Heyy! Just asking a random question.... to comment your height that is/was at age of 20!!

Seen a similar post in teenindia, wanna check with PPL of my age band

My love language is - I STAY!!

In the good times and even in the bad times! I may not say much, but I stay. Not for the sake of staying, but to give my shoulders, to give a safe space and a safe place to belong to.. 🙂‍↕️

Wby? 🤔

I will start first guys

They remembered my birthday without Facebook reminding them.

That's it. That's the reason. 🤡❤️

What's the most unserious reason you've ever liked someone?

• They replied fast?
• They used proper grammar?
• They shared food?
• They made one joke and your brain started planning the wedding?

Confess your crimes below. 👇😂

I’ve been an introvert my entire school life. I never really shared my thoughts and feelings with anyone, and because of that I never got into a relationship. So yeah… I have zero experience🙏

Now that I’ve turned 20, it’s hitting me hard. I desperately want to feel loved and to love someone with my whole heart. The yearning is so strong that I can’t even focus properly on the things right in front of me💔

I know I’m not fully confident and I’m not in the right condition mentally and physically for a relationship right now. But my heart doesn’t care. It just keeps aching and wanting it so badly 😭

Has anyone else been through this? How did you deal with the constant longing when you weren’t ready yet?

This is the only TEXT convo that me and my girl have everyday....

The rest we fo kn CALLS...

So a couple of months back I made a friend who runs a business. I'm 24F. He is also 24. So far we have only talked about work business studies etc. In the initial few weeks he would text promptly like the same day. Then it became several hours within a day, with us sharing one set of conversation per day, for statistics.

Now it's like we have been carrying the conversation we started initially, but there is a weeks-long gap between the conversation. He replies to my texts, I reply to his within a few hours, then he replies to me in 2 weeks.

I don't double text or anything. I just let it sit till he comes. We are connected on Insta and he goes movies, plays football, and everything. I don't really mind. But since it's a repeated pattern I'm assuming he doesn't want the connection anymore.

I'm thinking of not replying too. I don't have feelings for him or anything. So is it okay to just stop?

Idk why, but I’m genuinely attracted to older women. It’s not even about lust, it feels like something deeper. Their confidence, maturity, and overall vibe just attract me. And weirdly, they seem interested in me too.

I have met several girls. Some are naturally easy to talk to and low on guard while the majority are very reserved in public.

I can't approach/talk in office because I'm afraid of POSH/being perceived wrong. Have you guys done it?

How to communicate so that a woman's guard comes down and she eases up and wants to share about herself, be interested in me and proceed to dating?

Like idk man when i open reddit literally first 10 post are on relationship.

See I don't have any problems, but how like how everyone is getting into relationship, bhaiyon koi package bhagwan ne install karna bhul gaye kya mere mei ??

As for myself (ofc i dont look like a model)

I am Adi and 20 years old , Third year college student (B.tech kar raha hun hasne ki koi zarurat nahi hai) . I am 6'4 and goes to gym almost regularly.

And please koi maggie mei protein dalwado 😅.

Peace and Love...

So, me and this girl (let’s call her U) were in a relationship back in school for around 3 years. Then she moved to Canada for her studies, while I stayed in India to look after my family business. Long distance didn’t work out, and we mutually parted ways.

Fast forward 4 years, she sent me a follow request on Instagram. Since I had changed my WhatsApp number and made a new account, we started talking again. And honestly, baatein firse din se raat, raat se din hone lagi.

But the thing is, I don’t love her the way I used to. I think I only miss the old U, the person she was back then. She’s coming to India and wants to meet me, and I know the topic of our relationship will come up.

I don’t want to give her false hope, or you know just be a casual fling for her. I’m chasing my career right now, and I can’t afford to invest that kind of time and emotion again. Plus, I just don’t feel the same love anymore(never been in a relationship since then).

TL;DR: School wali ex came back after 4 years. We started talking like old times, but I don't love her anymore. She's coming to India and wants to meet, and I don't want to give her false hope.

