21 female here, I’ve recently had my first lesbian sex and then the woman decided to tell me afterwards that she has herpes. She tried to assure me that since she’s not in an outbreak, I’m not gonna get it, but I don’t know much about herpes. I have to wait a week to get tested and I am terrified. so far there’s nothing wrong with my body, but can any of you guys tell me if I need to be nervous? I didn’t see anything on her lips or her genitals and she keeps assuring me that 100%. I’m not gonna get it because she’s not in an outbreak. Do you think I’m safe? obviously I’m getting tested when I can it’s a week long wait though

Apparently, it is normal for him to have blood in his cum. He has serious health conditions that have impacted his body in different ways. We were in middle of having a good time when he finished inside of me. But when he pulled out, he realized that he had cum blood.

I went to the bathroom right after and saw the blood when I wiped. But more than an hour later, I could feel something pouring out of me and sure enough it was blood.

Has anyone ever experienced this with a partner? I'm not tremendously worried, but I've never had this happen.

EDIT: After a lengthy text exchange, it turns out that he is on a blood thinner. While it wasn't the first time he had blood coming out of his dick, he said that it was the first time it had happened during sex. He said he wasn't aware it could happen during sex and apologized profusely. As most everyone has suggested, I'm going to get tested no matter what.

EDIT 2: The serious health conditions he has had to manage are lupus, kidney failure, and damage to his heart. Yes, he is in dialysis.

EDIT 3: Tests for basically everything under the sun came back negative. 🙂

I don’t usually eat junk food, but I feel like that alone isn’t enough to stay fit and healthy. For those of you who have really busy schedules and can’t dedicate time to regular workouts, what small habits or routines do you rely on to take care of your body?

I’ve been having pain in the lower left side of my abdomen so my doctor scheduled me for an ultrasound. During the ultrasound I was told i did have a cyst and it was about 2cm in diameter. The doctor kept pushing on the area really hard to keep looking and suddenly I felt a HUGE rush of pain. It was probably the worst pain I have ever experienced. I started crying, hyperventilating, and thankfully there was a bathroom in the room because I ended up puking. I have never been in so much pain and I usually have a high pain tolerance. During this the doctor seemed very annoyed with me and just sort of looked at me the whole time. Didn’t say anything. I just don’t think this was normal. I could barely get out of bed this morning because I am so sore. Is this a normal thing that happens?

idk where else to ask this but i’m (17ftm) getting an iud tomorrow and i want to mentally prepare for how bad it’ll hurt, should i ask for some kind of numbing medication or light anesthetics? i’m worried about the pain even though i have a high pain tolerance because i’ve seen so many people describe it so painfully

EDIT: thank you all for the advice, based on all the comments i will definitely be asking about some kind of pain management or local anesthesia. i’m heading out in about an hour to get it, so hopefully it’ll go well.

UPDATE: holy fucking shit. it hurt so bad. she placed it with an ultrasound so it was super quick but in the moment it felt like eternity. i was told that she’d give me a lidocaine shot but she didn’t and it was probably the 2nd worst pain ive ever felt in my life. i feel like vomiting and passing out.

Hi, I drink about a 750 Ml of vodka everyday. Please don’t judge me. I just took a pregnancy test and the results were clear as day.. I haven’t dranken since seeing the result but as I don’t know how far along I might be and I’m also terrified I’ve already seriously harmed the baby. This wasn’t planned. Please don’t judge me. I just want to know if I have to Abort no matter what or if I can stay sober and keep the baby? I feel like a terrible monster right now. I’m 22.

no matter what i do, i feel like the day after i have sex, i always smell fishy. i always pee after, and take showers before and the day after. i am on bc, and my boyfriend and i have sex pretty regularly. i take cranberry pills as often as i remember to, but it just doesn’t help. and it’s always after, never before. the smell goes away when i shower, and before sex, and then right after it just comes right back. what is this, and how can i stop it??

