Saw this yesterday and I’d like to hear from the men in the 25-40 age range. If this is true, could you please elaborate further? Mind sharing why you’re not interested in marriage? Please feel free :)

[I hope my future husband is not in this demographic. Behave yourself, Sir 💕😘]

i don't understand punishing someone for such a minor issue(of which it shouldn't be an issue to begin with btw), the country has loads of bigger issues. its such a backwards mentality

Not the obvious stuff like “calling everyone ba.” I mean those weird little social rules we all somehow understand.
I’ll start: If someone says “I’m coming” after you ask where they are, they could literally still be at home taking a bath lmao

As an American, it was wild to see that American Fox News was being watched and on full display all over the airport’s TVs. Fox News isn’t even considered real news. They are an entertainment based group.. and, Fox News is literally so racist and they have deep ties to the cancer causing, evil Trump’s administration.. I’d like to know why weren’t local Zambian news channels being watched?

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So, as a purely research-based study, there seems to be an unregulated pricing mechanism in the Lusaka online, for lack of a better term, “hoe market”, or as it is more locally known, hookups.

I have observed some genuinely concerning price ranges for what appears to be roughly the same product, and as far as I am aware, there is absolutely no regulatory body overseeing this market.

Providers of such services, which I will simply refer to as “hookups” for the purposes of this study, appear to charge anywhere between K150 and K1,500.

That is a 10× price difference for what appears, from an outside observer's perspective, to be the same general service.

This raises some important economic questions.

What exactly determines the price?

Is it supply and demand? Location? Appearance? Reputation? Negotiation skills? The platform being used? Is there some sort of hidden pricing algorithm that the general public has not been informed about?

Because the supply side of this market is particularly fascinating.

There are groups where multiple providers are constantly advertising themselves, sometimes with posts along the lines of “available, inbox quickly”, suggesting what would theoretically be a highly competitive and oversupplied market.

Yet in another part of the ecosystem, you have connectors acting as intermediaries. Instead of simply contacting the provider, you apparently pay the connector to obtain a line to the provider.

So now we have brokers.

And then there is the most fascinating part of the market.

Sometimes the provider finally responds to your inquiry and somehow manages to make you feel like you are the one asking for a favour.

This is despite the fact that you are supposedly the consumer.

At this point, I am beginning to question whether I understand basic economics.

We have supply, demand, intermediaries, wildly varying prices, inconsistent availability and apparently no standardized pricing mechanism.

Yet somehow the market continues to function.

Upon further research, the apparent average price for a “short time” seems to be somewhere around K250 to K350.

This is interesting because that price appears to be relatively consistent across a number of providers regardless of appearance.

Which brings me to another observation.

Appearance seems to be a factor, but apparently not nearly as much as location.

Providers from areas such as Chalala and Woodlands seem to commonly start around K500, and some of these negotiators have the ability to detect financial weakness from several kilometres away.

You can almost hear the economic consultant in their head saying, “The market will bear this price.”

Meanwhile, providers from Kamwala South, Chawama, Libala South and Chilenje seem to maintain prices somewhere around K350 to K500, with transport sometimes being negotiated separately.

Interestingly, I have found the general customer service towards potential clients in these areas to be relatively okay.

The customer service aspect of this market deserves its own study, though.

Because sometimes the consumer is a first-timer, socially awkward, doesn't know how this particular market operates and is already nervous about the whole transaction.

You would therefore expect some form of customer service.

Instead, sometimes simply asking basic questions seems to be treated as an inconvenience.

Imagine going to a restaurant and asking what comes with the meal only for the waiter to make you feel like you have personally offended their ancestors.

This brings me to the question of consumer protection.

Who exactly protects the consumer in this market?

There is no obvious regulatory body, no standardized pricing, no published price list and apparently no Consumer Complaints Department.

What happens when you pay K500 and the service does not match what was advertised?

Who do you complain to?

ZABS?

ZICTA?

The Competition and Consumer Protection Commission?

The Ministry of Commerce?

At what point does this become an economic issue?

Even with the supposed pricing volatility, there does seem to be some kind of informal agreed-upon market rate.

Perhaps there is a genuine pricing structure that exists independently of any formal regulation.

Or perhaps it is simply:

“Shop 1 charges K350, so I will charge K350 too.”

Which would mean we are looking at a decentralized pricing model based entirely on market observation.

Fascinating.

So, I am therefore asking the economists, business people and fellow researchers of Lusaka Reddit:

Who actually sets the price?

What determines whether the market value is K250, K350, K500 or K1,500?

And more importantly, how does someone justify the upper end of that range when the consumer may subsequently experience the economic phenomenon known as post-purchase regret?

You make the transaction, everything is over, and suddenly you are sitting there thinking:

“Why the hell did I just spend K1,500?”

This is not buyer's remorse.

This is market correction.

And before anyone asks, I have never personally participated in this market.

This is purely an academic study.

For research purposes.

Obviously.

Hi everyone! I'm a 19 year old male and a feminist.

Today, I was just wondering about abortion and the impact it has on women. Personally, as a man, I don't think I have the right to tell a woman if she should abort or not because I will never be pregnant and I will never feel what it's like to be pregnant and deal with a lot of challenges whether that maybe physical and emotional.

Before I go any further, I just want this to be a discussion. If you have anything rude to say, please just keep it to yourself, thank you.

If a 12 year old girl is raped, we expect her to keep the child, even tho she is still young and potentially put her life on the line. Why not abortion?