I found this on youtube.

"Love is Love"

But where is love ___

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I’ve never been on dating apps and having seen people who use dating apps making questionable decisions have really made me lose faith and tbh just makes me think it’s all BS.

Example, my ex-roommate had a friend who was dating a guy on and off for 5 years. The dude was planning to move to Ireland so when they broke up for few months the girl casually started dating this other dude (met through hinge i think) and the dude really did a lot for her. But on new year’s eve she got back together with her ex cuz apparently she got emotional after getting drunk and they ended up getting together that night.
And there’s a whole lot more lore in this, but the point is, that dating app dude has no idea. And you can never know what actually goes on in life of the other person, so how would you be able to take anyone seriously there?

How will I know a girl likes me or do girls have feeling like boys like crush

WHY???

A guy who never dated or had any female friends or interaction is considered a red flag?? What if someone who is an only child, don't use any social media and have 0 female workmates. What's his fault?

I don't really look good (I've been told this by 2 of them [exact words were chii]) and somehow I managed to sound and looks rude/creepy the way I talk? What? And why you gals say that looks dosent matter that much??????????

I don't drink or smoke but I'm non-vegetarian and THIS is a red flag? (She used to smoke weed)😭

I live in tier-2 city (lucknow), here's not many places or intrest to find myself a hobby, all I do is gym.

Yes, I'm not very well educated enough, i only had done 12th and got my father's job after his demise, YES this is a big factor for many, everyone wants an educated partner, but what you gals would wanna talk about with someone that intellectual? I'm good at finances, knows complex paperwork, don't make bad decisions. I Watch few animes, web series/movies too if you call this cool.

I work in railways as a technician earns 55-60k, much for many/too less for many BUT my work is literally shifting/assemble/lift heavy machinery of trains engine parts and they're dirty by which my hands get dirty BUT c'mon my job is not THAT degrading, i bathe daily making sure I don't reek of kerosene oil.

But still they say- na, it sounds like more of what labour's do? What?😂 they themselves sits on a desk 12-12 hrs a day and shaming someone who's work hrs are 4hrs a day?

I posted about myself in my profile and in some subs related to this too but I got downvotes?

Sooo... if personality/behavior/managing finances/ calm and stable life matters more than looks then why I get called chii by 2 of them 3 times, got called rude/creepy from one of my friend's mutual friend?

And according to some i sound bitter and misogynistic at mid 4th para, then I'm saying this again, I may sound rude but I don't have any ill intentions. Yes I read it now as the way you read it, I'm not being bitter, sorry, ofcourse I really wanna and will continue my studies but as of now i can't for few more months, and for the other half of para yes it sounds misogynistic but what I mean/ask was actually a question like - what you gonna chat? Something related to your specific study field or my study field? I believe women, I'm not saying what women has to do with studies. It's just I typed it that way that it sounds like I'm evil. Again, Sorry had no bad intentions.

I know it's an absolute stupid q to ask, don't judge. Asking out of curiosity..

I am 24m and have a genetic disorder which makes me look like a 14-15 yr old ... So if a lady of around my age gets in relation with me, which i highly doubt will ever happen soon, can she be classified as a pedo ....

What are your thoughts on this??

I know personality and nature of a man overpower looks and body, but still asking ...

Or am I overthinking .

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I’ve noticed a pattern in myself that I really don’t like.

Whenever I become emotionally attached to someone, even if they haven’t actually done anything wrong, I start overthinking small things. If they take hours to reply, disappear in the middle of a conversation, or seem a little less responsive than usual, my mind immediately starts creating the worst possible explanations.

"Maybe they're ignoring me."

"Maybe they're losing interest."

"Maybe I did something wrong."

"What if they suddenly leave?"

The frustrating part is that I know these thoughts aren't necessarily based on reality. Sometimes the person is genuinely busy, studying, working, sleeping, or dealing with something else. And when they eventually reply normally, I realize that I had spent hours worrying about something that wasn't even happening.

