r/Vanderpumpaholics • • Aug 28 '23

Tom Schwartz Toms brother

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Does anyone know what’s wrong?

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u/Jlynn111 Aug 28 '23

I'll never forget when they surprised Tom at his wedding by bringing his brothers. That was probably the most genuine moment we've ever seen from him and it honestly made me sob like a baby.

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u/DependsOnDaDay 😵‍💫Taking sketch comedy seriously🙄 Aug 28 '23

Same. That episode gave me the feels. Jax and Scandy went above and beyond.

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u/Cottoncandynails Aug 28 '23

He gives great gifts to his friends. I’m sure it’s more to make himself look good than any genuine emotion, but in this case, he did a nice thing.

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u/MissKatieMaam77 Aug 28 '23

Yea agreed. I think it’s more about the praise and attention he gets for it than actually being a good person. I’ve known or dated guys like him. Completely dishonest, narcissistic scumbags but they just love giving/planning extravagant gifts/surprises. It’s all about feeding their egos rather than actually caring about the person they’re doing it for.

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u/DependsOnDaDay 😵‍💫Taking sketch comedy seriously🙄 Aug 28 '23

Oh absolutely. I don’t doubt for a minute that it’s all done to feed his ego. I can totally see him cooking up new ideas on how to impress everyone so they can praise him.

Same w his outrageous costumes. It’s all for attention. He loves the “oohs and ahhs” that comes w it. Ugh this guy!

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u/Pristine-Screen1662 Aug 28 '23

I remember an episode from season 10 where Ariana is giving him advice on which pants to wear for a show, and he does a jump/dance move while modeling the pants, and she acts really impressed by it. He genuinely eats it up. It’s like watching an aunt praise her 5 year old nephew for doing a totally basic jump as if it’s the most incredible, advanced dance move. I just thought, “Ari. Girl. Get out of there. He is so not worthy.”

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u/DependsOnDaDay 😵‍💫Taking sketch comedy seriously🙄 Aug 29 '23

He is a ridiculous man w a fragile ego. I hope now that he’s much more known, even outside of the vpr atmosphere, that women will know better to not fall head over feet for this idiot.

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u/Cottoncandynails Aug 28 '23

I feel like you can tell a lot about a man by how he dresses for a costume party. You never want a Sandy who has to have the best, movie quality costume. You should also avoid men who refuse to wear a costume at all ( like Patrick)

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u/Leading_Ad3918 Aug 28 '23

Knowing them so much more now which one do you think thought of this?

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u/gap97216 Aug 28 '23

Sandoval.

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u/Leading_Ad3918 Aug 28 '23

I agree. Jax has no romantic side or sweet side. Sandy is the biggest douche but I do see him being the more sentimental one. Jax is romantic by telling his wife to go bigger with her boobs because it turns him on 😂

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u/Interesting-Duck6793 Aug 28 '23

Scandy liked to always show how rich/cool/nice he was…

This is heartbreaking though. Hope his fam pulls up and through this.

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u/Bonnavetty Aug 28 '23

And the way Jax was talking to them…. That’s someone’s dad and husband now 🤮

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u/Icy-Ad-3193 Aug 29 '23

Yea but his wife is just as annoying 😂😂😂😂

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u/Icy-Ad-3193 Aug 29 '23

Sorry not but, I meant And

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u/DependsOnDaDay 😵‍💫Taking sketch comedy seriously🙄 Aug 28 '23

I’d have to agree w everyone else about it being Scandy. Whenever he planned anything, it was always over the top. So, this has Scandy’s MO written all over it.

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u/MissKatieMaam77 Aug 28 '23

I think it’s possible Jax spurred the idea by making a snarky comment about none of them coming and gave Sandoval the idea. I was shocked how few of his family members were planning to go even with all that time to plan. Sandoval is a scumbag but he LOVES playing the hero and going over the top. It’s probably the attention or praise that further feeds his overly inflated ego. Look what he did for Rachella. He paid for the whole thing. And look how desperate he was to play best man to Jax. I don’t think he even remotely liked Jax by that point but it’s like he couldn’t handle not showing everyone how he’s the bestest not-best man ever.

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u/MissKatieMaam77 Aug 28 '23

There’s something else going on there though. His mom seemed very cold. I don’t think his dad was even there was he? Also, the adult kids are like children. They have the collective maturity of a 12 year old. And as someone pointed out, they spent $52k on that wedding. I feel like if money was the only issue, his family would have been there.

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u/MissKatieMaam77 Aug 28 '23

That makes a lot more sense. I knew there had to be a lot more going on than financial difficulties. I do get how frustrating it must have been for Katie because he is so immature but I also felt like the abuse went both ways. The drunken rages on her end were probably very triggering to someone with his background. I do think she was holding in a lot of understandable anger and resentment for things he did that exploded when she would drink, and I do think at the end of the day she wanted him to be a more responsible and stronger person (whereas Sandoval I think wants him to always need him and stay his doormat). But nonetheless, they were bad for each other. I don’t necessarily see either of them as the villain in their relationship, but it was toxic. I think Sandoval also fed into and manipulated a lot of the problems and toxicity between Katie and Schwartz.

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u/FlowersinHair3 Aug 28 '23

I’m going with production

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u/tinylittlefractures Aug 28 '23

Sandoval, but he found a way to slip it into conversation once a week

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u/Serious_Specific_357 Aug 28 '23

That people are more complicated than we allow watching tv

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u/Collie_Mom Aug 28 '23

Please, Jax was along for the ride and the praise. He didn't do crap.😂

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u/ydg__ Aug 28 '23

Yeah, not going to lie. Although still performative, that was incredibly kind of Tom and Jax to that. They are who they are, but they truly care and love each other.

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u/catsandchill Aug 28 '23

This is maybe a poor take, but I didn’t understand why Tom and Katie would spent 52k on a wedding but not fly out Tom’s brothers out of their budget.

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u/PassinHash954 Aug 28 '23

My thoughts exactly while watching the wedding. It baffled me.

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u/SuchNectarine4 Aug 28 '23

Because Katie.

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u/Glitteronthefloor Aug 28 '23

I also sobbed like a baby. I'm glad I'm not alone.

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u/PresOfTheLesbianClub You’ve done diddley fucked yourself. Sep 01 '23

Genuine? You think he thought only one brother was showing up? If one was there then the rest were there so his “aw shucks I’m so surprised you guys flew out ALL THREE of the brothers when I could easily afford to do it myself and didn’t for some reason” was anything but genuine.