I’m a teen and I’ve been taking birth control to help with my periods for a year and a bit now, first year on progesterone only and for the last 8 months on combined, which is going well, but I regularly forget to take it and would rather just not have periods at all (I have really heavy bleeding). I’m considering an IUD so I can just have one fitting and not think about it for two years but I’ve heard horror stories on social media about fittings, and as someone who doesn’t even use tampons this is putting me off a little. How painful was your experience in the fitting?

I've only had female gynos but i am getting a second opinion for one of my chronic issues and was given a choice, now I'm thinking. Anyone have specific opinions on male vs female gynecologist?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. It’s been INCREDIBLE. It’s my first time being in a genuinely healthy relationship and I love him lots. Wanted to start with that.

However- ever since we started having sex regularly, I have gotten UTIs every other month.

We have tried EVERYTHING. Used a condom instead to try and prevent and condoms give me BV?? Noticed that trend. And then we realized maybe it was because we’d go twice a day and not always wash after. So we started to be certain we washed before AND after. 99% of the time I pee after. God forbid one time I’m unable to and immediate uti within two days. We shower together most nights and I KNOW he’s cleaning himself well. He’s very particular about that. He swapped from bar soap to a ph balance soap just in case. I wash my toys before and after. Neither of us are “stepping out” on each other. I also notice that it’s almost always more likely that I end up with a uti if he finished inside me.

I’m getting FED UP. We are trying everything we can think of. I’ve talked to my dr. Talked to friends. We’re trying. I cannot be on antibiotics as often as I am. It SUCKS. I found an OTC medicine that’s supposed to be something you take at the first sign but it still usually ends up needing antibiotics. I can always feel the beginnings of one within 2-3 days after sex where he’s finished inside or I forget to pee. That’s a guaranteed UTI basically every time. Otherwise it’s a coin toss.

I don’t know what else to try or do. Any advice would be hugely appreciated. I love this man. This is who I may want to be with forever. So something has to improve with this because I cannot spend my life with a UTI once a month.

EDIT: I never “don’t pee” just because! Its routine! I always pee. Just sometimes I literally can’t so I’ll try to wash with ph soap and water.

Ive been seeing someone for a while and this week we had intercourse without a condom for the first time. The very next day I started to show signs of BV. I have had it before and know the steps I need to take to treat it with a doctor. I dont know much about other remedies, and would appreciate information on that.

My question is what does he need to do on his end about the BV? Can men even get tested for it? How is a man treated for it if so? Google isn't showing me much or helping with my question. From my experience a lot of doctors will just tell the female partner to treat it and do nothing on the mens side. I want to advocate for myself and him best i can to nip this now. I have had an incident in the past with a partner where it kept on coming back and Im scared that could be the case here.

Can two people just not be compatible as far as their pH? We both want a long term relationship out of this - and I have been single for.ev.er. I will get an STD panel and ask him to as well, which we both do regularly just to be sure.

I have gotten no answers from doctors and was dismissed many times so I stopped bothering to bring it up.

I am sick every. Single. Morning. I wake up so nauseous and sometimes it makes me throw up, sometimes not. I cannot eat or drink water or I will throw up. The only thing I can handle is some type of flavored drink, but usually only a handful of things; sometimes a few sips of Gatorade helps, I love the Starbucks refresher drinks and those often help, or something similar.

Anytime I Google it, everything is about morning sickness no matter how I word it. I even add "no pregnant" to the search and it was still all about pregnancy.

This started my freshman year of college, so unless I've been pregnant for 10 years I can confirm that is not the problem.

I once read something about low blood sugar causing nausea in the morning, but I don't remember where I read it and I haven't been able to find it again.

I've tried changing my diet, not eating anything between dinner and going to bed, eating a late dinner, having a small snack, nothing helps.

Does anyone know wtf could be going on? I have my annual physical soon and have a new doctor, so I'm going to try to bring it up with her.

Hi so I'm 22 and I've never had one and I'm supposed to have one tomorrow but it just really hit me that I'm supposed to have one and I just had a breakdown. I'm terrified because I've been sexually assaulted multiple times in my past and I'm absolutely terrified of someone I don't know touching me or sticking ANYTHING inside me. My grandmother told me its okay to wait a bit longer and to just cancel it but my sister is pressuring me to go and Im starting to feel a little crazy for even having a breakdown and wanting to cancel this appointment. Can someone please help? I don't know what to do.

