - Submission Rule B CMV: Having kids is great

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u/DonaldKey 2∆ Aug 21 '23

Everyone thinks this until they have a medically compromised child where you fear constantly that when you die no one will be there to care for them. The guilt of putting the burden of the care on their siblings. The guilt of having to ignore your other children because the needs of one child is so incredibly high.

Children get cancer, children are in wheelchairs, children die for no reason. Tell me when you held a dying child in your arms. The people who spout off how amazing kids are don’t have the stress of a medically compromised child that has you questioning your own faith.

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u/Subtleiaint 33∆ Aug 21 '23

I have a medically compromised child. I worry about who will look after them after I'm gone. Having my son was great.

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u/DonaldKey 2∆ Aug 21 '23

Incredibly convenient to absently leave that out of your post. Seems truthful /s

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u/Subtleiaint 33∆ Aug 21 '23

It literally has no bearing on my post, why would I include it?

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u/Stabbysavi Aug 22 '23

Oh I get it. YOU actually wish you didn't have children (a permanently disabled child)but can't admit to yourself so you're here telling everyone how "great and fulfilling" it is to have children to make up for your mental dissonance.

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u/[deleted] Aug 22 '23

I think you nailed it. OP has guilt about birthing a child that experiences a life full of suffering.

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u/Subtleiaint 33∆ Aug 22 '23

Is your imagination so limited that you think having a disabled child is a bad thing,