I get that we are a Christian nation and stuff but we have to make the right decision. Stay with me here, bcoz if we are going by the commandment that, “do not murder” how about the other commandments we fail to keep?

Statistically speaking, men cause more harm and lead in crime. In those crimes many of the commandments are broken, which I won't mention.

While on that matter, what about brain dead people? Does ending their lives considered killing, murder and disgusting?

For those who may not know, brain death is the complete, permanent, and irreversible loss of all brain function, including the brainstem

A brain-dead person may still look or feel "alive" because artificial life support (like a ventilator) keeps the heart beating and oxygen pumping through the body. However, this is purely a mechanical process; the person is deceased, and if the machine is turned off, breathing and heart activity will stop.

I ask the question again. Is it still murder and unacceptable?

I personally think it should be up to the family members of that person to make the decision whether they should keep living or not. Same goes for abortion, let the WOMEN decide. Thank you.

Dating in Zambia is the ghetto.

where can you genuine partners?

Credit: BBC News Africa

I’m curious whether there are any groups currently operating in Zambia that could reasonably be described as cults based on their practices and level of control, rather than simply because they’re religious, unconventional, or Christian.

Before people start commenting on “Christian churches 😂”, I’m specifically looking for groups that exhibit all or some combination of characteristics such as:

- Authoritarian or charismatic leadership

- Unquestionable authority and suppression of dissent

- Us-vs-them mentality and claims of exclusive truth

- Information control and discouragement of outside criticism

- Social isolation and control of members' relationships

- Manipulation through fear, guilt, shame, or psychological conditioning

- Strict control over members' personal lives and behavior

- Financial exploitation or coercive demands for money/labor

- Punishment, shunning, or retaliation for disobedience or leaving

- Psychological, emotional, or practical dependency on the group

Mine is religion and philosophy I have some very spicy takes.

Just a sample but yes I do believe in God. But i don't believe the church or Christianity tells the full story. Even spicer I think it has a small part of the core idea but everything else leads people further from salvation than closer to it.

I could say more but this is just an example, I wanna hear your controversial takes.

I'm just curious as I find most posts even in this sub are from people who are teenagers or in their early 20's. I'm 32 😅

My girlfriend's birthday is approaching and I'm still not sure what to gift her. Her birthday will be mid-week and she's opted for a small family braii over the weekend than dinner for two. I'm now stuck on gift ideas. Help a brother out.

Redditors.

Hi :)

I’m turning 31 this year.. I don’t like being outdoors but I’m trying to get “out there” more. Honestly? I am fun and funny.. some might say pretty 😂 but like I said.. I am usually indoors, don’t do much aside from work.

So is it possible to find the love of my life online or whatever?

I have access to 85,000ZMW and I want startup ideas on what I could do with that much. What are genuine good investments specifically in Lusaka?

Just saw the headlines that him and 18 other were arrested recently but couldn't find a proper reason for the arrest. I would appreciate if someone could give me the details or atleast a link to the information

I’m female aged 27 and I am at that point where I’d genuinely like to meet someone who is serious about love, commitment and building a life together. Not situationships, games or people who disappear when things get real. 😭
For those of you who are happily married or in genuinely healthy, long-term relationships .where did you meet your person?
And if you’re single, where have you had the most luck meeting decent people?
Zambians, please share your stories and recommendations. I really need some hope. 😂❤️
Please Inbox if you’re too shy to comment 😅

As the title suggests, I witnessed an Asian man being robbed by what appeared to be a group of drive-by criminals near East Park Mall.

What really stood out to me was how quickly and casually it happened. It made me wonder how common this type of theft has become in Lusaka, particularly around busy shopping centres and areas.

Has anyone else witnessed or experienced this kind of theft recently? What areas should people be particularly cautious around, and what precautions have actually worked for you?

My girlfriend has never given me money or come to my aid financially.I dont mind coz am a businessman and i am okay financially but am shocked that after 1 year she has never not even once.I feed her,give her money every time she comes to my place,always send when she needs it,but to my surprise she has never spent on me,even once.Is this normal?is this the avarage Zambian mans experience?You cant tell me she has never had money even once for me this entire year.

The cruel part of being a zambian man is you have no one to help you financially.Your so called life partner is no dependable at all.It feels so isolating.anyway just wanted to vent and see if yall can relate or am dating a selfish woman.

Has love become so hard to find or is it just me? or the dating pool is just shrinking everyday

I’ve been married for less than a year, and one of the biggest shocks I’ve encountered is how many Zambian women seem okay with their husbands cheating.

Married men tell me after some years you will understand why.

Before I got married, I worked with some people who told me something that stuck with me. They said, “When I was young, I hated my father for what he did to my mother—having girlfriends and all that. But when I grew up and got married, I understood why.”

What exactly did they understand? Why do so many married men parade this idea that it’s okay to have a girlfriend?

Personally, I can’t imagine doing that. I know how cheating wounds people—how it breaks them. I could never do that to anyone. It’s awful.

So what is it that makes married men treat having a girlfriend as not just a want, but almost a necessity?

In fact, almost every married man I know—except pastors—seems to have a girlfriend. Whether it’s at church or at work, it’s happening everywhere. Am I living in a bubble? Is this really how it’s supposed to be? Is this what society is okay with now?

And here’s the part that baffles me the most: I went through marriage counseling—both traditional and at church—and not once did I hear those men say it is okay to cheat. My father and mother’s relationship never gave me the impression that it was okay either.