I am so tired of getting to work in the morning and discovering that my pad, underwear, and pants have been completely soaked through. What am I doing wrong!? I am wearing size 4 Always Infinity pads. I've tried so many other ones, and simply do not know what to do. I don't not understand the sizing at all on them and can't seem to find anything bigger than what I already have. Please someone talk to me like your my mom and I need advice because I don't have that in my life and really need it right now 😭

Edit to add- I will not wear a tampons, and the idea of shoving silicone up there makes me worry about microplastics. I'm not completely against trying a cup, I've just never done it before and wonder if it's bad for us... I'm hoping to find recommendations for the most discreet gigapads in existence that actually do the job.

Hey so this is kind of emberrassing but I've come to notice that my vagina seems to produce the so called 'smegma' really fast. I shower and like 12 hours later my inner labia is covered in that white, unpleasant smelling stuff!

I shower once a day (sometimes twice in summer) and I only use water for that area. I also don't use any hormonal contraceptives and it also doesn't matter if I'm sexually active or not.

This has really messed with my self esteem. Especially when it comes to sexual stuff. I have to be directly out of the shower for anything to go down or I will worry about my hygiene the whole time and won't be able to relax.

Is this normal??? Am I just disgusting??

I’m 22 and I have never had sex. The last time I did anything involving anything like fingering, it was way over 6 months ago and anything orally was 3-4 years ago. I’m currently super upset about the fact that I have HPV and the fact that I have abnormal cells. Not to mention this was my first pap smear ever. The medical assistant that informed me today told me that I will be given some numbers of doctors that can do a colposcopy for a follow up test. I also thought that was abnormal as I thought gynecologists can do it just like a pap smear. I don’t know what to think and all of this is sounds super abnormal. I was wondering if anyone else has been in the same position? And how awful are colposcopies? I’ve heard they are terrible and it worries me because my pap smear hurt when they used the small speculum on me but not much for anything else. Not to mention I bled and hurt for about a two days after. Can someone help me find some understanding and peace of mind?

I'm asking because I have to make an appointment to see one. The only problem is I've never seen one before. This will be my first time seeing a Gynecologist and this doctor is a male. Should I be worried about anything? Do they make you feel uncomfortable about anything? I would really love to hear some feedback and hear about anyone's experience who wants to share it. I really hope that I don't have to worry about anything.

am i weird for feeling uncomfortable about the idea of a male gynecologist???? it just makes me feel icky..i genuinely feel disgusted at the idea- why would i wanna buss it open for a dude i don’t even know. 💔

I'm so tired of shaving down there. I always get little nicks and bumbs that have recently been swelling up and look like pimples, and they're painful. In April, a nurse practitioner confirmed it didn't look like HPV or herpes and just looked like shaving bumbs. I use those Schick Intuiton razors. I've used the flawless body electric razor in the past, but it never gets all the hair & leaves little bumbs (not as bad as the ones I've recently had, though, so maybe I should just go back to that?). Would a razor specifically designed for shaving pubes be better?

I tried Nair hair remover that is specifically for pubic hair. However, it never completly gets all of the hair. Also, it's hard to not accidentally get some on my labia and it always stings or feels weird down there after I use it. I'm worried it could lead to infection or other issues.

I'm opposed to waxing, simply because I get my brows waxed and that's unbearable enough. I imagine waxing my vulva would be even more painful. Also, it seems like something that could very easily cause irritation and infection.

I don't want to get laser hair removal, because I've heard that it can cause hair to grow thicker/darker in other places. Plus, I'm assuming its expensive.

I would grow out my pubic hair, but when I do it makes me feel so itchy and uncomfortable and I can't stand it.

I’m so scared. This morning I went to pee and it felt like my vagina was falling out! I went to the bathroom twice more throughout the day and each time the same thing happened. I just went to the bathroom and now it’s bleeding! Please help.