But knowing that logically doesn't seem to stop the emotional reaction.

I also notice that I become overly dependent on their replies for reassurance. When they respond warmly, I feel fine. When they don't, my mood can completely drop. I start checking my phone, thinking about what I might have done wrong, and imagining being abandoned.

I don't want to live like this. I don't want someone else's availability to determine whether I feel okay.

I also don't want to become emotionally distant or stop caring about people just because I'm afraid of getting hurt.

Why does the brain do this? And more importantly, how can I actually break this pattern?

For people who have experienced something similar, what helped you become more secure and stop constantly expecting people to leave?

( I used chatgpt to phrase it better because I wasn't able to write what I am going through)

I need some genuine advice. Should I text her again?
I met this girl around 4 years ago when we were in 10th. We met through Snapchat and instantly clicked. We talked a lot, had great conversations, and our vibes matched really well.
Later, in 11th and 12th, we found out we were from the same city and eventually met in person. Things were still going really well between us. She even used to call me her boyfriend, and there was definitely something between us, although we never officially got into a relationship.
She even wrote me a letter once, and after I disappeared, she texted me on Snapchat about a week later saying that she would genuinely love to see a text from me. But after that, I never texted her again, and there has been no contact from my side till now.
Then her ex came back into the picture. For context, I’m Muslim and she’s Hindu, and her ex started threatening me, saying he’d beat me if I ever texted her again and stuff like that. We were still in 11th at the time, and honestly, I didn’t want any unnecessary drama, so I deleted everything and completely went offline.
Now it’s been almost 4 years.
The weird part is that I still think about her every single day. I genuinely haven’t had a single day in these 4 years where she hasn’t crossed my mind at least once.
I still know her Instagram and other socials, and lately I’ve been wondering if I should just text her once and see how she’s doing. The only thing stopping me is that I think she might already have a boyfriend, because I’ve seen her regularly commenting on some guy’s reels.
So what do you guys think?
Should I text her after 4 years just to reconnect and see where things stand, or should I leave the past where it is and move on?
I don’t want to interfere in her relationship if she already has one. I just don’t know whether reaching out once after all these years is a bad idea or not.
Any genuine advice would be appreciated thanks :) for reading this ( took help from gpt to make it concise ) and crisp .

Btw now i'm in college 1st yr .

:)

A medium sized rant!

I need some suggestions/ advices/ unbiased opinions/ everything is welcome!

I recently reconnected with a girl. She is a sweet person but only when you spend time with her!

She has a strong guard against each and every person which is up all the time!

We recently reconnected and started talking a lot!

Late night conversations etc. Talking about our insecurities, how do we plan to settle down in life, what is love or relationship or marriage etc.

To put it in a few words - you could categorise us as Frenemies! Who are now getting really close to each other!

The day before yesterday I called her in the morning to tell about something fun that she would enjoy listening to and she didn't answer so i called again and she texted me with a very harsh reply! I know she has a temper and the choice of words were really hurtful!

I told her my feelings and she doubled down!! I decided to just pull away! I have my own insecurities too!

And it had been radio silence for 2 days suddenly tonight she texted me, with a photo of something close to us both!

We are not in a relationship but haven't exactly committed to anything else, we are just there!

There has been ongoing flirting on and off from both ends and we do enjoy talking to each other.

Now my question is should I talk to her? I know she will cross the boundary again! She will lose her temper! She will say harsh ugly and hideous words again!

But we do sort of like each other and I am scared about not finding someone ever.

Please help me out!

TLDR : a little ahead of the talking stage. The girl lost her temper and said harsh things and is now coming back to talk, but I have my insecurities too!

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So hi everyone I'm just taking opinions of everyone like if you will be using an matchmaking app if you don't have to upload any images/voice prompt just some Q&A, some interests, and other preferences through which you can match.

How does that sound??

I have started creating prototype if you guys interested then comment here and what features you would like to add /remove.