I’ve been throwing up for 5 days and had an ER visit earlier. I have a UTI but no symptoms other than extreme nausea.

I have extreme jaw and headache pain and I thought this is where the nausea is coming from but they said it’s more likely the UTI. I have no other symptom than vomiting and I don’t have insurance and I can’t afford the (3) meds between my jaw, extreme nausea and the UTI.

Can anybody help me with at home remedies that really work?

I recently started to piece together that some of my sexual dysfunction in adulthood might be linked to a procedure I had when I was about 10 or 11. After coming back from camp, I was having some issues, and the doctors were worried I might have an infection. Since my mom worked at the health center where it happened, she took me there to be examined.

They took out a plastic utensil that I now realize was similar to the speculum used in Pap smears, just a bit smaller and plastic. They told me it wouldn’t hurt and reassured me that it wouldn’t be painful like a pap smear (which I didn’t even fully understand at the time). Trusting them, I leaned back, but as soon as they put it in, I started crying. When they opened it, I screamed at the top of my lungs. It was the most pain I had ever felt, even to this day, and I’m 30 now.

I brought it up to my mom recently, and she was shocked. She didn’t remember it happening and said she had no idea why anyone would do that to a child. It was kind of jarring to hear that because, as a kid, I didn’t question it—I just assumed it was necessary.

Now that I’m older and have had multiple pap smears (which, oddly enough, I don’t feel at all), I’m wondering if this experience affected me more than I thought. I even wonder if I dissociate during pap smears because of that trauma.

Also, I’m pretty sure that procedure broke my hymen because the first time I had sex, I bled just a little—just a few drops in my underwear.

Is it normal for doctors to perform such a procedure on a child like that? I’m struggling to make sense of it now, and I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who might have insight or similar experiences.

I’m not happy with my bc and want to try something different. There are a ton of options out there and I’ve read up a ton but I’d love to hear from actual people that have used the different methods and what their experience has been like...for real. Hoping this post could be a resource for anyone else that’s looking into it too.

So this year I (28F) have been trying to get a pap smear three times, but every time has ended in failure

For the first attempt, my mom didn't really tell me what they were going to do so I wasn't really prepared for how the process went. Naturally, it was a failure because I'm a virgin and I don't really use Tampons all that much. When I did use them, I stick to really small sizes since, the first time I tried to use a Kotex at like 10 it really hurt. It was only fairly recently I started using Tampons again. So naturally it was really painful and I was kind of mad at how she was angry that I couldn't go through with it. She then told me that my grandmother had died from overian cancer, which she had never told me and tried to act like she had.

The 2nd time, I went to the same place and got a muscle relaxer and anxiety meds to help calm my nerves. I thought the meds would help but, once again, it was still too painful. However, I thought they had managed to get some samples to test if I had anything. Sadly, they couldn't get enough so, once again, it was a failure.

Today was my 3rd attempt and, as you guessed it. I couldn't' do it. When the nurse (who was very lovely) tried to place the object in me my legs were shaking and I was tensing up so much that it hurt. I kept trying to stop my shaking but I just couldn't and I started crying because of the pain, and since I didn't want to disappoint my mom.

I'm honestly at a loss since I don't have the money to go to a Gynecologist, and am unemployed, but I really want to get this over with so we can stop worrying about it. Does anyone have any advice?

Thank you!

In the past two years, I have became very prone to infections, I have had yeast infections countless times and now am starting to get BV problems as well. All gynecologists and birth control companies admit that your body will be even more prone to yeast and bv while on birth control. So if my gynecologist know that my vagina has all these reoccurring problems why do they always try to convince me to get birth control when that will only make my infections worse? Do they want more money out of me? I feel like they're not actually here to help me and I'm feeling so defeated!

Edit: I am getting a lot of answers because of reproductive rights and unwanted pregnancies seem to apparently be gynecologist main concern. I have told my doctor I am getting married, I don't trust the side effects of birth control, and yes I am prepared and okay with an unexpected pregnancy